This is alittle long, but I really need someone's opinion, so please read...

I'm 8 months pregnant, and I've been suffering from depression and anxiety since I was 16. I never been to a therapist or never took medication for it because I felt that I can deal with it naturally on my own. It comes and it goes. Sometimes, it comes for a long time before it goes. Now that I'm pregnant, it's been slowly coming back. Last night, it got really bad to the point that I didn't want to talk to my own mother or hear her voice. I just wanted to be left alone. She didn't understand why, and I didn't understand why either. I was curled up on my bed and staring at the wall. I don't know why. My doctor has been asking me if I've been feeling depressed, but I've been lying and saying no because I thought I can deal with it. But now that I think about it, I've been locked up in my house for this whole pregnancy, with all the windows shut, and all the blinds closed. I didn't even realize I haven't been out of the house or talking to anybody for a long time, only when I have prenatal appointments.

Well, here's my question...I know I should talk to my doctor and get help, but will they think I'm not going to be mentally fit to take care of my baby, and take her away when she's born, or is that my anxiety talking?

I don't think that they would take a child away because you are treating depression. You are more likely to lose your child if you don't treat it...

Talk to your dr. that last thing they're going to do is take your baby over some depression.. They'll just make sure you're taking something to help you but I'm not sure if you can take anything while pregnant... Good luck and don't go it alone...

my friend suffers from anxiety and depression and she has two kids. the only time they would really take your kid away is if you admitted your not fit, or your mental health issues end up putting the child in danger. you have nothing to worry about as far as your kid getting taken away. on the other hand, some doctors don't recommend a lot of anti depressants during pregnancy or breast feeding. so yeah, talk to your doctor, see what your options are, and go from there...sometimes you don't even need any medication, just some therapy once a month helps tons....that's all i do and i feel fine.....

If you admit you have a problem that is half the battle. They probably wont take your baby or anything drastic like that if your willing to get help and willing to work to make things better. Its the people who dont want to try to get better that have the problems. Depression is a very common thing, I know :) Its no fun at all and you have to be willing to get better before you can get better. I think once you talk to your doctor and try to work things out, they will work out for the best. I wish you the best of luck!

i am sorry to hear about your situation. but speaking from experience, they will not think you are mentally unfit. it is simply a way to get you help because--trust me-- you dont want to go thru post-partum-depression if it should come to that. if you take care of the problem now you are less likely to go thru that. but you have to be honest with your doctor. he/she is only trying to help you and you cannot get the help you need withou being honest with yourself first. then you must be honest with your doctor. GOOD LUCK AND HOPE ALL TURNS OUT WELL!!

doc will give you some medicine after you have baby you need to keep your depression in check and do tell your doc how u really feel there are depressed people who cant afford to go to doc and just deal with depression on their own

please follow the good advice from good people it gets better lady but get some help do not go it alone...god bless

HIYA SUDECIA, YES IT IS UR ANXIETY TALKING THERE HUN, I SUFFER WITH DEPRESSION AND HAVE DONE FOR 16 YRS NOW, I'VE BEEN ON MEDICATION ALL THAT TIME. PLEASE GET HELP WITH IT, IT REALLY VERY RARELY GOES AWAY BY ITSELF, EVEN IF IT'S TALKING ABOUT UR FEELINGS AND PLEASE DON'T WORRY I HAD IT TOO AFTER MY SON WAS BORN AND I GOT SUPPORT PROFESSIONALLY AND IT HELPED ME GET THROUGH THE FEW HARD MONTHS OF CARING FOR A NEW BORN. I REALLY WISH U WELL SEEK HELP IN WHATEVER FORM, DON'T SUFFER BY URSELF, IT WILL WORK OUT IN THE LONG RUN GOOD LUCK HUN XXXXXX

Alright, I'm going to call my health educator tomorrow and have her schedule me a appointment. My doctor's probably going to be mad that I've been lying to her all this time. I guess it is better to get help now then to regret it later. And I definetly want to be happy when my baby is born, not depressed. Thank you everyone.

I agree...talk to your doctor now, before the baby comes. It will be okay

No kids well be taken,Talk to you doc because them feelings you get can be helped and I know how bad that feels.Also try natural remedy's,The pills they give you some times make you feel like you have no feelings just there.

My sister is taking something called Efflexor or something like that and she says she feels great, she's alert, thinks more clearly and is not anxious at all... She swears by it...

Your doctor is not going to be mad at you. Be straight up with him/her. Tell your symptoms. Rest, eat well and get exercise. I am not one for taking anything when pregnant, but as soon as the little bundle of joy gets here, you will be able to take something to help if you and your doctor decide that is what you need.

Hugs, M

Hey, I feel for you. I was the straight laced catholic girl that found myself pregnant in Jan of 05. At 7 weeks pregnant, I was left single too. Left to tell the parents myself, deal with telling the extended family etc etc. This all from the "virgin until married" family of course. At about 6 months pregnant I went to a psychiatrist, I didn't want to go out at all, wasn't sleeping, not eating, just plain miserable. I was on prozac. It took me a long time to even be able to admit that. Now, I have a gorgeous little boy that brings a smile to my face daily and the only tears are tears of joy (mostly...) Don't feel ashamed, and it's not bad that you were "lying" either, it's all a process, and you have to be ready to get the help before anything will help you. Drugs dont do everything, just take a bit of the edge off, what will really make you strong is YOU. Good luck...keep us all posted!

I don't know, doctors can be assholes with their 'obliged to inform authorities' things they got goin' on.

As far as a doctor is concerned, the baby is their priority.

My suggestion would be to see private counselling about your underlying issues. Not drugs. Counselling.

There's a reason this depression keeps coming back.

The only time you should feel you need to tell your doctor is if you have thoughts about harming you and / or the baby. Even if it's just a thought. It needs to be shared. 'Cause that can lead to bad situations.

I had an AWFUL pregnancy. My father died, my sister left the country, my mother abandoned all hope, my other sister kicked me out of the family home. I was practically all by myself aside from my partner. And obviously I pushed him away. All that within a month ****ed me up so bad. And now our relationship is beyond repair because of that very hard time.

I cried myself to sleep EVERY night for FOUR months solid! And during the day I'd go to bed just to think about my father...and cry another couple of hours.

Anyways. If ya need anyone ta talk to, feel free to message me :)

Tell the Dr I dealt with depression while I was pregnant with my daughter. They may not give you medication while you're pregnant, but htey will see to it you get some help one way or another.

definatly tell your doctor it might get worse after the kids born