Topic: On an equal footing.
Duttoneer's photo
Wed 06/03/26 01:25 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Wed 06/03/26 01:28 AM

When seeking a new partner in life, how important do you believe it is to find someone similar in standing in life to yourself. Is it as important as say, finding someone the same age as yourself, or has the same interests, similar goals, good personality, character, and the many other things. Does it matter and is it a priority, or is it Irrelevant in a search for a new partner in life, to making it successful. What are your thoughts.

soufiehere's photo
Wed 06/03/26 01:47 AM
Edited by soufiehere on Wed 06/03/26 01:48 AM
I think the more blinders you wear, the less you see.

The more prejudices you use to define what you 'want'
the less field you have to play in.

Less field, less options.
You limit your own choices.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 06/03/26 03:19 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Wed 06/03/26 03:20 AM
I agree with Soufie although certain things are simply deal-breakers.
The difference -as I see it- between a blinder and a deal-breaker is that the first is more ego, the latter a deeper need for fulfillment.

For instance, I want a man who is a little taller than me. Not an ego thing, I know from experience that being with a man and being held by a man who is shorter or same height doesn't make me feel good. I don't feel feminine, safe, protected.
So I don't go there.
I don't see that as a blinder.

For standing in life there can be similar deeper needs. Like a healthy masculine energy man wanting to provide and protect his girl (this is not just financial btw).
Such men usually don't give a rip if the woman has less to spend. Taking care of his woman actually gives him a testosterone boost, making him feel more masculine & happy.

But... a man who thinks & feels he's been ripped off by an ex is in ego and he flatly refuses to accommodate a woman with less to spend. It will automatically make him feel he's being used.
That's ego. And a blinder.

If a woman has to "down-grade" it works differently. It can make her feel more masculine, raise her testosterone, which for a woman is a stress reaction in the body. Not healthy!

So is similar standing important? Check whether you want that from (hurt) ego or not.
Having similar standing means that you don't have to think about any of this. Could make it easier.