Topic: signs
saefcnysn's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:37 AM
So I have been played a few times in my life to say the least. Because of that I am very cautious when it comes to dating people. Does anyone have for sure signs that a guy is truely interested? I just started to date a guy and we have only gone out twice but we talk online almost every night...and I am really starting to like him and want to make sure I am not going to get played again. And yes I do know that I have to just open up even if it risks getting hurt. So if anyone knows sure signs that he really likes me to I'd would love to them! thanks!

lissa_327's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:40 AM
I dont think there are any sure signs as everyone is different. But, I can offer you this advice......

Always listen to your head! Not your heart, and always watch for RED flags.

Good luck!

Gumbyvs's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:40 AM
You never know for sure, until you see signs that something is not right. I usually preach the, Trust until something looks/sounds fishy. So be careful, but don't be too careful. Remember, love is a screwed up thing that can't be explained, it just is and that's why its so f'ed up.

saefcnysn's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:42 AM
Well I try and follow my head but because of my past with guys my head tells me not to trust a single one. So with that I am pretty screwed lol

Gumbyvs's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:43 AM

Well I try and follow my head but because of my past with guys my head tells me not to trust a single one. So with that I am pretty screwed lol


Not everyone is out to mess with you, just 85% or so of em. Once you date more and more and see the red flags, you'll know more of what you don't need. Its a process of hit and miss, but with love, you miss more often than hit.

zman000081's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:51 AM
All I can say is that there are no 100% for sure signs to this. I can say that there are clues to what his intentions are. Just look for the little things and put the peices together.

saefcnysn's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:53 AM
yea but what are those little things? man im so bad at dating! lol

willywonka0675's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:53 AM
Talk every night, does he call you or do you call him?
How long do you talk? Without details, what are teh basic subjects, or is it just about everything?

ddanster's photo
Fri 02/01/08 09:57 AM

So I have been played a few times in my life to say the least. Because of that I am very cautious when it comes to dating people. Does anyone have for sure signs that a guy is truely interested? I just started to date a guy and we have only gone out twice but we talk online almost every night...and I am really starting to like him and want to make sure I am not going to get played again. And yes I do know that I have to just open up even if it risks getting hurt. So if anyone knows sure signs that he really likes me to I'd would love to them! thanks!


Well if you hear from him often from online and on the phone he is definitly interested. If its you doing all of the contacting (phone calls, emails) though that could be a red flag.

zman000081's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:00 AM
Little things. hmmmm
Well with only a few dates under your belt what you need to do is see him a little more. Talk is great yet actions can speak louder then the words. I can type anything up and tell you exactly what you want to hear. Scary yes I am aware I am downing my self here. laugh But at least I will warn ya. Am I that way no but then again just my words. I see ya might get my point by now.

When you 2 are together does he look at you and see you. Or is he seeing you as something else? And So on....

saefcnysn's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:01 AM
well usually he is the one to do the contacting when we are online. we actually havent talked on the phone. just texting here and there to say hi if one of us isnt going to be on the internet that night or whatever. or say at the end of our date since they always seem to end and ungodly hours to make sure that the other knows we got home safe. and when we talk online we talk about everything. there isnt just one thing we talk about. but there are times when he is talking to me he doesnt say much at bc he is working. but i dont think that is a big deal. i mean he is working full time, going to school to get his masters and starting his own company with a friend so i know he is constantly busy with work.

zman000081's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:06 AM

well usually he is the one to do the contacting when we are online. we actually havent talked on the phone. just texting here and there to say hi if one of us isnt going to be on the internet that night or whatever. or say at the end of our date since they always seem to end and ungodly hours to make sure that the other knows we got home safe. and when we talk online we talk about everything. there isnt just one thing we talk about. but there are times when he is talking to me he doesnt say much at bc he is working. but i dont think that is a big deal. i mean he is working full time, going to school to get his masters and starting his own company with a friend so i know he is constantly busy with work.



Well it appears he has alot of things going for himself. Now is this what is said or is it fact.

ddanster's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:08 AM

well usually he is the one to do the contacting when we are online. we actually havent talked on the phone. just texting here and there to say hi if one of us isnt going to be on the internet that night or whatever. or say at the end of our date since they always seem to end and ungodly hours to make sure that the other knows we got home safe. and when we talk online we talk about everything. there isnt just one thing we talk about. but there are times when he is talking to me he doesnt say much at bc he is working. but i dont think that is a big deal. i mean he is working full time, going to school to get his masters and starting his own company with a friend so i know he is constantly busy with work.


Busy individual, but if he is interested he will always make time to contact ya

saefcnysn's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:11 AM
all of what he is doing is truth. thanks for all of your help!

willywonka0675's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:13 AM
I agree, he seems interested, if he is making time with that busy of a schedule, than he sees something he is interestedin. He sounds like a goal oriented individual. I'd say he deserves the chance becuase he sounds like a good guy. But in the end, you have to listen to what you feel in both your head & your heart.

zman000081's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:15 AM
With that said, he will make room for those things that are important to him. If things are ment to be it will happen. My only caution on this is dont fall head over hills yet. He might have the best of intentions but could become overwhelmed. Good luck and hope it works out.

cajunstar6's photo
Fri 02/01/08 10:18 AM
First off finding a guy on the internet that will give it up after yall have made a commitment is slim to none .i think you should talk to him and simply ask him about it maybe say hey i like you and want to see where this will go and if you feel the same way what are your planes with the computer are you going to be chatting to others ? Hope that made sence