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Topic: IM ideas
lovingmom1971 Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 10	Mon 01/21/08 07:17 AM
First, does IM really work for connecting to people? Second, is it better to email someone first and intro, or to take a chance without doing this and IM? Is there a better time to IM? Third, why do people just let the other person sit there, without accepting or declining?

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 01/21/08 07:18 AM
your 3rd is actually 4th

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Mon 01/21/08 07:18 AM
It the im screen pops up when you are changing screens or reloading, it might get burried and you don't see it. That is what usually happens when I get an IM. I don't even see them until I'm closing out.

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Mon 01/21/08 07:19 AM
I would definately prefer an email before an IM. I don't like IMing w/ someone I know nothing about...had a bad experience with this. Sometimes, if it's sitting there without accepting or declining, it may be that the person is away from the computer even if it shows they are online. Good luck, lovingmom! You'll have fun.

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Mon 01/21/08 07:22 AM
Personally, I don't do IM. Just as a flickering light can cause some migraines, it can cause me a panic attack. The IM pop-up is too similar. However, I'd still want the email contact for a while before I'd try IM - just more courteous and less desperate in appearance.

digger56 Joined Tue 09/18/07 Posts: 838	Mon 01/21/08 07:23 AM
I prefer talking to the other person through emails first, than it is okay to except IM. JMO

Starhawk Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 2164	Mon 01/21/08 07:23 AM
4th is your 3rd and so on.........

lovingmom1971 Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 10	Mon 01/21/08 07:25 AM
Oops! Ok, I hear you. Thanks for the replies and the feedback. Any other ideas on how to show interest without desperation?

ddanster Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 185	Mon 01/21/08 07:26 AM
As far as Im's go if the person isn't responding to your Im it may be just there way of saying there not interested.

gregory583 Joined Wed 08/29/07 Posts: 526	Mon 01/21/08 07:33 AM
this suppose to be just say hi and theres nothing wrong with im someone,thats why they added it ,its just a lot of people are lame sad excuses and rude and they know whom are are and me if intrested i,m im and if no reply i close the box and know my answer.that means no friendfship there.so why worry yourself ?.yoiu now know the persons rude and not worth ther friendship thats mpo

gregory583 Joined Wed 08/29/07 Posts: 526	Mon 01/21/08 07:40 AM
this suppose to be just say hi and theres nothing wrong with im someone,thats why they added it ,its just a lot of people are lame and have sad excuses and rude and they know whom are and me if intrested i,m im and if no reply i close the box and know my answer.that means no friendfship there.so why worry yourself ?.you now know the persons rude and not worth the friendship thats mpo i myself will not tolerate rudeness and move on

Lozer Joined Wed 01/02/08 Posts: 198	Mon 01/21/08 07:43 AM
Personally, I don't do IM. Just as a flickering light can cause some migraines, it can cause me a panic attack. The IM pop-up is too similar. high five for having panic attacks Me too buddy..me too.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Mon 01/21/08 12:54 PM
your 3rd is actually 4th oh chuck you are sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo what can I say??????? anal?

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 01/21/08 01:03 PM
I will generally only accept IMs from people I have either exchanged e-mails with, or interacted with in the forums. I still have this residual spammer flashback issue from accepting "blind" IMs elsewhere.

Softtail70 Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 377	Mon 01/21/08 01:07 PM
First, does IM really work for connecting to people? Second, is it better to email someone first and intro, or to take a chance without doing this and IM? Is there a better time to IM? Third, why do people just let the other person sit there, without accepting or declining? I e-mail them first....What have you got to lose..