If a woman invites a man out for dinner, who pays the tab?

I am old fashioned and feel the man should pay, some tell me different since the invite wasnt originated from me. SOme say should split, I think that's gay....

Went on a second date this evening for dinner, she invited and went well. Good chemistry, etc...I picked up the tab and she seemed upset/irritated.... Was I wrong?

if i invite, i have every intention of paying. but it wouldn't hurt my feelings if it didn't turn out that way LOL

you were right,the guy is supposed to pay

if i do the inviting, i expect to pay. period.

She shouldn't have been upset over such a small thing.. i mean just 'cause you paid the tab? heck go out with me i'll let you pay my tab..

But in all seriousness if she seemed mad you could've asked her if something was wrong.. and if she wanted to pay you could've let her.. though i also agree that the man should pay.. but then again i only think that way because that's how i was brought up.. i'm all for womens rights and all.. but the whole men paying the tab thing was how my dad raised me..

otherwise i feel like i've just...begged someone to feed me or something.

You were not wrong...never a bad thing to be a gentleman...

true man always pays, unless forced by the woman

The man pays...and opens the door. What's wrong with being a lady these days?

I don't think so. It was nice of you. Maybe she just felt uncomfortable w/ it... not annoyed. Maybe she just doesn't want you to feel used. It's hard to say... everyone walks around w/ their own experiences.
Is it really ok for women to ask? I sooo do not want to come off as desperate which is why I've never done it...

Personally,when I go out with a woman, I pay for everything and thats the only way I'll have it.

I believe you were right in paying... if she was upset you could have told her next time she could pay! Means there will be a third date... a "win win"!!!!

if its a first date the man should pay

One more thing. Women who get annoyed about men being gentelmen are just giving you back to those of us who love it.

i like to pay too.

i agree that if i invite i do expect to pay, but am not going to argue with the guy if he wants to pay been on dates with too many guys who have invited me and i have ended up paying because they were losers & that was annoying... but cannot quite understanding getting upset with a guy for being nice and choosing to pay even though he did not give the invite

I adore it when a woman asks me out. it really is an honor to us men

If the lady does the invitin' she does the payin'.

But then I always move to pay anyway. She'll have to voice her protest and make it clear she wants to pay.


In today's world of everyone working having her pay once in a while isn't a bad thing.

well...i feel that whoever asks should pay

I would'nt grip!