Hi, I'd just like to get some thoughts on what some people are telling me concerning having relationships with women closer to my own age. I am going on 57 and just because I might very briefly salute or greet women in their twenties does not mean that I am looking to have a romantic relationship with her or any woman within her age group. I've been told by several people that that very action disqualifies me from having a romantic relationship with women my age. Some women have expressed disgust with me over this. Are most men in general having a problem with this? Is this a new trend?

Huh?

Did you let someone who eats bonbons
and watches waaaayyyy too many daytime
talk shows, give you dating advice?

Lol, not sure what they're like for real, but that's the advice I'm getting in Calgary from a lot of decent looking people. Women my age have expressed disgust with me even briefly mentioning going our for a coffee with any of them, not wearing rings of course.

Well...
There is that segment of the population,
anywhere you go, that frowns on people
even socializing outside of their own
age group.

Think I've learned my lesson this time around. Word gets around quickly here, within hours, but perhaps if I stay completely clear of young women, they'll allow me to go out with women closer to my age. Keeping my fingers crossed.

Do what feels right to you.

I've done what feels right for me, yet I've been rejected by every women my age for just simply and politely greeting young women. I feel that my rights are being jeopardized. Women should not be forced to conform to the status quo. They should be allowed to have a relationship with any man of their choice regardless of whether a man talks to a younger woman or not. There's an astronomical difference between politely responding to and greeting a young woman and being forced to having a relationship with one.

I'll go with @catinidaho on this. Please don't get pushed by people who are judgmental. Now, you need to make a choice from the two options, it seems! Either go out with the young-uns or your peer group. The former will make the latter feel insecure(even if unknowingly)! As to the trend, yes the kids of today are attracted to someone their parents' age! It's the happening thing these days. LOLZ

Reap what you sow

I'm going to make a point from now on of staying with my peer group. I've noticed more and more people being judgmental but also forced to go with the flow. Thank you for your encouragement and advice also to catinidaho. Much appreciated!

Hello Gabor

Why are you even telling women your age that you are chatting with younger woman?? Is that supposed to make you more desirable ? Obviously it has backfired . It is your choice who you decide to connect with and in what way . I can understand how a woman your age may react . If they sense you are attracted to a younger woman .. why would they give your their time or attention . It is similar to men in the forums who flirt/hit on every woman who posts ..woman observe that happening and would be less inclined to show interest in a man that behaves that way . Chat with what ever age groups you want to . Though I have to ask if you truly are looking for a woman who is a similar age .. what is the purpose in connecting with someone younger ?? Just food for thought . Women are mostly very observant .

Thank you kindly @Blondey111 for your solid advice and insight. I'm going to avoid the younger women like the plague and follow through on seeking for women much closer to my age.

Hello handsome man nice to meet you here..do you care to chat with me ?

i cant figure out why would you even chat with younger womem .. which 22 year old would want to have a lasting relationship with an older guy ... is it an ego issue !!!??
i figured a long time ago that these young women were real bad news, and most were scammers anyway ...
it's better to flirt with the women in your age group .... flirting is good for the soul , and you never can tell , plenty single women like being flirted with ... in fact , couple of women who I started out flirting with, ended up being dates and more ..
the only young gal I chat with is my Daughter ..... so yeah stay in your age group unless you see a huge advantage in dating younger women.... just saying ...

Chat with who you want to and don't worry about it.............learn to read people.
I'll be 65 this fall and one of my FWB that recently moved away was 28, I don't think either of us gave age a thought.
Be true to yourself...........

I wouldn't like a man your age to greet women in their 20s. Why? Like Slim gym asked, is it ego?
I find it creepy, and I felt the same way when I was in my 20s and that happened. When I was 22 my dad was 51. I didn't need men my dad's age to show an interest in me.
It's regarded as "dirty old man", also by young women.

When you live in a small town in a thinly populated area everyone pretty much says "Hi" to everyone else.
I didn't mean for you to read into this that I'm out hitting on random young women (that's why I said "learn to read people").
So yeah I know you probably can't imagine everyone talking to everyone else but in this part of the world that's the way it is.

What makes you think I was reacting to you? When you react to anyone other than the OP you use quote. If not, you are addressing the OP.
It's always been that way, so why you feel personally addressed is beyond me.\


As for a small town... the place I live in isn't even a town, it's a village. I grew up in a village, and lived in different ones for most my life. The one I lived in before the current one for 10 years had approx. 350 inhabitants, kids and babies included.
Ask before you draw conclusions.

it is o.k. greet everyone, we should treat everyone with respect. older women

sometimes see young women as competition. on the other side of the coin there

are some ''dirty old men''.....and there are now in today's world a lot of

dirty old women also.....befriend anyone you like, its your life and your not

in this world world to live up to any one's expectations and they do not have

live up to yours....i have a friend who married a woman 30 years older than

him, they had a great marriage.......good luck.....

Most older men have no problem with talking to or dating/ relationship with a YOUNG woman.
Most younger women want young men.


Women in your age group may think you not attracted to them. And from your post, you're not.