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hey, i think i dated a couple of them,

lol, lol, lol youve put a smile on my face!!

Cheers...Hon
Do you think maybe I an setting my standards
too high...Ugh...

jesus they are the best ones to go for!! lol.(only joking guys!!!!)

I am gonna leave this as my main photo today,
I'll give you an update as to how many bites I get today..
LMAO!

you do that hun!! im curious to hear if you get any bites too!! lol

you never know ..for some it just may improve their chances ...

In my experience I have noticed 3 major reasons why people Lie:

Anger - This is perhaps the worst one, the liar is mad at and/or Hates the other person and lies to either keep a secret or to try to hurt the other person in one way or another.

Greed - The Liar wants something from the other person and doesn't care how they get it.

Fear - The ol' Skeleton in the closet, a secret you don't want anyone to know, either because it is embarrassing, or you are afraid of what would happen to you if anyone else knew. There is another side to this one, insecurity and I think this is why the man who was the subject of this post lied. He was so afraid that the real him wouldn't be loved or excepted that he tried to make up a whole new him who was just better in every way... ashame he wasn't real eh?


Oh well, you don't need a Dishonorable lying scumbag anyway...

This also makes it hard for the new people just trying to feel it out.....you see threads like this and you feel like you dont want to reach out to anyone cuz you dont know if they're being real or not. Anyways....sorry to hear that happened to you jenny....hope you have better luck

A secret I've found is listen to the people with 1000 posts or more, You at least know they haven't been booted yet for being a putz.

I do tend to read posts from those users.....but dont want to but in on the veterens.....so i kinda go back and forth....and still try to have fun

In all truth honesty sucks, but that's who I am...but it does truly suck. Honesty kills chances at friendship for me, and relationships likewise. It's a double edged blade and it cuts more than it forgives...cause I'll always be that "nice guy, I think of you as a brother" type of guy.

I agree with this to a point, it's not a good combination Being honest and not having the ability to shut up because there are just some things some people just don't want to know about.

I've learned there is an important difference between lying and simple not telling someone all of an Honest fact... still the only reason I would Withhold information like that is if I think the Truth would hurt the person asking.

Ill agree timcity. when I was new to the datting sites a few things happen to me and even though it just happen again. I keep going forward. The funny thing is that I did see the signs but didn't look at them as being a problem. I looked at them as something we could of worked on. But back to the topic.

I want really understand why at times people lie, but what i do know about it is that have a pattern going on that they can't break and they do it so much that they start beliveing there own lie. For some people do this because it's a game and they know they will never meet and it's thrill to them. I wont understand that thrill and wont try to. Over all situation. it comes down to, they dont want anyone to know who they realy are because that would mean they might have to actually open up and actually feel. In one sence I can see just a little bit why some do and I mean some and that is because they don't know who they are and what they really want out of life. So they use others to fill that void

A person lies because of low self esteem, either they dont think highly enough of themselves; they think others will not think highly of them, or finally they just dont give a crap and are killing time.

Once you know move on, dont dedicate more time to anyone than necessary.

i disagree with this.... i dont feel there are more liars cause its a "Free Dating Site"... i think people tend to lie a little more just because its online not free..... they can hide behind their computer screen and keyboard.... u gotta remember usually its "real" people typing the words and they live in the real world...im sure they would tend to also lie in the "real" world too... so if they were at the bar they would be doing the same things cant lie about their looks or get away with fake pics but they are sure to be lieing about something else...

here here!! totally agree with ya!

But that's the whole thing .. they make up their story around YOU so you DO enjoy talking to them. I had that happen on another site. And here's the sad part. Most of them do it with others. You AREN'T the only one they are trying to impress & engage in a 'relationship' of sorts.

The way I look at it is pretty simple. You didn't make any mistakes... They did.
If offering people the benefit of doubt is a mistake.. then I'm more guilty then innocent. I've probably not been stung as badly as some, but stung worse then most.
About 16 months ago, a friend on another site asked me to help her friend with a computer issue.. That turned out to be the occasion I met someone that consumed nearly a year of my life. She was a widower who's husband was murdered. She was State certified in her field of expertise. Owned 2 horses and a goat.. had friends she spoke of consistently.. Plane rides, hours upon hours of communication.. etc.. later... My instincts started screaming at me, due to inconsistencies in events and stories. Soon I started asking questions that were left either unanswered or the given answers did not make any sense.
To make a long story shorter.. After some investigation and using a bunch of disconnected information she had given, I stumbled into the truth.

Her Husband was not dead. She was an unlicensed and a student in her field. She used to own animals, but gave them up. Some of her friends were manufactured, in order to give more drama to her false existence. I did not know her real name, etc...

What did she actually take from me? As little as possible. Some time and energy. What she robbed of herself is unmeasurable.

Why did she do it? I can't rightly say. I'm guessing that low self esteem and respect, an extreme dissatisfaction with her life is probably the root of it. An unwillingness to do anything about it, was the driving force. She'd much rather feed the fire by convincing others that she is something she is not.

That is a life style choice I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. Any anger I had quickly faded. Rather then being angry with her... I pity her. I hope that some day she comes clean with those still in her life. I believe that there is a good honest person in there somewhere who would do better if allowed into the light of day.

What she can or cannot take from me, is up to me. I choose to not let her change my outlook, how I treat people. After all... I survived it. It did not kill me or my spirit... and stands no chance of doing so. I can't say the same about her. So.. in that, I choose to not let her prevent me from giving the benefit of doubt. I won't let her be a determining factor in any future relationships I encounter in my life. I won't give her that power. After all.. I did not make the mistakes... She did.