Hard to get!

Is it? It should be enough to look in the mirror...
And about finding love with a romantic partner... be thankful it isn't that easy!
What if every woman you'd come across roused those feelings of deep love in you? It would make life hell.
At least now if you find it you know that person is the one for you.

Harder to define as it seems to have a subjective meaning.

I mean it's like being part of a tribe, sitting around a fire, and saying "Go out into the dark woods and find a 'true monster.'"

Some people are going to go off and come back with all sorts of different things.

One guy brings back a wolf. "These are the true monsters, they hunt in packs and with cunning attack us."

Another brings back a deer. "These eat all our food crops so we starve in winter."

Another brings back a rat. "These bring in all sorts of diseases that make us sick."

Another brings back ivy. "These kill off the local plant life in the ecosystem and grow berries that poison our children and pets."

And someone is going to be sitting there saying "we're the true monsters, we're just sitting around talking, then going out and murdering a bunch of things."


"True love" is hard to get because it's too vague a term.
It allows you to constantly move the goal posts for what it "really" means.

Other than that, "love" is the most natural thing for people.
It's not something you "get."
It's part of the process of building a relationship with someone/people to perpetuate a relationship. It's a tool, not a goal. It's a reaction, not a destination.
It's a feeling like any other originating inside you, there is a reason why you have that reaction. It's not an external gift bequeathed upon you for defeating the hardship and loneliness boss.

You want "true" love? Commit to a purpose for a relationship, find someone with the same purpose, pursue that together, love will develop.
The more you see the purpose of the relationship is about stroking selfish short term emotional needs? The shorter the relationship, no need for "love" to really develop, or grow.


But again, depends on what you're "really" asking or mean.

I mean a lot of people that bemoan the difficulties of "love" are "really" asking/wanting: "I don't ever want to feel anything negative. Why can't I just be handed a consistent source of validation and emotional gratification when I want it? Why doesn't Amazon have a free product I can click on that allows me to just wallow in a constant state of accomplishment, acceptance, of being desired and valued?"

Hello

You can't get love, it's rather reciprocated

Have you looked under the fridge?

If you could just get true love, then everyone would have it, and everyone would be so nice. But It can only be offered, not got.
You can get fake love from all manner of places, even from under the fridge, if you dropped something there accidentally, and found it later.
With that fake love, you can get other unwanted surprises.

Its only arise when we think that something is out there for what we are looking for, we have great interest. And Its only feelings not the truth. There is nothing called true its only which we create either ourself or the environment in which we are living our life.

only dust bunnies there, no playboy bunnies, sadly

All love is true or it isn't love at all, its something else.

hi

I have waited all my life soulmate. until you came into my world. there's nothing but darkness and gloom. my words is missing the sun/moon

Hello

yes am here