I would not advise having someone else pose as a young boy or anything. Her parents can give you permission to do that or you can show them how to do it. However, for someone out of the family to do it, there could be legal repurcussions against the person doing it, even if nothing but good was intended.

My niece is now 16. She was just allowed to use the pc at home to talk to her friends.

She invited me to be on her friends list and I can read all her blogs. She has gone wild. She posts fantasy and reality not to mention her wanting to be noticed by boys as a sexy and voluptious young lady. She is quite pretty. But, she is immature. Wise in many ways but absolutely silly and being a little stupid.

She is coming off sounding a little slutty and in a relationship but, looking for a "relationship, marriage boyfriend" catagory".
She whines and tells stories and of course truths.

I am worried for her and mail her privately asking her to be careful and use her head. Telling her if the predators that may find her and take advantage of that.

Well, she has blocked me from her blog.

I have told her I am not telling anyone about what I read.
I am worried now what it is she is hiding.
Should I warn her parents or speak to her myself and ask to be allowed back on?
I do not post in her blog nor do I comment in public. I always take it to private mail.

Kat

for one, I think you're highly over reacting. So she has that she's bi, big deal. She could be and it's not going to cause her any harm. So her friends have "slutty" pictures, does she? She isn't her friends. Just because they might have those types of pictures it doesn't mean she does. She wants some privacy with what she writes about, that's no big deal. She's 16 and needs privacy. There's some things that she needs to write about and doesn't want family to see, I'm 20 and I block some of my stuff from my sister that's on my page cause it's about family issues and me being annoyed at home or whatever. She should have her space to write where she can with however she feels. Her actual layout and graphics is what you need to look at because that will tell a lot about a person. Does she have weed graphics or things about drugs or sex? If not, then don't worry. Maybe she set her profile to private so only people on her friend list can see and she probably took you off so that's ok too because now no one can see what's on it unless they're on her list. And Myspace automatically sets profiles of those under 18 to private.

it's bad to just go around assuming things, her parents should know more about it then you since you're not in the home. Give her some respect and independence. Has she ever been a bad kid before? It's normal for her to get curious about boys and sex and as long as her parents talk to her and give her the ends and outs of it all the she'll be fine.

I get you all too well. She is 16, therefore under her parents roof and obligations. The deal was to allow me in her space to watch out for her. I do not go in all the time. I only hit it once a week or so. I then write her in private to hope she corrects things.

As for pics?? She better not have bad pics on there. She will lose her privaledges soooo fast it will make her head spin. As for her friends pics...that is up to her parents ideals. I assure you they will not allow her friends that do that. They are very protective. This is the fiirst time she has had pc privaledges. Unless she was here (my house). I would let her use it here and not watch her.

The Bi thing? Well I never made a big deal of that. She came to me with that before her parents. She calls me for help and understanding. I just think she needs to be a little more selective with that info right now. She is very young and vulnerable. This is not info that others reading should have info on. I am talking about those that she is unaware of.

Now---the age thing?? She has admitted to me that she said shewas 18 because it wouldn't let her make a profile.

As for it automatically blocking me...no. I am now back in there. I can view whatever. She apologized for it. Her friends had something to do with that.

Anyway...thanks all. We are back on track for now.

By the way...I did contact her mom and ask that she relay the message to my niece. She was going to immediately have her take it down, and I asked her not too. To give a chance to talk to her and give her some room to grow. I am a good Aunt kids. I am here to look out for her and see that we know who. what and where she is going with this. She is not savvy about guys and the dangers.

Soooooo....I WILL STAY IN HER MY SPACE ACCOUNT TIL I DEEM IT SAFER FOR HER TO BE THERE!! As she grows in her wisdom she will be allowed more privacy.

Kat

Hi me lady. Thank you.

Kat

your welcome.hope your sister is doing better..

She hasn't had her second surgery yet. The job fired her til she can have her second one then get released to come back within 90 days!?? F'd up. She is going to have to get cobra in order to get the second surgery,. Her Dr says she cannot wait. Hope it happens yesterday.
Thank you sweetie for asking.
Kat

dont you just love companies?i'll say a prayer for her and you. please keep me updated.

i know the feeling.my neice has a myspace page and i added her so i can monitor what she says,who she adds to her friends lists...etc.


i've seen her post some bulletins that had me concerned and i asked her about it and she said her friends posted it under her name while they were at her house.i told her "you better start looking for some new friends!".


she won't tell me about any of the boys she likes because i told her "if i find out who they are and it goes farther than just a crush between you 2,well i'm going to crush his kneecaps!"and i was serious when i said it.