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Edited by
KeepingTheFaith
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Fri 01/25/08 10:01 AM
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I am baffled by men who find it difficult to engage in a relationship with a women because she has her stuff together!
Rather than finding a woman who is strong, determined, self-confident, independent, and self-supporting an attractive partner, many seem to prefer women who are a "trainwreck." Is it the whole "I'll rescue you, little woman!" thing, or a lack of confidence? I truly am baffled! Sadly, I am finding one of two things. 1.) They are uncomfortable with (or feel competetive about) the fact that you have it together, or 2.) They want you to support them! Surely that's not all there is! Is it?  I'm certainly NOT perfect, but am half tempted to "jump the track" sometimes! But....that's not who I am. I'm a lady, through and through, but the thought of being a "lady in distress" never has appealed to me! So, tell me fella's, Totally Together (which is NOT as boring as it sounds!  ) or Trainwreck? DISCLAIMER: This post is not intended as a gender bais assumption. Said poster acknowledges this behavior pattern exists in both males and females.  
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Totally Together for sure.
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I don't know about the rest, but I do like it when a woman has it all together.
 Good luck |
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Thanks, e69. Good to know...and it gives me hope!!!
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Your welcome
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Wise man, Kenneth.
 'Cause the thing about playing on the tracks is that eventually you are bound to get hit by that train! Huh....maybe that's part of the appeal?????? |
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One who has things together. It shows signs of maturity and confidence.I am happy with that and not intimidated yet I repect those who also are trying to get there stuff together also.
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I would never jump the track for some man that cant handle an independent intelligent woman. Some men are just attracted to those"trainwreck" women. But most men with some sense do look for women that have it all together so good luck darling cause I am in the same boat as you.
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Edited by
KeepingTheFaith
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Fri 01/25/08 10:17 AM
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I agree completely, Sweetheart.
And I'd rather be in the boat with you than on that TRAIN!!! Zman, I agree with you and support those trying to "get it together." I have been there myself. What baffles me is the conscious choice to pick a life of chaos and drama! Adrenline junkies perhaps? Makes THEM feel more together? What is the draw? |
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I am baffled by men who find it difficult to engage in a relationship with a women because she has her stuff together! Rather than finding a woman who is strong, determined, self-confident, independent, and self-supporting an attractive partner, many seem to prefer women who are a "trainwreck." Is it the whole "I'll rescue you, little woman!" thing, or a lack of confidence? I truly am baffled! Sadly, I am finding one of two things. 1.) They are uncomfortable with (or feel competetive about) the fact that you have it together, or 2.) They want you to support them! Surely that's not all there is! Is it? I'm certainly NOT perfect, but am half tempted to "jump the track" sometimes! But....that's not who I am. I'm a lady, through and through, but the thought of being a "lady in distress" never has appealed to me! So, tell me fella's, Totally Together (which is NOT as boring as it sounds! ) or Trainwreck? DISCLAIMER: This post is not intended as a gender bais assumption. Said poster acknowledges this behavior pattern exists in both males and females. Sounds like my dream woman, strong, self supporting, confident, determined. |
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Wise man, Kenneth. 'Cause the thing about playing on the tracks is that eventually you are bound to get hit by that train! Huh....maybe that's part of the appeal?????? |
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Edited by
KeepingTheFaith
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Fri 01/25/08 10:24 AM
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We exist, Totage!
We just get overlooked sometimes because we're the ones quietly keeping the trains running instead of barreling down the tracks out of control! Here's to men who like a woman with a strong hand on the switch!!
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I am baffled by men who find it difficult to engage in a relationship with a women because she has her stuff together! Rather than finding a woman who is strong, determined, self-confident, independent, and self-supporting an attractive partner, many seem to prefer women who are a "trainwreck." Is it the whole "I'll rescue you, little woman!" thing, or a lack of confidence? I truly am baffled! Sadly, I am finding one of two things. 1.) They are uncomfortable with (or feel competetive about) the fact that you have it together, or 2.) They want you to support them! Surely that's not all there is! Is it? I'm certainly NOT perfect, but am half tempted to "jump the track" sometimes! But....that's not who I am. I'm a lady, through and through, but the thought of being a "lady in distress" never has appealed to me! So, tell me fella's, Totally Together (which is NOT as boring as it sounds! ) or Trainwreck? I hear ya hun. Most g uys i go for seem to choose woman whom are.... well a "train wreck" is too nice. 
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Well, forget those "caboose's," EveningKiss!
You do bring up a great point though...being "to nice" seems like a bad thing too! Don't they realize that if you are strong enough to create a good life for yourself, and realize a measure of success, managing to stay "nice" in the process should be applauded!!
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Here's another viewpoint......Men who pick women who are completley bad for them.....because THEY themselves are afraid of commitment and use that bad relationship as an excuse to be free????
 Ok Alex.......what do I win???
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Congratulations, Gypsy! You just won an all-expenses paid trip on the lovely Canadian Rail!
But hold on...it can be a bumpy ride. LOL...good point, Gypsy. I would agree that many would use that as an excuse, but in some cases I think it goes much deeper. |
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I am baffled by men who find it difficult to engage in a relationship with a women because she has her stuff together! Rather than finding a woman who is strong, determined, self-confident, independent, and self-supporting an attractive partner, many seem to prefer women who are a "trainwreck." Is it the whole "I'll rescue you, little woman!" thing, or a lack of confidence? I truly am baffled! Sadly, I am finding one of two things. 1.) They are uncomfortable with (or feel competetive about) the fact that you have it together, or 2.) They want you to support them! Surely that's not all there is! Is it? I'm certainly NOT perfect, but am half tempted to "jump the track" sometimes! But....that's not who I am. I'm a lady, through and through, but the thought of being a "lady in distress" never has appealed to me! So, tell me fella's, Totally Together (which is NOT as boring as it sounds! ) or Trainwreck? DISCLAIMER: This post is not intended as a gender bais assumption. Said poster acknowledges this behavior pattern exists in both males and females. Unhealthy people can only attract unhealthy people "unhealthy" in the sense that they can't/won't get it together. I guess it's because in the full light of day, they know they can't hold on to'm if they aren't just as messed up. As for myself, give me one that's on the track but maybe not so fast as the express trains. Very good posting...poses an important dilimna....kudos & good luck
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I had two relationships go south because I made more money than him, one of those also complained that I was smarter than him as well. A third went south because I made too much money, I owned a house, and it turned out that he thought I would have low self esteem because I'm carrying around extra weight and that it would give him control over me. Got that one wrong! Hahaha.
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Thanks, AllenAqua. My choice would be a "healthy" relationship where we both have things pretty together, but ride the rails occasionally just for the thrill!!
Moondark ~ I hear ya...but don't give up! BTW...have you met Totage, Kenneth, and e69 yet? They appreciate a strong, independent woman!
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