My ex-wife is wanting to move over an hour away and take our 5 year old son with her and she's SHOCKED i'm not ok with it.

Do women just not think???

SOME women don't think...

i think its people in general. its a shame when people think only of themselves. it would be in your son's best interest to keep him local for both parents if both parents are involved, that is just my opinion.

Some don't think, others do. Personally, I moved almost 2 hours away and took our three children with me but then again, he was stalking me, breaking into the house and car, stealing things, yada yada. I'm not saying this is you, just my experience from one who *did* think and still moved but with just cause.

how about when she gets mad and tries the same thing because you made her take a drug screen through human services and failed it? ummm...not thinking

My friend is getting a divorce, and has a job that requires her to move every 6-18 months. Her soon to be ex is putting it into the divorce that she can not live more then X miles away.

I personally don't think that 1 hour is that far, it could be worse, and she told you she's moving across the country. You could easily meet halfway for your son's visits.

Its not about the visits. I can drive that far for those. Its the fact I will not be able to do any of the everyday things like scouts, sports school functions. Stuff a real dad does.

I know that. Soryr fo rthe generalization.

Bad Dave!!

That is what I proposed but she just has to go live with this guy. Her and Talon know NO ONE in this new town. Only him. Just rediculus...

You sound like a good dad.

I'm sure you will figure out something. Sorry this is happening!

I am hoping to move some away from my ex, but it's for safety.
It is totally unfair when it's just for selfishness.

Talked to my lawyer today. She says we have a good case to keep him here with me.

I know here in Indiana, I am allowed to move only 100 miles and I have to stay within the state of Indiana.
My question is this, what would you do if you met a woman and decided to move to another state? Would you put your life on hold until your child was 18 or would you wait? Heres why I am asking this...it seems like the parents that have custody is expected to put their lives on hold until the children are 18. Is that really fair?
I believe that the adults have lives and just because things didn't work out between the parents...why does the custodial parent have to remain in the same town as the ex? I believe that everyone should be treated fairly, so if one parent has to stay put..so should both!!
I hope everything works out for you!! I think you have to see it from the other end to see where we are coming from!

Well in order to avoid that I make sure not to go looking for anyone that doesn't live close to me already.

If she was moving for a better job or to better herself or our son in ANY way I would think differently. SHe's not. She found some new guy and is going to take the boy away from ALL of his family (her family lives here too) to be with him. Shoulda thought it through before she got involved with someone from out of town.

She can go where ever she wants to, but the boy stays here with his family.

Mine moved 1 1/2 hours away....so we just meet 1/2 way for the "kiddie swaps". Just have to work things out peacefully, for the kids sake.

Like I said driving for the "kiddie swap" is not the problem. The problem is that if he's that far away there is no way I can do things like coach little league, be a scout leader, go to parent teacher confrences, etc. The everyday stuff that is important to being a parent.

Driving 1 hour to do those things with your kid is not much of a sacrifice at all. Inconvenient at times, maybe...but not if you "really" want to spend time with him. IMHO

Maybe it is because I grew up in North Idaho, but an hour is nothing. And hour drive to go to the occasional school event isn't really a big deal. But maybe because people though nothing of driving an hour or two to do things when I was growing up gives me a different perspective.