My husband and I broke up over an affair that he had 17 yrs. ago. Did I mention it was with his 1st cousin. No I am not kidding. When he was a teenager he hooked up with a girl and they started to date. It wasn't until later that they found out they were 1st BLOOD cousins. They continued to sleep together and parted ways after she conceived a daughter. The story goes he knew about the kid, but didn't want to pay child support; plus they didn't want her father to know. Now after being with my husband for almost 10 yrs. the mother (cousin) shows up with a 16 yr. old saying, "This is your daughter." I took that well, as well as could be expected, until he started spending all his waking minutes thinking about her and wanting to talk to her. There was no reason for him to leave his wife in our bedroom while he talked to his new teenager until 3 or 4 am.
in a nut shell we had a arguement about things and the next day he decides to end our relationship. Also did I mention I have helped in the raising of his other 2 kids, plus have a 4 yr. old of our own. Now he spends all his time with his new daughter, plus her mother (that he is more than likely still in love with) and her other two kids in my house. I was kicked to the curb so he could start a new family. How crappy is that???
The crazier part about things is that he isn't going to give me any support, as if I am the one who wanted to break this off. When we got married 5 yrs. ago it was for better or worse, I guess they didn't think about putting incest behavior or babies' mama in the vows. It got bad for him and he wanted out. It is his lose. What would u do in a situation like this?? Stay because u love him so much and u think u can over look the fact that our lives will never be the same, or give up on our marriage, start again??? What do u think???

This is pretty sad. I am sorry this happened to you. If this was me...I would see if there is anyway to save the marriage. I would let him spend time with his daughter and such. But if he starts to have a change of heart about the relationship he is in now, and you have done all you can to save the marriage, I'd let him go. What's the use of trying to save a marriage if the ship has already left the dock? It would be sad for this to happen.

Sweety... you are better off.

I think he did you a huge favor.

Find you a real man.

Good luck.

get as far away from that as possible! :)

my father gave me tough advice but it was true..." do not be a quitter but do be smart, do not beat a dead horse, get off the s.o.b. and look him in the face and if its dead take off walking..fast...........also told me i deserved better than an emotional cripple, that hurt...but i was with an emotional cripple. you are going to hurt but even when your heart is breaking it will not stop..its your life,walk fast.

Unfortunatly, sometimes love hurts. If you think you are willing to go on with this man, he will probably hurt you again, so step aside! There will be someone out there that deserves the love you have to give, and not step all over you. I say, walk on and TALL! Not only for you, but for your child also!

wow. that's a lot to take in. how did he not know who his first cousin was, and why did he keep "dating" after he found out? i just don't get it.

you have to know where to draw the line, second cousins.

Get a good divorce lawyer. I did and I got almost everything I wanted. SC doesn't look well upon a man who impregnates his 1st cousin. You should get a good amount fot your mutual child and maybe for his children if they are under 18 or still in school. Then he has to support them until they get their degree or turn 26. Plus he will probably get a decent spousel support check. What he did is wrong, especially in the eyes of the law. It's against the law to sleep,yet impregnate anyone before 3rd cousins. He might even do some time for this. You are the innocent party. Fight for what's best for you and your children. God Bless, Georgia

It doesn't have to be just in the South it happens all over the world so in other words it's not a southern thang not being a smart *** at all just saying it's everywhere ( Thank god I was born in the South) wouldn't have it any other way