OK I'm over the hill. So it seems that while the world changed around me I was trying to make a relationship not meant to be work. I'm now at a point that I don't know what to do in a relationship. The ladies my own age seem to think the way to keep a man is keep him in bed and give him what he wants there. The younger ladies seem to be looking for fun times and frienship nothing more. So what is a guy in his late 40's to do? Maybe I should just follow in my father's foot steps and marry a 25 year old(adjusted fo age differance) .

go for it.

Find another 40 ish lady...

All options are open Houston. Land carefully!

The rule is half your age plus seven... In my case it's half my age and minus 7. I'm exceptional though!

well im mid fiftys and i will keep looking til i find someone who suits me! not interested in all the foo-fa-ra. looking for a real person. sex is great but that wont keep me if other things are missing, just as partying and have fun all the time wont either, need the emusifier to make it blend together, take your time and dont rush

The thing is the younger ladies that relpy are younger than the girl I think of as my daughter(no kids but a earlier relationship had a very young 3 month old when we met, 20 now). I'm just not wired to play around but do have normal desires. In my mind the worse thing you can do is play with another's feelings to satisfy your own want's.

I have a question, why do you think that women in their 40's think they have to keep you in bed? Now I totally agree that being in bed is not such a bad thing BUT there is more to a relationship then just sex!!
Have you ever thought about dating someone older? Maybe you are at that point in your life where you need an older woman?

Go with the woman in your age group. If you are finding the ones that arent bitter, and they are still giving you sex, who cares what they say.

I do not know. I have tried getting them to get invovled out of bed. Dinner, Movie, theater, travel Not really into clubs other than comedy. But it seems once in bed that is where they want to keep me, and use that as the reason I should stay with them. I've thought of older women but have been put off by them. At the moment I do have a couple that I'm seeing with in 3 years. They know I'm seeing others and if I decide to go to bed with one the others will Know and can decide if they still want to be friends, I'm not going to hop from one to the other and they know this. I don't want to play games and am honest. If I'm with a lady I'm with her. The youngest I've been approach by is 16, not a chance but can understand it she's got/had a crush, she actually approached my wife and asked if it would be ok if I was her first. Guys this is a boost your ego doesn't know if never recieved. Wife told her to try later she didn't know what she was doing, knowing it would never happen. I'm friends with her entire family and she is legal now and has been for a year.

I read your profile and I see that you are seperated? I believe that you need to take care of your first relationship before ever starting a second one. First you should get a divorce IF that is what you are planning on doing, that way you are free and clear of the wife. Then you are free to move on from that relationship.
As far as the 16 year old is concerned...now you are messing with legal issues. You are an older man..why in the world would you even consider messing with a little girl that age? I think you are going through your mid-life crisis...leave her alone and let her find someone her own age!!

HAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! OOPSSSSSSSSSSS HAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

I love your posts gypsy. :)
And yeah, about the 16 year old, that's just nasty. No one is worth going to jail over.

boy the way u r u are in high demand.a man complaining about getting too much sex.as for the 16 yr old ur just sick for even thinking it.its people like u that spread stds

Can't decipher this. Can anyone figure this one out? I think it may be an insult.

Don't get the wrong Idea the 16 year old was never a possibility. Even the wife realized that, and she didn't realize why at the time(if you really want to know I'll tell you but not here). Is it really so sick to have a younger person of the opposite sex to trust you so much. Or is it only your own thoughts of taking advantage of one so young that has such trust in yourself that is sick. I can say I've had the offer several times and think I've done the right thing every time (tried to explained their feelings to them in ways they could understand, and offer to be there for them to talk to if needed). Never took one of the young ladies up on their offer, but Let them know I'm, still there for them. So who is sick the one that admits that it is a ego boost for one to put such trust in you or those that only seem to be able to instill such trust for their own benefit only to abuse it. FOR EVERYONE UNDERSTANDING I AM FRIENDS WITH THIS GIRL'S PARENTS' AND GRANDPARENT'S. IT IS STARTING TO SWING TO HER YOUNGER SISTER. THE GIRL IS NOW 19 LEGAL AGE IN ANY STATE AND SHE GAVE ME SOMETHING THAT MOST OF YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND.

She said I was there when she needed. Even if it meant saying no when needed. If you have never been given the pleasure of guiding a young lady through this point of her life urging her past the hormones. Then you will never understand, the ladies of the site will and most will say they wish I was there for them.