Soulmate Or Twin Flame?
By Tonya Somers




If you have met your twin flame there will no drama - none. If you have met your soul mate, there always will be issues.

If you have met someone and either of you are married at the time then they are NOT your twin flame, they are NOT the love of your life.

Soul Mates

The term, ”Soul Mate,” is very commonly misunderstood and mis-used. Sometimes a soul mate is a very loving partner but in most cases, they should come with huge warning labels on the forehead, read below for more explanations, yes you want your twin flame, or at least someone that you have NO past lives or unfinished karma with.

A twin flame comes into your life with a truly clean slate, ready for you and no drama at all. Please keep reading and feel free to pass this page to your friends and loved ones in tough relationships.

Soul Mates
The term, ”Soul Mate,” is very commonly misunderstood and misused. This is because the "900 number" commercials use the term soul mate frequently and incorrectly, confusing it with the term "Twin Flame". The "900 lines" would lead you to believe that you have found your one true other half (Twin Flame) when, in reality, you have found only ONE of your many SOUL MATES. Sometimes a soul mate is a very loving partner but in most cases, they should come with huge warning labels on the forehead:

TURN AROUND, RUN NOW, MEGA LIFE CHANGING DANGER APPROACHING!
HEAD GAMES, LIAR, CHEATER, ADDICT, CRAZY MAKER APPROACHING!

Soul mates come into our lives to teach us lessons. These lesson givers quite often come into our lives as alcoholics, abusers, gamblers, addicts, cheaters, once a cheater always a cheater, have depression issues, had a dysfunctional childhood, a drama queen or king, sex-addicts, bosses, emotionally unavailable or your best friend's mate. I know this sounds like half the population, but beware of the true nature of the soul mate. There is always an issue to deal with from a past life or unfinished soul mate business.
Are you about to become caught up in the constant chaos they can and will bring into your life? Will your soul-mate become your addiction?
Before you step into this mess that you may wish later you could just scrape off your shoes, ask yourself, would you fix this person up with your best friend or even a stranger?
If not, why would you date them yourself? There is always a messy complication but with a huge amount of electricity and chemistry/pull to keep you in the game.
PAY ATTENTION TO ALL RED FLAGS! THEY ARE VALID WARNINGS.
That's our own intuition talking to us. Unfortunately with a soul mate, often times we choose to ignore all the warning signs. Often we don’t even like this person when we first meet them, but we allow this lesson into our lives anyway. Yes, it makes us stronger and hopefully we learn not to repeat the same relationship mistakes, but the Universe will continue to bring us these soul mate lessons until we learn.
The truth is, a soul mate will always come into your life with major KARMA for you to deal with. The good news is you don’t have to play. You can choose to not engage in the lesson (hopefully, because you've already learned it). If you choose to stay and play, be sure to hang on (mostly to your sanity), because this is when the roller coaster ride starts and all the games begin!
Every relationship is a mirror that helps us to learn more about ourselves. They are the most challenging and the most rewarding aspects of life. The more intimate the relationship the greater the opportunity for growth we are given. If an issue or person has an emotional “charge” to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the issues you have not yet finished in your life. These are the things that we are the most blind to. Hence, beware of the soul mate. I know I sound repetitive but someone has to tell you!
Self-understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors -- not to ‘fix’ the other person, but to look at yourself and learn. The primary reason for most soul mate relationships is so you can work on your spiritual self and your karma! So with that said, the more you clear up issues for yourself and the more YOU ARE the ‘right’ person; the sooner you will attract the twin flame you are looking for.
Soul mates share a common mission and comparable stage of spiritual development. They come together because they are working on the same type of karma and the same chakra simultaneously. Soul mates have an attraction that is based on the sacred labor and on the path of self-mastery on your personal spiritual path.
In a soul mate relationship there is always a connection between you from prior lives. Keep in mind that you can have as many as 3000 soul mates in one life time. You have not been happily married to each of them but in some cases you have killed each other or you may have been each other's parents, siblings or battling next-door neighbors.
Quite often in readings, I see a similar pattern for many couples. For example, when a couple is experiencing a horrible sex life, it is often because they were siblings in a past life and therefore the intimate relationship in their current life feels wrong. Another common pattern is marrying someone who was our parent in a past life, which provides an opportunity to work out whatever unresolved lessons you might have from the past. In many cases issues are reversed from lifetime to lifetime so that we might learn how the other person felt.
Whenever you consider breaking up with a soul mate, it seems A GIANT MAGNET appears in the sky making you both run into each other in the strangest of places. Soul mates can feel you come in the door when you come home or know when you're in a crowded place. A soul mate can project his/her thoughts onto you so it becomes unclear if you are thinking of them or they are projecting their thoughts on you so that you can’t tell if they are thinking of you, or you are missing them. It takes a lot to break free from a soul mate, often times you'll break up 6 to 20 times.
A word of warning if you choose to marry one of your soul mates: Do NOT COMPLAIN constantly to your friends and family about your relationship. They won't understand that you've chosen each other as a contract of lessons and you'll only make the other people in your life despise your spouse.
Twin Flames
Twin flames are ourselves in another body. When we have reached the stage where we are capable of giving unconditional love, we then have the opportunity to reconnect with our “other half” or twin flame. The chances are that we meet our twin flame briefly in many lifetimes, but one or both of us are not ready for the intensity of this connection. When both halves of the whole are ready to come back together and meet they will discover that in their lifetime they have lead almost parallel lives.
The events of their lives will mirror each other almost exactly. They may have come from very similar families and family dynamics. They may have had similar schooling or lack thereof. They may have crossed paths socially or lived close by to each other and never known it. They may have almost identical careers. They may even have previous marriages and divorces within weeks of each other. When twin flames get to know each other, they will feel as if the other is reading their life script. That isn't to say they are identical people, but they are perfectly complimentary to each other.
When twin flames meet for the first time in a physical life, they recognize themselves in the other person. This will come as a deep surprise to both, but the recognition is immediate. At the same time you will feel that you have always known this person who is sitting in front of you. It is a feeling of home-coming, because you recognize your other self and feel very much that you have come home when you are with your spiritual twin flame counterpart. Be aware that soul mates also have a strong recognition pattern, only there will be that little voice in your head that knows the difference.
When twin flames come together they become one, they are not like each other but they are the mirror image of the other. They think alike, they hold the same values and often their life experiences are very similar. Twin flames do not teach each other, they learn together and help each other learn the lessons that have been set before them in this lifetime. When twin flames come together they join forces and are capable of overcoming obstacles the average mortal could not begin to face. They are so filled with unconditional love they literally glow with it and have much to share with others. They are the inspiration that poets write about and singers sing about.
Once in awhile, yes I have seen twin flames come together and not make it work, this is only because you have chosen different life lessons this time around and you do not fit as lovers, but you always be best freinds.
Fortunately, you also have me to help you determine the difference. When you are ready to break your unhealthy patterns of attracting unhealthy soul mates, I have many tools to help you set you free. I can help you attract your twin flame or at the very least, someone you have no karma with so that you can go into a relationship with a clean slate.
There can be a happy medium in love
No one is perfect and not one person can make us totally happy, we need to make ourselves happy first. Love needs to be a bonus, a plus not a negative.
The first year of any relationship you are building the foundation, see your buddies and keep your hobbies this will build a healthy long lasting love life together. Eventually the beginning of love wears off and we all miss our buddies and time alone, never stop seeing them then later you can avoid the questions, why now? When you want to start seeing your friends again, why now, what is wrong with us now?
Are you ready to jump off that drama trauma train?
As always, when you meet someone, ask them for their birthday and then call me.
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This is pretty short after that.. but a soul mate anytime. Chaos and unpredictable... not always a bad thing. Spice in a life keeps us wanting that quenching drink. Keep the pitcher full

can't out-run Karma ... it still has to be resolved somehow ...

Out of the mouths of babes Karma is an easy out babe, We make our lives by the choices and decisions we encounter on the way. What we do and act on in our ordinary day to day lives shows the true worth of our short lives.