can we trust a person second time?

Trust is always affected by what others have done to us. Its never repaired...it can only be mend but you always remember there is a joint somewhere

None is perfect in today's world.
Trust is not a volume of value, it take time to build just as heal...

It's upon us should we or not
Are We 'trustful'!!

Very well said, Rc.

Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me.

Why?

A person has to go a long way to lose my trust.
But, once trust is gone, it's gone forever.

Just with a thought that I shouldn't hurt someone, I trusted not twice but multiple times n finally by losing my health, my physical strength and in a very painful way, I learnt lessons not to trust a person, the second time itself. if one has broken the trust once, definitely that person will have skillful ways to break it multiple times through different indirect situations(which will be known too late when health will almost be gone for a toss)..different words n different patterns too will be used by them. Never go back n give a thought too!

very true....forgive and forget

Yes Red, Forgiven with peace but not forgetting the lesson

Yes Aatheera..not forgetting the lesson but forgetting the person.

certain situations, certain responsibilities that I hold for the person cannot be denied nor forgotten so without holding a trust on the person, I need to remember the person since I'm responsible to do my duties.

okay i got you there...a well thought and valuable point

NO, never, I speak from experience.

No

Agreed

Yes but very carefully!

yes if they realise they are wrong

Trust means trusting another person because you feel safe with them and have confidence that they will not hurt or violate you. Trust is the foundation of a relationship because it allows you to be vulnerable and open up to the person without being defensive. Don't feel like a fool if after trusting a person he can't trust you! Because you trusted him, he was able to break that trust.

hmmmm I thought today about starting a thread of Do You Miss Your Ex but I see there are many threads much like that. After 25 years of emotional abuse & several years of alcoholism & lies, I could only survive if I got a divorce. So I did. That was 10 years ago. sometimes I still miss him. Today I miss him -not sure why. He is in another state and "engaged" but I am guessing the new wife will get hurt if he actually marries her. SO as much as a good solid marriage according to the Bible is desired, it doesn't always happen. Both people have to want truth, faithful partners, companionship, worship correctly, etc. If one does not, the other may not be able to change that. You cannot always trust someone just because you WANT to... they have to show you they can be trusted.

A violation of trust ruins the relationship.
To trust that person again depends as much on their sincerity as it does your empathy for them.

When someone violates your trust for them, the details sometimes matter but more often than not the violation was an act of deception and liars cannot be trusted.

What is important when considering re-trusting someone is how the trust was lost.
If it is a blatant disregard for you, it should be over. Learn the lesson and move on to a new someone you CAN trust.
If you merely suspect the violation, perhaps you should find out the reality before you call it a violation of trust. Fears and expectations often get in the way of the reality.

Choosing your relationships wisely, after examining their whole actual personality, decreases the likelihood of finding yourself in a relationship which has trust issues.

Its nearly impossible to be honest with someone you can't trust. Its nearly impossible to believe someone who has violated your trust.