Topic: how long do you wait?
QwicherBytchin's photo
Mon 02/11/08 07:50 PM

Irishgirl what does your gut say? If it says call then you call. If it says wait then you wait. While you make a decision don't forget to get the joke of the day from me. If you like it add me as a friend!

This message goes for everyone!

Cheersdrinker


WTF, are you getting paid for every friend you have? You invited me as a friend and I have no idea who you are...nor do I care to.

hikerchick's photo
Mon 02/11/08 07:55 PM

i do have to say, though, that this is the disappointment that i experience from this site. . . and in life in general...
why does there have to be a certain time we wait to call someone if we just want to talk to them?

i guess i just really don't like games.
go with your gut.


I agree. I never learned all those games, but I watch and hear other people and it amazes me. Like, where did they learn the rules? Why dont' they trust their own instincts? If you want to talk to a person, I think you should call them as soon as you realize that you have something to say. Why is this not the norm?

gurlgmr's photo
Mon 02/11/08 07:59 PM


i do have to say, though, that this is the disappointment that i experience from this site. . . and in life in general...
why does there have to be a certain time we wait to call someone if we just want to talk to them?

i guess i just really don't like games.
go with your gut.


I agree. I never learned all those games, but I watch and hear other people and it amazes me. Like, where did they learn the rules? Why dont' they trust their own instincts? If you want to talk to a person, I think you should call them as soon as you realize that you have something to say. Why is this not the norm?


EXACTLY!

hikerchick's photo
Mon 02/11/08 08:00 PM
Thanks gulrgmr - I was starting to think I was the only one who didn't get itflowerforyou

Irishflower's photo
Mon 02/11/08 10:31 PM
Thanks for the tips...I know people say wait a couple days...i wouldnt mind calling him tomorrow...but ill just wait til wed...mid week sounds good to me...lol

justplaingerald's photo
Wed 02/13/08 09:11 AM

Thanks for the tips...I know people say wait a couple days...i wouldnt mind calling him tomorrow...but ill just wait til wed...mid week sounds good to me...lol
The 4 day rule is a good indicator, although it can make us guys think your not interested. I'd call the guy up and say Hey Let's do something...I love when a lady interest calls me, but then again some are old fashioned and don't call so it's up to me. But rememeber if he doesn't respond to not bug him, just let him know your interested and leave it at that. Hope you get your chance again...drinker

Monosyllabic♥Girl's photo
Wed 02/13/08 12:10 PM

I met a guy at the bar this weekend and I'm the type of person that doesnt mind calling the guy first. We hung out Sat nite and he wants to hang out again...so how long do I wait to call him?


I always wait for the guy to call me:wink:

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 02/13/08 12:20 PM

I met a guy at the bar this weekend and I'm the type of person that doesnt mind calling the guy first. We hung out Sat nite and he wants to hang out again...so how long do I wait to call him?


no answer on this one .. I never call a guy after a first meet

but good luck hon flowerforyou

texasrose9's photo
Thu 02/14/08 08:48 AM
If he's really interested in you, HE will contact YOU.

no photo
Thu 02/14/08 08:58 AM
I guess it all depends what you want to call him for. If its going to be just a physical thing call while the initial zing is still there, and let it run its course till the excitement fades away.
Think there might be something more to it? Call anyways and see what happens.
Forget the gender limitations, want to call a guy, go ahead, I understand they like that too....
good luck
flowerforyou

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/14/08 08:59 AM


the four day rule


wtf? what is this!?


i still wanna know about the rules...what rules? it's instinct..and instinct only

soxfan94's photo
Thu 02/14/08 09:16 AM



the four day rule


wtf? what is this!?


i still wanna know about the rules...what rules? it's instinct..and instinct only


http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathedoes/0,,askmen_8gdl4n2s,00.html

That's the closest I could find to the "rules" that guys use. It's premised on the fact that guys 1) aren't good at meeting women, 2) aren't good at maintaining a relationship with the women they do meet, and 3) are too lazy to individualize their approaches according to how they feel about any particular girl.

As a result, they created an arbitrary set of rules, and many of them follow these rules religiously. I use "they" and "them", because I think these rules are ridiculously arbitrary and rigid.

Lily0923's photo
Thu 02/14/08 09:22 AM




the four day rule


wtf? what is this!?


i still wanna know about the rules...what rules? it's instinct..and instinct only


http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathedoes/0,,askmen_8gdl4n2s,00.html

That's the closest I could find to the "rules" that guys use. It's premised on the fact that guys 1) aren't good at meeting women, 2) aren't good at maintaining a relationship with the women they do meet, and 3) are too lazy to individualize their approaches according to how they feel about any particular girl.

As a result, they created an arbitrary set of rules, and many of them follow these rules religiously. I use "they" and "them", because I think these rules are ridiculously arbitrary and rigid.


You wanna know the funny part...If a guy waits 3 days.... I don't answer or call back.... his loss.... don't play games with women.... that should be the rules first and foremost.

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/14/08 05:18 PM





the four day rule


wtf? what is this!?


i still wanna know about the rules...what rules? it's instinct..and instinct only


http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathedoes/0,,askmen_8gdl4n2s,00.html

That's the closest I could find to the "rules" that guys use. It's premised on the fact that guys 1) aren't good at meeting women, 2) aren't good at maintaining a relationship with the women they do meet, and 3) are too lazy to individualize their approaches according to how they feel about any particular girl.

As a result, they created an arbitrary set of rules, and many of them follow these rules religiously. I use "they" and "them", because I think these rules are ridiculously arbitrary and rigid.


You wanna know the funny part...If a guy waits 3 days.... I don't answer or call back.... his loss.... don't play games with women.... that should be the rules first and foremost.


i second, third, and fouth ya lily :D

Lily0923's photo
Thu 02/14/08 06:26 PM


i second, third, and fouth ya lily :D


That's cuz your a sexy hot mama...and you don't have to play the games of little boys.... drinker love ya babe..... happy VD.... I mean Valentines Day...not venerial disease.....:heart:

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/14/08 06:29 PM



i second, third, and fouth ya lily :D


That's cuz your a sexy hot mama...and you don't have to play the games of little boys.... drinker love ya babe..... happy VD.... I mean Valentines Day...not venerial disease.....:heart:


lmao i swear you're my faternal twin lily

luv ya girl..and happy VD to you too :P

SharpShooter10's photo
Fri 02/15/08 05:04 AM
laugh Just call, all these crazy lame so call "rules" are just driving me bananasgrumble grumble grumble grumble

SharpShooter10's photo
Fri 02/15/08 05:16 AM



the four day rule


wtf? what is this!?


i still wanna know about the rules...what rules? it's instinct..and instinct only
flowerforyou drinker i totally agree ellgee, who wrote these "rules" and why the hell do "we" have to follow em. Rules, rules everywhere the "rules" cant do this, dont do that, Guys if you like em CALL EM, Ladies, If u like em CALL EM
grumble grumble grumble Now, Group Hugs, or is that against another darn "rule" laugh laugh laugh indifferent

SharpShooter10's photo
Fri 02/15/08 05:19 AM

If he's really interested in you, HE will contact YOU.
:angry: another "rule" geez, who writes these thingsgrumble

SharpShooter10's photo
Fri 02/15/08 05:22 AM
Edited by SharpShooter10 on Fri 02/15/08 05:23 AM





the four day rule


wtf? what is this!?


i still wanna know about the rules...what rules? it's instinct..and instinct only
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathedoes/0,,askmen_8gdl4n2s,00.html

That's the closest I could find to the "rules" that guys use. It's premised on the fact that guys 1) aren't good at meeting women, 2) aren't good at maintaining a relationship with the women they do meet, and 3) are too lazy to individualize their approaches according to how they feel about any particular girl.

As a result, they created an arbitrary set of rules, and many of them follow these rules religiously. I use "they" and "them", because I think these rules are ridiculously arbitrary and rigid.


You wanna know the funny part...If a guy waits 3 days.... I don't answer or call back.... his loss.... don't play games with women.... that should be the rules first and foremost.
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