all these women want to text only. why can't we talk in person like normal people? its infuriating

Ask myself the same question...

How close do you live to each other, and are you looking for the same things?

Is she comfortable enough talking to you that she wants to meet up? Also, as Cat said, are you close by? I get a lot of messages from people that don't live right next to me, and my job makes it even more difficult to just meet up with someone. Now if you have been talking for a while and they keep pushing you away, it might be that they are not interested, in which case they need to be honest about it. Good luck with the search

women have a lot more to lose than we do....so most will test us in order to

see if we are what we say we are.....every woman should ''make the boy earn

it''.....when a man works for something he appreciates it lot more and that

includes a woman's time ect......

I'm not testing any guy.

I do agree with you Cleve, but I would also like to add that a woman also needs to be able and willing to put in the work for a damned good man too.

A woman if really interested about you, she won't test you. Unless a person who has doubt on you or she is playing games.

well I'm often asking myself. " what is she scared of that she won't talk to me in person? ". UNLESS they're a fake!

I don't mind Chatting for awhile. BUT if they want to Go Offsite, RUN! I have had "Ladies" whose Profile say they live no more than 1hr from me. Once I tell them that... they Deactivate their accounts or Ignore me.
I ask if they would like to meet someplace Public and get Coffee or even Lunch.
I don't have to say the reason why they Deactivate their Accounts or Ignore me. It's well known why.
But Again IF they want you to go Offsite... RUN! Don't look back.

Not always. I've personally had a few bad experiences with meeting someone offline before I was ready to. But I would still like to think that a real person would be honest with you about it and voice any concerns to you.

its not a conscious action most women do, it is necessary because getting in a

relationship blind with most men in to days world is just plain reckless. men

should always have there eyes open also....

i have one last thing to say about this.we all have hidden agendas, they do

not show up till the right buttons are pushed.....''so eyes wide open''...

Agreed....... Both people need to keep their eyes open and take their time getting to know each other.

You took the words right out of my mouth. This has been my experience entirely. I'm starting to wonder if any of them are real. I've had more than a few times gotten a message and replied within 10 minutes or so and the account was deactivated. Once I saw a message when I was online and replied within a minute, yup, she was deactivated too.

Many are obviously scammers and many of the rest are playing games or just not serious. Oh, and those who claim to be nearby but after chatting they say they are "temporarily" out of town when in actuality they do not live where they claim, they just put ads all over looking to get a victim. Often the first clue is their phone number has the wrong area code.

It seems like we would have a better chance standing on the street corner and asking those passing by if they would like to meet for a bite to eat. Would probably get an occasional taker which is more than I've found here. I'm not bitter just tired of it all.

Saying "make the boy earn it" sounds like playing games. Who wants someone who plays games?

Unfortunately now is hardly to have real relationship offline. When there is no email, WhatsApp, social media etcs, people seem like more genuine and appreciate in a relationship. High tech just let us more difficult to find a right person. Now take the risk to meet scammers and wasting time on a person who never show up. But still have faith someday we will find a right person. Good luck, guys! Keep positive!

it stops the games....its exactly what i would expect most guys to

say....there are wounded women everywhere because men do not take time to try

to understand them....read the book ''think like man act like a lady'' you

just might learn something new about woman.....

I don't necessarily agree that it's playing games. I've had a few people who after 2 messages want me to give them my phone number. I've had a couple of people who as soon as they get off the site, their attitude changes, and I have had some come out with a sob story that requires some money on my part. So I can see the benefits of making someone put in a little bit of work and effort to get to the next step. If they truly want to get to know you, they will be willing to make the effort. Male or female. I can get a hundred men who say the same thing....... I'm looking for the gentleman who is the standout of the bunch. No one should have to settle for less.

ride on girl.....your going to save yourself a lot of heart burn....and

besides

your worth a guy investing time and effort to get know you.....love starts

with loving ourselves first.......love and protect the beautiful little girl

inside you and she will serve you well.........best of luck.....