I find that most men are extremely poor communicators that have no dedication or patience when it comes to relationships. And it is getting harder to find an attractive, real and good man. Most men want someone perfect when there is no such thing and are quick to give up. Is it better for women to just be alone? There's nothing but mostly clowns out here these days. Sign of the times I guess.

IMO, the same can be said for both genders.

I think its important to realize after 1950 or so, television has become a growing factor in child development. Over the years, media has become a staple in most people's lives and with that 'entertainment' comes life standards.

Add to it the increasing personalization of advertizing and promotionals which make everyone feel important and special.

Also important to note the personal sphere of influence has increased and global awareness is now possible on a personal level.

It all results in a mutation of the morals and ethics which govern how people interact.

People are subject to routines and patterns. Whenever they are forced out of a routine or pattern it puts them off-balance.

People are subject to personalized influences. Whenever they are forced to abandon individuality and choice, it puts them off-balance.

Fewer and fewer people are able to cope with change to their directed perception.
So when someone new comes along, they react to try to preserve their expected norm.

These trends of society are not done by rational decision but are ingrained by influences which persistent. TV, media, advertizing, NEWS, global communication, etc...

People will fight to keep their TV, their phones, gaming systems and so on.
Multiple generations have been constantly influenced by outside agendas.
Money and power has subplanted old values of family, tradition and respect because we have been slowly taught to be this way. Taught by agendas of someone else's choosing.

These things are not hidden. You can see it if you choose to look.
Take a few moments and sit in a parking lot and just watch people.
See how they cling to their phones and how they interact with those around them.

There's an awful lot of people who are unhappy but have no idea why they are.
People carry stress like its important and will fight to keep it.
Its no wonder there is problems building relationships with meaning.

My suggestion is for you to change the criteria in which you choose.
Either that or increase your tolerance for socially driven insanity.
Choose wisely.

Indeed you are right, both genders are becoming more and more impulsive in their overall approach towards life. Everything is seen from the perspective of short time utility. We are losing our traditional values and morals. Our world view has been badly influenced by technology, shaping us into ill-mannered and sick beings.

But coming from another point of view, I think many women are dreaming of a perfect man with a bank balance, a house and a car and then expecting that this role model should be loyal and faithful to one woman. Well, on a frank note, someone who has worked his ***(or is lucky) out to get to the top, would not let go the fruit of his hard work and will grab as much of it as possible. Dont expect loyalty from someone who is on top of this artificial leader of social standards.

I guess women should also be more pragmatic and see a man as a human being, rather than a successful, shining and good looking object.

There are countless men on here, like myself, who are actually looking for true love and an everlasting relationship, but guess what who do we get to talk to, either fake profiles, scammer, people who are trying to sell something to us or women who never seem to be ok with our looks, ethnicity, skin color, personality type etc. The fault is on both ends

Fully relate to your statement, it's very true

I've noticed it can depend on age. It seems that the age that men and women are single (divorced) and ready for something new that's serious is not the same.
Especially the age you specified, a man in his forties. These are often still in marriage, or only recently out and not willing to get into another serious commitment. They rather like to have fun and play the field, with young women as much as possible.
The become more sensible when in their 50s but then you get other chit that you as a woman might not want (to do with sex and their functionality).
But I found that finding a loose specimen in his forties isn't easy.
I once addressed that here and more women confirmed this.

Of course it is not impossible, just not easy.

Also how you present yourself makes a helluva difference! Photo that shows eyes, not shades is one. A bit more profile text that shows what kind of womyn you are.
And you may want to think of your name... Might sound silly, but "bionic" doesn't sound feminine. Up to you of course, but such seemingly small things do set a tone.

I've noticed that the majority of men cannot address you by your name. OK, fair enough if you don't know it, just ask. I refuse to answer any man who calls me, sweetie, honey or baby. A few simple manners go a long way with me..

Thank you SC........well put and I totally agree.

Sounds like you are not having success and looking for others to blame Why exactly do you feel you are being held to some Imaginary perfection scale . Perhaps the issue is not with men but your self esteem . Labelling most men as jerks or clowns will likely influence your behaviour .. subconsciously or otherwise . Men will sense your attitude and respond accordingly ... expect to stay single ... it is okay to have ideals and expectations when it comes to dating .... but if the consequence is bitterness and belittling potential dating prospects .. your approach is flawed . Perhaps rethink your dating strategy

very good Blondey

I can safely say the same thing about women... but that would be childish. you're just looking for luv in all the wrong places

Yes very accurate good feedback

If you really are not attracted to jerks, don't go to the same places where you find jerks, look somewhere else. Don't blame your lack of good character judgement on others.
The world is full of full time jerks, and occasional jerks, who all try to attract someone. Get used to it, and learn to discriminate.

Communication is a woman skill, men only need to point and grunt, and the others know exactly what he means, without messy words and associated (mis)interpretations. Deep and meaningful talk is a minefield, with pop up assumptions to cause men confusion and future pain.

Are you impatient with men who have no patience ? Women live longer than men, so we have less time to waste waiting for things to happen.
If there is no fire, and the cupboard is bare, a man generally isn't endlessly waiting around for maybes.