I think emotionally intelligent people understand the Dynamics that should be in place when you're committed to one person it weakens the relationship when too much energy is given to an outsider and the other spouse is given a less amount of time and energy

yes, understanding the dynamics is the answer....

Doesn't really matter.

Can "you" be "friends" with the opposite sex?
If yes, then look to date those with similar beliefs.
If no, then look to date those with similar beliefs.
If you can be persuaded to change your belief, look for someone that can persuade you by who they are and how they live it.

You'll save a lot of time, energy, stress, and frustration if you avoid trying to convince someone to get rid of a relationship or value/moral belief for you.


Assuming there is mutual commitment, if one partner is out there making brand new "just friends" and then spending more and more time with them rather than their partner (assuming by choice rather than circumstance e.g. new job demanding more of a partners time leaving the other partner alone more often), that's an entirely different issue.

The simple answer for me is NOOOOO WAY!
When you think you want to be friends, at first it might fun and all that since you are single. But if you are in a relationship,... God help you. Moreover it wont workout in the long run

If u in a relationship u shouldn’t be looking for no friends but the way these guys set up now a days it will never be the same...

Making friends that you don't include you're spouse especially of the opposite sex is playing with fire. Anything you put above your spouse is an infidelity. Be it a person, job hobby, ect ..

Does that include bacon? But I soo love bacon too.

In optional cases only upto 4-5%️

If it included cheesecake, I am staying single for the rest of my life and beyond

never

Not for me, and I don't believe it can as often one does get either romantic or sexual feelings.
I have seen it happen, but usually that's when one is gay.
And a partner who has female friends is not acceptable to me.

What the hell are you doing with that bacon!!??!!

I've had female friends that didn't interfere with the SO. Been fishing with one BF and cruising in gal pals Mustang with her BF. Been lucky I guess.

Nope.

A woman can be frienda with a guy without it going anywhere, because she likes the attention. A woman friend to a guy is someone who hasn't got into her pants yet. Guys know this, and if you ladies don't believe me, flirt with your "platonic" friend. 9 times outta 10 he will reciprocate. Doesn't sound very platonic after that, does it?

Nonsense. I have as many male friends as female friends. Some try, but you know what, most just want a female friend to bounce stuff off and care for them and vice versa. Respect is the foundation of all relationships, male and female.
Men are not that shallow in my experience. They can and do want females friends.
Of course that changes when they are in a relationship, but respect, respects the female in their life and disappears...

Take my challenge then. And be honest with it, not a half hearted flirt. Nothing is absolute, that's why I gave it a 9/10 chance. If you want to lie to yourself, and believe that your male friends don't want into your pants, and they are truly platonic friends, there's no harm in that either. But if you have an ol man in the picture - he knows this, and that'll be a constraint on the relationship with him

yes I believe so I have male friends.

No, I will not take up that challenge. Why play with fire, when men need to know what it is to have a caring woman in their life? I would lose respect for myself and them. Sex is easy, friendships you need to work harder.
I work with married men. Not all men are motivated by sex as you seem to imply. Many have morals.

You're right... married men never step out

Peace. I don't want to argue with you.