Ive visited quite a few of these online dating sites, and ive come to the conclusion about all of them. For the most part, online sites are the equivalent of bars, but only without the music or drinking. Everyone has some sort of high expectation when it comes to the people they talk too. Most people tend to forget that they are online looking for someone. This is just my opinion, but if you are online looking for someone, then somewhere down the line, meeting someone in person in real life went completely wrong and you were forced to try other means of meeting someone. To place yourself higher than others, cause you want to have impossible standards when it comes to meeting someone just makes your life more complicated than it needs to be.

Girls who state that they are "Looking for a man for Friendship" I mean come on, now your just being retarded. If you want friends go to the mall and hang out in the shops and talk to people throughout the day. I personally have plenty of friends. I don't need anymore friends. I on the other hand want to find a girlfriend to whom I can have a relationship with. I know most of you are gonna say, "You have to be friends first before you can have a relationship". Rarely does a girl say that and actually means that she wants to take it slow, in that case theres nothing wrong with that. Most of the time this is said cause the people are self absorbed, ego maniac, who likes to get attention from numerous guys who only want to be with you, but instead you just use them to build yourself up. Have you ever seen a guy say "I just want a nice, cute girl whom I can be friends with, and maybe more one day". The answer is Hell No. If you know guys who say this, then either they are closest perverts, stalkers, or just Gay. Relationships aren't plants that you tend to, so that one day they can grow into something more. A relationship is something that is either there or its not. Thats why we go on these things called dates. We go out with people we don't know and we learn about them, and we either feel something for them or we don't. Simple as that. Of course the next argument is "Well ive been hurt a lot of times and I don't want to be hurt again". So do you want a cookie? Once again placing yourself higher than everyone else. Do you think that you are the only person who has been through some type of emotional turmoil? Everyone gets hurt, and everyone moves on. Heres a tad bit of information. Everything that happens to you in your life, is your fault. You are the cause of your own misery. If you get hurt in relationships, and it keeps happening, then more than likely you make really bad decisions when it comes to guys, or your just too incredibly shallow and are just too ashamed to admit it. Everything comes down to choice in your life. We are all looking for that missing piece to our lives. For the people who are genuinely looking for someone its suffocating to try to meet someone when everyone is so closed off. Its like being a non smoker and walking into a room full of heavy chain smokers. Its really hard to get anything accomplished.

well I agree with about 90% of that... Well said!

I had a real response to this thread until I read that. Then I completely forgot what I was going to say.

HEY! Some of us girls "looking for a man for friendship"... duh... this site doesn't give an option for "looking for friends in general"... and I'm not really up for a bunch of girl-on-girl action....

Some of us are here for just friends... and there are GREAT people on this site...

for someone like me... it's a perfect way to interact with people since I don't get out much.

Don't judge by stereotypes... there's an exception to every rule...

i agree with you im not goin to really talk to some girl if she just wants friendship i am here lookin for sa girl worth to be with only a few i would accept to be friends but most girls...if i really take a likin i will tell straight but if they are not interested then i will just move on

You just have to wade through until you find what you are seeking.

I don't think there can be a web site that is free and strickly for dating purposes only. Maybe the pay sites would be better for you.

Well said

dude you are my new hero!

u guys r ugly and thats why u r saying all this, look at me all girls are crazy for me and they all wan me

I have come to the conclusion after reading your post Mimx....


You don't have a clue, and still think with a needy, 'victim' attitude.

When you give up YOUR expectations, you may just get a clue.

Lol

lol

Ummm ooops....was I thinking aloud again?

It has nothing to do with cute vs ugly... it's attitude... confidence... and if you respect yourself... if you spend your time talking about personal or really gross stuff, people aren't gonna pay any mind to you... and if you spend your time crying about how the site sucks because nobody is noticing you... well why on earth would anyone want to?

Be yourself. Have some fun... so what if ya don't hook up within the first 2 months you are here... honestly...

Pay sites are really no different than free sites.
JSH has the best forum out of all the sites!
Lotsa great people on here

you just have to pee on the heads of the bad ones and offer a towel to the good ones to dry their heads with in case you got them mixed up

she is right, she is singing her heart out, but no success but still looks happy and positive

What do you mean NO SUCCESS?

u know what i mean, making the poor guy feel better

Dude, you're the fvcking man! I agree, people are becoming very egotistical these days. They always put themselves higher than you, yet they get pissed off when they have no real friends/relationships.

and yes, it seems to be like this on every dating site i tried.

...might as well bum around coffee shops like i did in HS. LOL