I have had men get offended when I tell them I prefer not to date men with children who are not grown. They can get quite nasty in fact. I would not have much respect for a man who did NOT put his children first but I also have the right to NOT put myself last.

I have had men get offended when I tell them I prefer not to date men with children who are not grown. They can get quite nasty in fact. I would not have much respect for a man who did NOT put his children first but I also have the right to NOT put myself last.

I know how you feel, for the past nine years I have raised my children with no help since their father has passed on. My time out was rare, because babysitters are not cheap. I chose to date little, and have no regrets. The men I did date, either had to learn to deal with me being mom and dad, along with a package deal or more on. The choice I made isn't for everyone, so good luck in how you choose to handle things, and hopefully you will meet someone who accepts the fact that your a package deal.

Now that my youngest is graduating high school its time for me. Now the hard thing is remembering what it was like to do what I wanted to do, and not what needed doing.

If I find a woman who isn t into the man with a young child at this point in her life,,,,,Its simple,,,,I move on....my son isn t going anywhere, so it narrows it down pretty well.

a few years back I dated a guy with two kids...one of which was the kid from hell and none of my 3 kids (or myself) could get along or even tolerate the child...needless to say everything just fell apart.I guess thats just the way it goes sometimes.

Where do you expect the balance to be?

when i am dating someone, i wait a long while before they meet my kids. I dont want to be dating someone and my kids get hurt because they cant deal with the fact that my kids come first and they walk away.

if i feel i am dating someone and things are going well after about 4 months, then they get to meet my kids.

I may get hurt, but my kids dont need to, they went thru enough in the divorce.

I had a woman ask me if I was just an every other weekend date because of my kids! I told her they were first in my life. Whom ever I date will have to take the whole package, not just the best part!!

when i am dating someone, i wait a long while before they meet my kids. I dont want to be dating someone and my kids get hurt because they cant deal with the fact that my kids come first and they walk away.

if i feel i am dating someone and things are going well after about 4 months, then they get to meet my kids.

I may get hurt, but my kids dont need to, they went thru enough in the divorce.

Not sure how to answer that. My situation is specific to me. I tried to date a man who had his children every other week. With my job I was unable to see him on the weekend he did not have his children so it was the rare occasion when we got together. He is a terrific man and we are still friends but not the kind of relationship I want. If you have little time to offer a woman than a relationship may not be in your future right now. It's all about choices.

My mom always told me {wished I had listened better sometimes} That men or people will come and go in your life.... But your children will always be your children!!!
So true, Wish you all the best!

100% with you! I have a 4 month minimum rule to meet, maybe longer

Your right, I am not looking for a relationship at all anyway. I cant spare the time that someone deserves. Dating to hopefully find that person of course is there

I have given up on finding the "ONE" LOL! My girls will be 18 in 5 more years, then I will have my life back. I will be a ripe old age of 56 or so, not the end of the world!!!

I decided I can wait! If it happens in between, then so be it. I will play the cards I am delt when they come to me.