What will you choose ?
Love
Or
Career

What if you love your career?

You can have both.

I love cherry coke.

Work/career will always be there, so for stability, it has to be career, at the cost of any relationship.

To live is to work!

why bother thinking what you choose if you can choose both, hehe:)

Career because love will follow when you already have dollars lol.

Yes you are right

That's an example

There isn't any conflict.

career has ended and still searching for love..... so options not to great !!

Love for me. Hard to be alone when I get old...

how do you know that .... you have not even reached there yet!!! are you even close enough ???

don't stretch your mind so far...

Think I've got there - I'm too old-fashioned for this modern world, and am definitely too old for any form of a social life now.

Love

I'm in my 40's.

I've established and enjoy my "career" and have worked a significant portion of my life to get to this point and I know where I want to be in a few years, where it leads, how it grows. I know what that has to offer me.

I would not give that up, cause harm to, or jeopardize that for (or to meet) some random stranger from an online dating site.

If you're asking "would you make sacrifices to your career in the pursuit of love?" Like "since you're on a dating website, you're looking for a relationship, how serious are you about it, what kind of person are you?"

I'd choose career.



If you're asking if I was in a "love" relationship, whether or not I'd choose my career over my partner, then it's an oversimplified childish question.

I'd discuss it with my partner and hopefully figure out what's best for all of us in that decision.

I can't ever see a relationship full of "love" lasting long enough to where one day either:
1. My "love" walks in and randomly asks me "love or your career?! Choose!"
2. I'm doing my career thing, in "love," and randomly think "I need to make this decision right now! Love or my career!"

There would be other factors involved such as what was motivating me to contemplate and recognize I had to make that choice.

I mean is my "love" stricken with some affliction where I'd have to quit my career in order to take care of her?

Are we growing apart as people, and she/I/we/the therapist thinks we are at the point the only possible way to "save" the relationship and "love" is to give up careers and focus on each other?

Is the career a delusion? Where I am working towards a career goal that isn't possible or realistic, she's telling me this truth, and I refuse to listen?

Or is it a situation where it's a "love" relationship but there are problems that I don't want to face and maybe I'm putting myself more into my career in order to not face them?

What is actually going on?

Depending on the circumstances and situation I may be making one choice or the other without consciously realizing I am making a choice.


So, tldr, if you're asking if I'd risk or tank my career for the sake of potential "love," then no, I wouldn't.
If you're asking if I'd sacrifice my career for the sake of a "love" relationship I already have and appreciate, then it's a maybe, depends on the circumstances and situation.

Brilliant response 'c`tom', couldn't have said it better myself!


I'll add some thoughts on this too....

Love is an emotional state, a 'feeling' inside. It is mutable and sometimes fleeting. Its intensity waxes and wanes as emotions/conditions change. You can't plan love or expect it to remain the same over duration. There is no set plan as to how each of you 'feel' love. Love is 'unscripted'.

A career is a choice which often takes feelings and emotions, yes but also discipline, dedication and commitment over a lifetime. A chosen path rooted in stability over a long period of time. You 'know' pretty much, what to expect. You are 'trained' to it.

Rather childish example of "my partner comes in and asks the question, 'love or career?' "
A very simple example of a real life situation, which happened to someone I know: you live about 1,5 hr apart. In the long run this is not viable. Then you have to choose: give up my job/career and move house for love, or give up the relationship and long distance partner.

The same person told me, "When you love someone you just go for it, no matter what! You'll just find a solution."
And that's what I think any empowered man would do.
Also what I've heard from (male) coaches btw.
I guess that automatically means a man who isn't in love won't and will choose his career.

Choose the career it will bring the love