i have a friend who is a girl, and i like her like alot, the only problem is she isnt single, and i need to break up the relationship, not just because i want her, but her boyfriend is abusive, yes i know this for a fact, but she wont break up with him, i think because she is afraid, so can you all help me?

You can't help someone that doesn't want help. You best bet is to turn and run the other way. Cry a little and move on. It is for the best.

lol. Cry a little and move on indeed. Meddling in these types of affairs NEVER yields a positive outcome.

i think she does want help, she's just scared to leave him.... and i will not leave her to be hurt by this prick

never will i leave her to him, ever

throw a brick through his windshield and attach a note saying "i know what you did last summer"

Sounds like you've got your mind made up. Why seek wisdom from the internet forums when your own is sufficient?

With maturity comes the realization that the only person one can control is one's self, and even then only about half the time.

oooh don't go there!!!!

good luck on the situation & try to not get hurt in the process

Good lord you are only 18!

That means your friend is your age or younger.

No matter how you feel about her there is nothing you can do.

If you break up her relationship she will hate you in the end and blame you for all the problems that she had with her abusive boyfriend.

She has to break it off on her own free will and come to you.

Maybe you should tell her parents of her abusive situation. If she is under 18 call childrens services and let them break it up.

she probably loves him still, but then again she needs to get out of that relationship, so do what you can go beat the **** out of him. lol

Stay away from this unless you see him physically hit her then you could step in

i have been in the same situation as ur friend.. my ex used to hit me everyday and when i tried to leave him he would lock me in a room. it was the scariest moments of my life.. but my brother figured out what was going one b.c. i used to hide all of the bruises or lie about them. if it wasnt for him stepping in, i dont know what would have happened to me. he never saw him hit me but he saw the bruises. he knew how scared i was but he didnt care, not just b.c. i was family, hes very against a guy hitting a girl. if you need to talk to someone about it, im here i know first hand how scary it is.

I understand you caring, and that's great. But be careful. Abusive relationship can be dangerous. You could risk her getting hurt even more by stepping in, as well as getting yourself hurt.

The best thing you can do is voice your concern to her, ask her what you can do to help.

If she is as young as you, I hope that she could confide in her parents. I hope she could even if she is older. She may be scared for her life, and it may be for valid reasons. You can't jump into something like this, it has to be handled carefully for everyone involved.

the only thing u can do for her (if u really think that guy is abusive) is attract her to you, away from him, and then treat her right.

Run him over with a car. Its fun!

Ok, now THAT was funny!

Some people don't get the message about beating women until they have 3600 pounds of steel run over them.

Its called a "wake up call".

If you KNOW for a FACT he's hitting her, STEP IN! Nobody stepped in when my sister's ex was hitting her and he wound up murdering the person I loved most in the world.

Do WHATEVER you have to do to get this prick away from her. Keep in your mind that even if she ends up hating you, at least she's safe. She'll eventually forgive you, but if not, at least she'll be alive to hate you.