That’s first ideal

trust we must all earn.....the way to predict future behavior is by past

behavior.....

first trust the person, then start the relationship. saves time.

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Trust should be inspired. A realization and acceptance of risk.
If it's "earned" it's a weapon of control.
If it's "given" it's a fools gift.

You have to pay attention, think, realize, let go, accept, whether or not you can, and how, you trust them, and the degree of trust they have in you.

If you turn it into some magic word like "god" or "soul" or "love" where it's either there, or not, an absolute with a completely subjective meaning that you don't even know the extent of, then you're just bumbling along getting in your own way, and at best forcing them to take responsibility for what you want and expect.


I would disagree.
But IMO a "relationship" starts pretty much from the word "hello," and what it "becomes" from that point is entirely up to me and the other person.

I also don't believe that "trust" is an absolute. Where you either absolutely "trust" someone, otherwise you "distrust" them.

I would say the first "ideal" is something more like "mutual attraction."
I would say "trust" is more related to ideals of "communication," and, "understanding boundaries."

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just it's not something that I learned now when you start out with the New lover two partners give each other trust in good faith and you have to earn the right to stay in good faith jealousy envy in possession having no business being around trust if you can't trust your partner and you obviously don't trust your love yourself she means you're not ready for this commitment

You have to have trust in a relationship because if you don’t trust that person why be with them Because the relationship will break down

I do not agree. People change, grow, evolve. You live and learn.
Maybe some don't, but you cannot base a statement for all on the few.

Just look at yourself. Are you the same person you were when you were 20? 30? 40? etc.
The art is to see, sense, and know whether or not a person is reliable for you now and not see what you want to see.

I trust on God .... the rest ... well .... is cash !!
OT .... I trust myself to see good in every one , and I trust eveyone will do the right thing .... if not , time to move on .. but all relationships begin with mutual attraction ... trust is an evolving trait ....

Attraction/chemistry first, then I know I want to get to know him.

It works for Me.

I've had a couple of marriage proposals.


Decisions .

Trust shouldn't be a issue in a healthy mature relationship, grown adults know how to treat the other and vise versa. It's just basic human decency.

Trusting is a Vital Concept in any Relationship.
W/out Trust you can never have a Happy Relationship.

People always feels because you love them you should trust them but then Trust is earned not given and it’s all take a little thing to earn that.. I believe in Trust first

I can’t trust any relationship before commitments

man and woman were created to be one and together. parents grow old, children grow up, partners are the ones who stay

I do not agree with this. People can change or when meeting the right person suddenly do the thing they didn't do before. It happens quite often that a guy gets together with a woman, including living together, for years on end, but never truly committing. Then he meets the woman he does fall in love with and he commits, marries her, and they have a bun in the oven within a short time too.

Just one example...
Another is people growing, learning, evolving, and as such getting a totally different way of being as an individual and as a partner.
My ex still thinks he knows me and what I'm like. Fact is, he doesn't know me at all anymore as I'm lightyears away from the woman I was when with him. Meaning I am now also a totally different partner in love

And then there's this: ... someone's past is none of your business. You'll likely not hear about it until you're involved either. I sometimes get men asking why I broke up with an ex. "None of your hotdanged business!" And I tell them that too, without the hotdanged, hihi.

Sorry for this! Is there any such chemical? With which the human heart can be tested? His faith can be tested! I tell you this because you are a chemical engineer. I believe that whoever believes in God can never deceive people. If you want to believe, trust him so much that he is ashamed to break your trust. We have to trust someone or something. Otherwise, our lives will be ruined by finding faith. Thanks

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your comment about this subject is so innocent and sounds from heart. but believe me, people say they believe in God (no matter what religion) or they at least say they have good ethics; still they can deceive you in many ways. trust and faith in a relationship are not only love-wise. it may be about anything. there is not a chemical for testing the hearts, but a friendship period to observe the person may be of so much help :) and personally i am beyond those limits to first have faith, and then get let down. after an age, logic works stronger. sorry, i dont know your age yet, at least for my age my experiences tells me this :) and also thanks for your kind comment and sharing it.