im on the verge of cheating, yea i know i am terrible. i have been with my bf for almost 3 years we have a 6 month old baby together, he works all the time and we barely have time together, i dont feel connected with him anymore and we argue when we are together. its a very long story, i could go on and on. im talking to this guy i went to high school with and we are talking about hooking up. i want love and passion what can i say and im not getting it. i have never cheated before and i do know if i do i will have a guilty concious big time!!! what do ya'll think, honestly. please dont be hateful!!!

Let me tell you, from the other end. It hurts like hell when someone is trying to replace you. If it's over end it. My b/f and i have been together for over 2 years and we have a 10 months old. 3 times he has tried to cheat on me and I hate him for even trying it! I dont want to seem mean or anything but I know how he would feel.

yes i know its so hurtful and wrong to do, but i cant help my feelings

Going outside a relationship is never a way to fix it. There are children involved, so please think of them before yourself. I can completely understand that you want to be understood and conected to a person, but you are. You just lost it for the time being.

Don't demean yourself or disrespect your partner without sitting him down and talking to him. If you cannot talk without arguing, figure out why. Get counseling if you need to. You are your ex are no longer together for a reason. Try to remember what that was. Also try to remember why your with your current partner and maybe he'd be receptive to hearing about your reasons too. It could be a good way to open lines of communication.

No hate here. Just understanding as I've been through it.

I've written about this before. My ex-wife was not intimate over sometime. No romance. Besides that she argued and complained all the time and the relationship wasn't fun.

I did cheat and she used that against me big time to this day.

Leave your current relationship..... Right? It's going to happen anyway.

This way you don't hurt him because I'm sure he's not expecting this.

John

way to come out and publicly admit you want to be a ho

Honey, cheating is NEVER right!!! talk to him and tell him whats missing in your love life, communication is key in any relationship!!!

you probably will feel guilty, do you think it is the end of the relationship or a bump in the road. Because if it is a bump then cheating will make it a mountain. It will feel great with the new guy ( the grass is always greener ) but that will probably wear off too. I would try my best to work it out with your baby's daddy. If you cannot do that , then just call it quits because once you cheat , you can never go back. Though cheating will seem alittle exciting and fun but just think real hard. Best of luck to you.

Break it off first

if your not happy say so...its only gunna make you look bad..and him feel like ****.And kids are no excuse to keep something going if its not working...they suffer more when a bad relationship...

She's not a ho! I wasn't. If you look at someone's circumstancees they can be driven to get intimacy when it is lacking at home.

I do believe some people can be selfish and cheat when there are no issues at home. I had the reverse with a GL that cheated when we had great sex and we had nothing but fun when we were together. She needed attention from many though (which is the reason I believe she was an exotic dancer for 10 years and still is). Her personal insecurities and lack of respect for a relationship has netted her a lot a lot of bf's over the years. I was one although I lasted longer than all but 1 at 2.5 years... Roughest relationship I've ever been through.

Give it some time with your boyfriend. Relationships do go through phases. Your old boyfriend probably seems like a sweetie now(and probably is), but believe me, you "typically" end up with more problems trying to raise a child with someone else(my daughter is now 25). You are young and have alot of life ahead of you... take your time and enjoy! :)

i dont think thats being a ho, ive been in several relationships where i wasnt happy and never thought of cheating, i have always thought of my children thats why i havent left him. i didnt know that it was wrong to want someone else.

I was cheated on by my ex wife.
Bad enough you may think. But when I found out that she was cheating with my ex best friend, then the pain one goes through is imeasureable.
If you're thinking of cheating. DON'T!!!
How would you feel if the tables were turned?

because youre in a relationship......stop one before you start another its not fair to everyone involved.....i said wanting to be a ho i didnt say you were one......

is it worth how u would feel about yourself? the guilt u say u would have?...... i wouldnt like that myself to have that feeling isnt worth it... i say break up with him and move on...

you 2 need to sit down and figure out what is wrong with the relationship, get outside help if neccessary. cheating will not fix it. once you cheat whats to stop you the next time. it gets easier after the first time. plus there is always the doubt if you cheated on your ex whats stopping you from cheating on me?? it will create more problems than it will solve.

Sorry hun -- but really think about this before you make a bad decision. Too many people will get hurt including you -- the two of you have a baby. There's a consequence hun. Hope you make the right decision for yourself and everyone concerned. Best of luck.

of course i wouldnt want to be cheated on who would but... i want to be happy and so therefore i think its time i deserve to be happy.

talk to him honey. you might be amazed the changes he will be willing to make if he is in love with you and wants to keep you. also keep in mind your baby is only 6 mos old. i have had 4 children and the first year of their life is sooo stressful on a couple it makes you feel like none of your needs are being met and you want to give up. but it gets better, you have to be willing to look past the end of your nose. commitments are not to be put aside lightly. think about the consequences of leading with your privates. if you cheat on him it could go very poorly in your favor in a custody hearing. not to mention its just plain wrong. if the two of you cannot find a middle ground then break up and then have time to heal and then see about starting in a more fulfilling relationship. dont make the biggest mistake of your life. dont give up before you've even tried. tell him you need a weekly date night alone with him. make little rituals for the time that u do have together. talk to him about how you feel.