I have been with my woman for 3 months knowing that she was married
but seperated. She had no intentions of going back to her husband but
lately she has been starting to date him and me just to see who she
really wants!! I am in love with her simply because she is very good
hearted and not just for the sex even though it's been the best I ever
had!!!!! I am willing to wait for her and just keep things the way they
are,I will be seeing others too because she says she wants me too and I
think I know where that could lead to. Anyone have any advice as to what
I should do and if it's good or bad I will listen!!! My heart is
breaking over this and I don't know what to do?

fallow your heart. trust the iner voice..it speaks voulms...

im with sphere if ya love her, theres nothin you can do to change that.
wish u the best of luck. sweep her off her feet every time u see her.

Give her an altimatum, and dont give her long to decide!
Thats what I say. life's too short to waste on someone who cant make up
their mind! You cant have it both ways!

This is what I would do, she says date ok!!!!

Find ya a babe, really cute and or one that she knows and thinks is
cute, then make plans with the cutie and make sure that you can plan on
bumping into or stoping by your ladies place, but when you get all three
of you in the same room, make sure you act like the cutie is your whole
life---kissing hugging
all over her, you know (like get a room) then act like you want to take
her away to ravis her in private and then leave. now what ever you two
really do is up to you, but as far as your lady goes, let her contact
you, or avoid her and act like you love the cutie,,,, then see if your
lady changes her mind about wanting you, if she does'nt, fkh, leave the
dizzy user,
now if she does want you now? take her and never look back, and never
let her WANT to look back!!!!!!!
That just to see if she has REAL love for YOU inside her heart
for YOU....... please let me know if ya GET_UR_DONE!!!!!

i've never seen some one in your situation end up the..don't know what
to call it...the winner? she's gonna stomp on your heart'''the first
guy ...she'll continue to go back to him...do you want to be.." THE
Other GUY??""never been fun for me...I'd move on...unless the sex is
good enough..cause your not gonna get much more than just sex..I can
tell you that.

That is excellent advice 4u,!
Whatever he does he shouldn't listen to the women advice, because they
all want it all!

Now , the purple kitty, that is a truthful woman,there

been there done that seen it lots of times..never a happy ending..

TRUTH IS YOUR HURTING NOW AND YOUR GONNA HURT WORSE LATER IF YOU LET HER
HAVE HER CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!!

SORRY SHORT BUT SWEET TOSS HER OUT WITH YESTERDAYS TRASH YOU ARE BEING
USED!

BUT IF YOU LIKE LEFTOVERS THEN STAY WITH IT!

BEST OF LUCK

PRIME EXCAMPLE OF A NICE GUY GETTING USED AND WHY THEY GET SO DOWN ON
WOMEN!!!!!

ya...it happens tomen and woman...your either gettin fucked..or your
GETTING FUCKED!!!!

listen to your heart if it is meant to be then it will happen

Let her go find one that is ready for you now!11

personally,were it me,having been th same boat here as this...

I'd tell the ex,in front of her,that he had his chance,
and he needs to go...NOW...no more dates on th' side...
*Booty Calls*
Then...
remind her of all the shit she told you about the ex,and keep her from
wanting to stray,Love her as you would be Loved...

if she still wants him,you are still being played,
then get out while you can,PEACEFULLY..............M.

My take on this is to giver her some space, do not crowd her at this
time. She is clearly having second thoughts about her husband and in all
honesty that's a good thing. There are far too many divorces taking
place in this day and age, remember a marriage is not dirty laundry,
something to discard when there is a problem.

Marriage is a partnership and both members of the relationship have to
try each and every day to keep it fresh and alive, not just move on
because the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence...

I am sure you could find someone less complicated...

I say get out while the going is good. You know what can happen, and it
probably will. My experience with a lady is she started seeing her first
x and realized what she tossed away. I realized most ofthe keepsakes in
her house were from him. I couldn't get out of there fast enough. Two
weeks later I am on my own again and hurting terribly but It didn't last
very long. You can't compete with memories, they were married for one
reason or another. If they are trying to work it out? Good luck that
simply means they still love each other, and may still be IN LOVE with
each other.

Think about it, Thats just my opinion though.

G

Well said G.

Every experience I have ever had with getting involved with some one
that was allready involved ( and my experience's would definately be
limited lol) Have turned out bad. I would advise against it....but then
again I am asingle...what do I know lol !

Let her go and keep looking....I have been married 3 times, you don't
date your ex!!! your heart is gonna get broken, she still has feelings
for him and is keeping you on stand by "just in case"...and I agree with
whoever said that if the marriage can be repaired it should be.

I have to agree that you should move on and forget the "affair", because
it seems to be just that. She may be doing to her ex, what IAm said you
should do to her. Or she may be using you as a rebound to avoid the hurt
her ex is giving her.

It does not sound good any way you look at it or write it. Move on.