help im s single dad

It's simple.
Where there are siblings,
there will always be some
sort of rivalry.

If it's a hostile rivalry,
and the kids are the same gender,
and close enough in age...

Put some boxing gloves on them,
walk their happy little azzes
out in the back yard,
and let them settle it.

Don't let the door hit ya on the way out.

Keep them apart as much as possible. I had two daughters, one was a foster child. They hated each other. Just remember time. One day they will be gone and you will miss them.

lol...why in the world would anyone miss someone who hates their offspring?

Anyway, I have 5 sibs and I used to fight and disagree with my elder sister - who is 3.5 yrs my senior but very much my junior emotionally and so often we fell out for silly stuff like not being willing to share, needing own space, privacy issues and such which are not an issue when living separately like now but the 2 main things that really hurt me and I let her have it for were when she did something bad with me and denied it, and when she accused me of being rude to our dad and didnt ask a question as to why when she knew I was closer to him than any of the other kids and when I beat her rump my late mom parted the fight and took her side - that hurt - it was because the family favored her for her appearance - (she got the Italian blood line evident by skin color and hair texture and height while I got the Chinese height and eyebrows, and African color, and hair texture...)and as adults we still dont talk about that and still dont always agree with each other on certain issues but I am emotionally and mentally more grounded and stable. So I do like she is dead anytime a feeling rises up to feel sad about **** I cant change. Some people deal with trauma better than others. If the rivalry involves serious harm to other kids then seek counselling professionally.

So...hi...I wonder if you got my post...if your kids are fighting badly they may need counseling from a pro...a child psychologist or psychiatrist if they are threatening each others' lives and destroying things...you can also try to send one by some other relative or adult they trust and you trust for a cool off time but be very cautious of this cause sometimes these people are the ones who molest your kids and they never tell cause they are threatened so...you decide...if you pray then by all means pray about it and pray with them and look up scripture that teaches about love and brotherhood/sisterhood and read it with them.
It also helps some times to give them a challenge and promise a reward you can actually really give them if they meet the challenge_ no fights for a week = a treat; give them something to do together and if they do it without a row give them something they want badly that you can give and not be sorry for later.
Peace comes when kids are assured of their individual worth and value and that they are loved. It also comes when you give them separate rooms or beds or changing areas or something that they are fighting FOR.
Give them each time with you alone and reinforce the bond you have- adoptees suffer from adopted child syndrome already and a kid who has not accepted an adoptee or an adoptee who bullies a birth child is serious.
If your issue is not fighting kids...then...What do you need help with?

no no no ! If they hurt each other it's on you. why not let them go scrub something dirty - a wall, the bathroom, the garage floor, the yard walkway, their sneakers, their knapsacks, something...let one be indoors and one outdoors and after they have done that work if they are still angry and belligerent then let them cut up vegetables ...no the knife might be a bad idea...well take the one who did a better job to some place nice and let the other one stay home alone - that might cause you to come and find everything wrecked...take them for therapy!!!

Sometimes nothing works and you just have to make the best of things.
I've been there with my two kids, boy and then a girl.
Now 30 and 27 they get along great, and have done for years. When he's needs urgent help, like a ride to the GP, she's there, and when she's in need of help she can always count on her brother. Even in the middle of the night.
They have great times together, deep and good conversations and so on.

It's almost hard to remember now how much they fought and were in each other's hair!
And again, sometimes you can't do anything much, just do the best you can. And try to not pull your hair out in despair or frustration.

I’m not sure keeping them apart is much the thing that connects children. I think making them compliment each other will make them love each other better

takeaway the games and phones until they apologize to one another