Hi everyone,

I'm not new to this dating thing, but I've just signed up here and I'm not sure whether I'm going to do my profile fully yet, prob look around 1st.
This seems to have A LOT of forum members so i figured why not ask here.
but I have a question for the ladies insight:

I know some women like to play hard to get, but how can a guy tell if she IS playing hard to get?
I could send a message, that she reads, doesn't reply back, and doesn't look at my profile - there have been some times where I persisted and she came around SO and I right to say:

Just because a woman opens a guys message, without looking at his profile (or even if she does look) and no message back either way; does NOT mean necessarily mean that she is NOT interested?

Do women do this often?
Or is it just a NOT INTERESTED response? To me I think this is insanity unless she says that no response=no interest, but men know about the whole challenge thing but we're kinda high and dry in these scenarios.

How many women are straight forward with a reply of "Sorry, not interested."??
Im sure that most men would appreciate that better than a blank stare!

Welcome to JSH!

I am a polite one and reply back... Unfoutunately alot do not reply back. That goes for both men and woman.

Just be yourself in your profile and tell about yourself and what you are looking for- hope that helps!

Have fun!

a lot of ppl don't reply, no reply typically = no interest

good luck in your ventures tho

LOLLLL i get that alot from men so its pretty eqaul i belive but as playing hard to get i dont think so

Thanks MsTeddybear, its good to hear that there are straight forward people here. I always reply, straight forward, since it is unfair to leave someone in the state of:

"...does that mean she's not interested?...or...is does she want me to chase for a bit??"

I reply to any mail I get, I can always use new freinds, an you never know who might turn out to be Mr. Right. If I'm truly not interested in the person, I'm honest with them about it. I would hope that they would do the same for me.

but you have to take in consideration the person might be online and unable to respond rigth away...take me i have kids therfor im back and fourth when jay is here..so its not cuz i dont want to or am playin..i simply just cant at the moment

Give it some time- you can allways e-mail again...
Like she said above- some of us are busy. I have no idea if she is interested in you- guess time will tell. If she reads your mail and does'nt reply after some time- I would say she probbley is'nt interested.

Yes of course, we all live in a nano-second culture, I dont expect ASAP RESPONSE after opening my mail lol, I guess maybe theres also the possibility that she put off answering because she wants time to think HOW to respond. But does that REALLY take DAYS?

The approach I take to it is keep emailing until I get a response, even if its a "DONT YOU GET IT!?? **** OFF!"
but hey, if I go fishing and I can see the fish from the warf, but they arent biting, Im gona keep fishing there until one of those fish jump up and tell me to Get Lost!

only way to know for SURE.

don't know...i'm easy
re: the e-mail thing...no one ever e-mails me...no one likes me here...so i stay just to pizz everyone off

I do reply to people that email me. If I am not interested I just clearly state something nice like...Oh thanks for the email but I see in your profile that you stated blah blah blah. I always state to them so they are not unsure about what I want, I am only looking for friends. BUT I have made lots of friends by being honest!!!
So good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for!!

Just don't get stalking' on them!
If they block you- back off...
Hope you catch a good fish!

I dont think everyone who views your profile has to respond like hey i like this person and what not. I think people are just browsing i am guilty then of everytime i look at a profile of not sending them a message lol. Does not mean i am not interested it just means i am just looking around like most people do on jsh lol. Say if i want to browse my city well i put the area code and guess what. You have over 200 people in line
Every person you view is going to ask them selves why you did not bother to message them or are just looking. Do not be so quick to judge this well lead to only pure confusion lol. So get everybody in line and say there is a ten minute wait on this ride and you also have to be a certain height there is no eating drinking or jumping or standing on the ride. Try to use this as example as what people are also doing to you. Every day on my job people go to another ride before they come to my ride and i think the same thing happens in people there picky lol.
Sometimes though i get people who come to my ride first and say you have the best ride in the whole con tire park.

I dont think everyone who views your profile has to respond like hey i like this person and what not. I think people are just browsing i am guilty then of everytime i look at a profile of not sending them a message lol. Does not mean i am not interested it just means i am just looking around like most people do on jsh lol. Say if i want to browse my city well i put the area code and guess what. You have over 200 people in line
Every person you view is going to ask them selves why you did not bother to message them or are just looking. Do not be so quick to judge this well lead to only pure confusion lol. So get everybody in line and say there is a ten minute wait on this ride and you also have to be a certain height there is no eating drinking or jumping or standing on the ride. Try to use this as example as what people are also doing to you. Every day on my job people go to another ride before they come to my ride and i think the same thing happens in people there picky lol.
Sometimes though i get people who come to my ride first and say you have the best ride in the whole con tire park.

LOL yea a block is a fair hint!

no no, Im not saying that if you're browzing, and you look at someones profile you MUST email them! lol. Im talking about them looking at your profle after reading the message you sent...
I've browzed SO much with out emailing, If something sparks interest I email..then I go through this stupid fishing until blocked game.
fun fun fun!

Welcome to JSH...Have a good time and go around the forum rooms..Most people on here are pretty KEWL.

Thanks rara

Yea just keep fishing mate.