My name is Hope and I am a single mom of my daughter Abby who is 7. Every time I find a guy I like and we've been talking a while he ghosts me after I mention Abby. I'm not looking for a sugar daddy, I'm independent and can provide for myself and daughter. Just here to find someone to maybe go out and do things with. Any advice?

Might I suggest not posting personal information in topics on dating sites OR on your profile.. just to keep both of you safe! (ie-names, ages etc)

You could maybe tell potential dates up front that you are a single mom looking for (as you said) someone to hang out with and do fun things with. I assume you'd do that when your child is not with you?

As a single mom of 2, I used to arrange "dates" when my kids were at their dad's for the weekend.. I didn't bother mentioning "kids" to the "date" unless things ramped up and became more than simply hanging out/activity times..However I feel being up front about your intentions and your lifestyle weeds a lot of the garbage out

hope this helps.. date safe!

Thank you for the advice

There are a lot of weirdos out there, but I would not shy away from mentioning that you have a kid right in the beginning...that can help weed out the fly-by-night guys...lol
There are guys out there that like the pre-made family idea. I dated a girl with two kids, moved them all in with me but after 4 years it was only the kids that I miss when she had to go.

Appreciate your input.

Make sure you state in your profile that you're a single mum and have a 7 year old. I'd not mention the gender.
That way you won't get so many men who aren't up for that.

But I'd also make clear how much time I have to go out on dates with someone. If that's once every 2 weeks or less it might be difficult to find someone.
So it would help if you have someone who can babysit or can afford to get one in which would free you up to date.
But it also has to be clear to potential dates that you do have time and how often.
Be honest about that but don't cross your own boundaries in this! If you can't date every week and/or pay for a sitter every week than don't force yourself in an awkward position. Know what's doable for you and work with that.

Depends on the age of the guy I believe, most older guys have raised their kids and are not interested in taking on someone with young children, imo...

But then, why do you think she's interested in old(er) men?

As for the willingness, I think there's no general rule. It's quite personal regardless of someone's age or having (had) children or not.
It's just a matter of finding that one who's interested.

I'm answering as an older man, she didn't specify age, it's a question for all I thought
I did say in my opinion too, each to their own of course

Men fall into two categories: those who do and those who don't want kids. Letting your date know up front can help YOU avoid expending your emotional capital on a connection that will not work out.

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Based on the social media commentary among young men, single women with children are a big non-no. Among their reasons, is the fact they will probably occupy a number two spot with the kids being first.

A second reason is the fact they may not have a say in how the kids are raised and yet find themselves financing the rearing of another man’s children. These two factors are critical in their risk-return calculation.