i have just when threw a rough split up with my now ex-wife. and finally
i got the will power to go out with a good friend of mine and his
brother to the club tonight. to get my mind off things. i get there and
she is the with her best friend. as soon as she saw me and my friend
she ran over to him and gave him the biggest hug and gave me the cold
shoulder. i went on acting like i didnt care when in fact i was dying
inside. later on the night i kept seeming like she would go out of her
way to stand in front of me and shake her ass with some other guy. so i
would move and everytime i looked up i saw her looking at me then she
would just go on and talk to someone else. she was dancing with all
these guys intentionally so she could make me mad. it worked. im heart
broken and i want to die right now. i feel so alone and i didnt even do
anything to deserve this. im a giniune nice guys who treats woman with
the upmost respect and i get this in return. ive bent over backwards for
this girls weve been together for a year and 4 months and everytime
things start to get a lil rough, she leaves. ive never done anything to
hurt her. she is 22 and she acts like she is 15. when we get in
arguyments she screams and yells and throws and hits all over stupid
shit, and im always the fool trying to tell here to calm down and lets
talk things over like adults. i never raised my voice at her but a
couple of times. every time we do argu she treatens to go home for the
night or she walks out the door and down the street and i have to chace
after her. and instead of her mom saying, shannon this is your husband
works things out, he loves u to death cant u see this. she taks her in
wines her a dines her and buys her and babbies her like she is a 2 year
old tellin her" come here baby, every thing is gonna be alright. fuck
that bastard". when things go her way she is an agnel. but if she doesnt
get her way i pay. she disrespects my mom and calles my 7 year old
sister a bitch whenevr my sister cries. and all this and i still love
her. i dont want her back. i just want to stop hurting. im am the
sweetest guy ever have the bigest heart. for her 22nd birthday i bought
her alabama vs auburn tickets (1000$) and the week before we went, we
would get into a lil argument and she would say things like fuck the
tickets just take your damn brother, and we would be fighting about the
stupidest thing. in her book everything i did was wrong and my fault.
when she would get mad at me she would call me a dumbass and tell me she
didnt know if she really loved me. sometimes she would go all out and
tell me she didnt love me. she wanted to have a girls night out a couple
times a week, but were did she go? to the club were her ex worked and
they would hug and talk and she wanted to be friends with him. this is
the same guy she left me for half way threw our marriage. she always
wants to drink and never wants to do things that i find fun. i dont
deserve this and i derserve better. thats what everyone tells me. she
isnt the prettiest thing in thw world yet she thinks she's god. actually
she looks like a dude sorta, and has bad hygiene, and her sex drive is
worse than someone who isnt sexually active. yet i still loved her to
the fullest. why me?? why must i suffer. whats happening to womaan these
days... they say guys are assholes. but this is beyond bad. i just had
to let this out. hopefully there is hope for me. and hopefully someone
can help me come up with a solution. all i know is as soon as the
divorce papers get her im signing them. thanks for reading. and i hope
everyone treats there loved ones right and have a great day.
~bye~

sounds like u need a great big hug *hugs* it will all work out.. and
seems like u still have feelings... REREAD what u wrote.. She isn't the
one.. if she is doing all that.. give it while.. lick your wounds go out
in the REAL world.. we arnt all like that.. i promise...dont rush into
things take it slow when u decide to start dating again.. make friends
and then see where it goes... email me if ya want to talk or IM me...
i'm sure i will be here ALL night... ~~SHERRIE~~

whats your AIM or YAHOO?? thanks for the advice.

check ya mail...LOL not about to give it in the forums i would get
attacked..LOL

k, thanks. keep the comments coming people. thanks

Dealer, Sorry to say it but you were too young to get married!
Additionally you sound like you're way too soft on woman. however from
reading your story consider yourself blessed that she's gone and if she
comes back knocking on your door, slam it shut before she can get in....

You sound like you need some dose's of Tom Leykis....
Check your email in a few...

im sure its hard, but try to keep that one an ex from the sounds of it,
other wise you have yourself one hell of a sharp and jagged long road
ahead of you. remeber you cant change her ways no matter what you do,
its gotta come from her and her only.

darling things will get better with time. from the sounds of things your
much better off without her.big hugs from all of us darling we're here
for you

Welcome to the real world dealer, that's the way life goes, ya know?

move on dealer. you will find someone that cares all more than she does
about you.

Women like to see you hurting especially after a split up

The hurt may never go away completely but keep your head up. If you keep
a positive attitude you will find someone worthy of your love. We tend
to repeat patterns a lot of the time and that is not always healthy for
us. The abused always looking for the bad boys that will abuse them. We
get used to a certain level of treatment and eventually fall into the
belief that it is the only thing we can get or deserve. It sucks. I
won't advise you otherwise. I have been married and divorced 2 times and
what I have learned is to stop looking and beating my head against a
wall. I also learned to NEVER carry baggage into another potential
relationship. Kind of the old addage "Never s..t where you eat". Ok. Bad
reference but I hope you get the point. I have been where you are now in
life and I KNOW that things can and do turn around. You have to move
beyond her pettiness and avoid her. Move to another area if you have to.
She sounds like she is a "toxic person" that you really don't need to
see or be around. Get the divorce done, lick your wounds, push through
the hurt and anger and you will surface a better person on the other
side. Best of luck to you. I feel your pain and I hope you can keep your
head up and push through it. There are some very good women out there
and you will find many good women here on this site. I found my future
wife here AND I WASN'T EVEN LOOKING. That, I beleiev, was the key. She
is so far out of the realm of the women that I traditionally persue but
we are a perfect match. Everything happens in the proper time and place
and that does not mean that it is always easy. We learn the most from
the worst of situations if only we open our eyes, our minds and our
hearts. Blessed be )0(

HUGS :)

I can kinda relate to you in some ways. I feel for you, I really do.
Chat with me if you want. I'll shoot you an email.

Wow everyone, i must say i dont think i ever expected this frommt his
sit. and i want everyone to know that this right here and everyones
words is truly i believe hepling me and just want to say thanks

i agree with mike. i don't think she is completely over you either
because unless she is just a tramp she wouldn't try to make you jealous
or hurt you. hang in there man and move on at your own pace, you'll
start feeling better. good luck

Kind fo sounds like she is in just as much pain as you are in darlin.
Think about it!

what do you know about that poor guy and you don't have to call me
darlin, darlin

DEALER, DUDE, REALLY I JUST GOT DONE AROUND 5 MONTHS AGO

WITH HER SISTER,LOL. REALLY SHE SOUNDS THE SAME AS ONE I DATED

AND LIVED TOGETHER FOR LIKE 7 YEARS, AND NOW I REALLY KNOW BUT

THROUGH IT I KEPT THINKING THAT I COULD HELOP HER TO FIND LIFE

FUN, EVERYDAY, AND BE HAPPY!!!!! WRONG, SHE AS YOURS, YOU WILL

NEVER DO ENOUGH, AND NEVER GIVE ENOUGH, TO MAKE HER A ALL TIME

HAPPY PERSON, TRUST-ME, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HER, AND FIND

ONE WHO IS GOOD WITH LIFE ALREADY, AND WILL WORK AT MAKING YOU

HAPPY!!!!!!! SOLID MAN, IM TELLEN-YA!!!!! GOOD-LUCK....

Im definatly getting away from her. im done with the bullcrap. she take
ake it someowhere else.

whatever.....next....?