I usually wait. Recently I asked a man to join me at a show which I had gotten tickets for (to take someone else who ended up not being able to come). He said he had other plans- dang it (his words). I guess he was letting me down w/ out being mean. The whole he's not into you thing is confusing to me- as men say they would love if women took initiative. You never know at what point you seem desperate- which is what scares females. Thinking I need to work on flirting- so he asks.

I'm actually glad to know your thoughts. Everything is feedback... that's how I look at it.

Seems men are into BMI, finances, and emotional security. And somewhat nice.

Seems like comman sense, but I still feel I learned something.

What do men want? Really? Do I need to strive to look like Barbie? I've seen men with women who aren't barbie... so it must not be that. Is it a relief to know women are confused too?

Yes a weenie too. lol. And nothing minuscule.

1. Someone who knows how to be a friend- if you want to be in my life- you should be my friend.
2. Someone who likes me.
3. Someone I'm attracted to.
4. A partner (meaning not someone to take care of or who expects to take care of me) at least in any extreme.
We all take care of each other some, but I don't want to pay your bills or try to fix all your problems. Not my job. Just as solving my problems isn't yours.
5. Someone who calls & cares.
6.Someone who wants the same sort of life. Someone I can relate to. Someone I like.
7. Someone I would WANT to share my bed with.
8. Someone I'd introduce to my family.
Enough?

Probably could go 5 years older, but not much more. Prefer him to be close to my age. Not into too much younger. Max 3 years.

Early 20's - they do think you are old. You aren't, but you are probably too old for a 20ish year old.

Relationships take work. Figure out if it is worth trying to save. I think since you have a kid together you should at least try. If you can't make it work, stay involved in the kids life & pay child support.

IMO certainly healthier than marrying him out of high school. If you hook up now, at least you've had experiences on your own.

That is sweet! Good luck.

Depends. Sometimes I think about him a lot. But then I can go for years without a thought of him. I would never date him because we were in the same class in high school. I saw him after college and I wanted to pursue my career/ have independence (not follow a man across the country away from family).. Now I'm 30 and lonely & thinking of him.
We just geniunely liked each others personalities. When you are kids it is just more innocent.
Plus you start thinking am I ever going to meet someone I connect with...
IDK. While I'm trying to figure it out, I'll be at the gym trying to get hotter.=)

A porn star? I guess she must be somewhat hot then... do I say congrats or sorry?

Yeah. Something about it seems more pure. Did anything happen?

So do other people still think about their first love and carry a bit of a torch for him/her?

I don't think that they would take a child away because you are treating depression. You are more likely to lose your child if you don't treat it...

Yeah. I don't think it has anything to do with the bible. I agree about it being the person & I think your daughter would like to have it at some point. Just put it away for her.

Ouch.
I'm actually a lot older than you & I haven't found mine either. And it's not really about wanting attention. This thread thing really is coming in handy for support and advice. A little encouragement and some ideas do come in handy. Hang in there... and enjoy your life. You are really young- think about things that interest you and be involved. Maybe you will meet a great guy doing something you love.

I agree about the counseling... kind of sounds like this may not be the best time for her (for dating)& she isn't really in a good place. You can be supportive, but I agree you should protect yourself.

lol. That's a cute story.

I know. And it is appreciated. You guys are giving really great advice. Thanks.