I do. To me, Non-monogamy, aka polyamory, is a way to access an abundance, where love and support are concerned, via partnerships, play mates, and community.
Many folx see Polyam as just a form of cheating, in fact, most of society believes this. But it isn’t, bc all who are involved are consenting adults, and such relationships only operate with loads of open communication about needs and boundaries, which is a real load of work, but totally worth it bc of the freedom one gains: to love many.

I’m not an expert, but I would argue that bc of things like practicing open communication, the voicing of boundaries, and in speaking on one’s needs, that ethical and consensual non-monogamy actually has the potential to bring way more honesty, safety, and satisfaction to anyone’s life, should they choose to begin this love practice.

Polyam: The expanding of your heart, mind, and communication abilities or just cheating?

What do you believe?

I believe you are free to believe whatever you want. If your beliefs impact others negatively I believe your beliefs are wrong beliefs. Other than that, have at it.

However... I argue that your arguments will have zero impact on most people one way or another. In other words, you believe what you wish and let others do the same.

I've been in polyamorous relationships for various periods of time over a couple of decades. As long as the people (potentially) involved have knowledge and give consent, it's moral, ethical, and not cheating.

The opposite of monogamy is not polyarmory but polygamy. Poly-armory is sexercises more than one person, in other words, it's about sex.

I don't like the idea of forced monogamy, by which I mean this being forced upon you by religion, society etc.
For the sheer reason that i don't think it's really possible for most to be happy and fulfilled with one partner for decades. Some do, but those are few and far between. Most stay together when they do out of habit, obligation, religion, and so on.

In that sense I am for having the freedom to have loving moments or 'a thing' with someone else while in an otherwise exclusive relationship. Always with consent, not sneaking around and cheating.
I do not think it has to harm the relationship whatsoever, if nothing else it can add to it. And will help keep a couple together for long long times, happy and fulfilled.
I'm also not talking just sexercising whomever you meet, I'm talking being able to act upon it if you get serious butterflies and feelings for someone else, but not in the way you want to spend your life with them.
I think we all have had these experiences with someone while in relationship, although most won't admit to it.

I don't think this lifetime I'd be able to accept it myself, although I wished I could. My ego is still in the way, even though I do sense the above concept is wonderful and far more from unconditional love the the current way of having relationships where in all honesty the exclusivity is based on fear.

I think bamboo, is better for outdoor furnishings.

Do I believe in it like I follow it like a religion and let it define me?
No.


I believe it's just rationalizing. People wanting to have their cake and eat it to so they come up with some pseudo emotional lofty ideals to justify what they want to do.

I see "Polyam" little different than "I'm going to work 3 part time jobs rather than try really hard to develop one meaningful career in depth, then I'm going to brag about how all these jobs teach me about true professionalism."


I don't believe it's "cheating" though.
I see what some people define as "monogamy" as simply a social construct based on a lack of understanding of biology. e.g. "forever and ever, 'true' love," that's really just a 3-7 year result of a bonding process for the sake of procreation.

People are born babies. Babies want what they want when they want it how they want it. There is no real difference between a baby and adult except for how they go about gratifying those urges that used to make them cry and fuss. They're simply taught they can't just cry and be catered to.

That's all anything pretty much is. People learn ways to gratify themselves, reduce the risks/costs of gratifying themselves, then come up with lofty ideals to justify and validate the continuation of what they're doing.

What ideals are being forced down the collective throat anymore? "Everyone is a unique, talented, worthwhile individual, inherently deserving of respect, consideration; a snowflake. To be a 'good' person (i.e. to be safe in society so you can have greater access to what gratifies you for less cost/risk) you need to believe and follow diversity, multiculturalism, and inclusion."

What value would monogamy have in that paradigm? To choose one person to commit to, thereby not accepting to the same level 7 billion other snowflakes?

"Polyam" is simply a deluded means of pursuing self actualization through shallow gratification spread among numerous "partners."
Simply avoiding the "non sex" boundaries of "friendship" due to "fomo" making sure you don't deny yourself any convenient emotional gratification you might happen to feel a compulsion towards.

I do think a "polyam" relationship would be better for those that constantly seek attention, approval, and feedback from people, needing to constantly be around a lot of people than a monogamous relationship would.

I think other people would be better served by a monogamous relationship.

So, TLDR, no, it's not cheating, but it's not some higher level of relationship. People define relationships. Relationships don't define people.
Relationship types aren't fish oil multivitamins sold on Sunday talk radio with guaranteed results for everyone.

While it is possible, I don't think it is practical for most people. Their morality and their self image will not allow them to accept any type situation outside of monogamy. For those few who can embrace a polyamory lifestyle, it probably is an almost perfect loving, supportive relationship.

Sorry, but you are totally ignorant of the facts.

Yes

Well I believe in it yes
I mean, it exists
But its not for me
The thought of my girlfriend being with anybody else in that way, is torturous to me
And I'm not cool, with her, being cool, for me to do it either
I'm much happier, being over the moon, that she feels the same way,y about me, that I feel about her

However, for others, as long as they're all straight up, and cool with it, and it's not like some cult headπuck thing, then, its different strokes for different folks isn't it I guess, if they're happy, then its nobody else's business is it really

You wanna be..... their huckleberry.