is it me or what but i suck at this online dating thing does any one else feel this way or are ya'll getting good results

I am still here, does that help? lol

what kind of results are you looking for?

just one nice lady so far,,,but have spoken to several,,,must be my spelling

It just takes time. It's hard to sum people up so quickly. Have you ever tried speed dating? Much more instant gratification-- you might prefer that

Not here for dating just friends and I have plenty of them....

ok not trying to change th subject,,,,but why dio i haft to go out of th forum an come back to see others responces after me

Just refresh the page

I was here for several months, and made a LOT of posts, before I got noticed at all. Forum exposure is the key to the whole thing, in my experience.

Made lots of friends and get lots of mail here now. I know I will probably never meet any of them in person, but that's OK.

Lex is right, you have to put yourself out there.

ok how do u refresh

i have a nice man now he is coming to see me in feb, took me a long time to find him

Should be somewhere on your toolbar. It looks like 2 arrows going up and down.

like how i have pics been rated what else do i have to do

Maybe your expecting too much too soon.
Your a pretty lady, and have a nice profile ....You won't have any problem....Just give it some more time, or you will end up with the next one instead of the last one.

Me too....I suck at this dating thing....I've gone out on dates, though only 2 from this site and it didn't last more than one date....the first one was always too busy, a workaholic....the second was not my type physically & lived too far away....

and on other sites its always something....you know

I have a good job
Have a house
I try to be honest, communicate openly, and be available among other things....I'm not OCD or have no lingering baggage.....and yet....it just ain't happenin'....oh well, I'm not unhappy living alone....that's for sure...

I think you are being too hard on yourself, Its hard to good results right off the bat, I'm not big on on-line dating, believe you me, I've sent alot of emails out to girls and have gotten nothing in return, Maybe its an attraction thing, Who knows.. All I know Is that I have a lot to offer that special someone and I know I'm damn goodlooking too, I dont care what other people say.. You just have to be patient and hang in there...

kb

I seriously doubt if many people are much good at on-line dating. But Lex is right. Keep posting in the forums. It's a good way to catch other people's attention. It's also a way for people to get to know a little about you.

You could also just start going through profiles and contacting the people you find interesting....if you're comfortable with that approach.

Patience appears to be a must. In my own cynical opinion, low expectations diminish the disappointment.

It's funny, because sometimes we will get posts in the Feedback forum from men who complain that "This site doesn't work!" -- and this is the only time they've ever posted, and they've been on the site for 3 days. They expect there to be some magical process by which 100 women will telepathically know there's a new guy here, and they're all supposed to e-mail him instantaneously.

It just doesn't work like that.

This is definitely an exercise in deferred gratification.

But -- a few of my favorite people on this site HAVE met their matches here. It DOES happen. Fisit, I agree with you that keeping your expectations low is probably the most realistic strategy, at least in the beginning. But, at the same time, don't burn any bridges either. Because you never know who might sign up tomorrow!

go forth and be friendly. correspond with people who interest you.
you seem to be going about it the right way!!