Do you think I should keep on mailing my "boyfriend" even if he's not answering me for about 3 weeks now? He did this before and said that he's just too busy that he had to leave at a drop of a hat so he can't reply to my messages and now he's doing it again. I'm working two jobs and still manages to mail him. Is there really somebody who's that busy to not spend just a second to say that he's still alive? Or do you think he's already found someone else and I should move on?

I don't think that he can be that serious about you if he can't find at least a few minutes to message you.

If you were married to him, how would you feel if he did not come home for three weeks?

He is lying.

You are not his main priority sadly. You should want somebody who has more respect for you.

Ouch! But thanks for your reply. I guess I should've not taken him seriously too.

Thanks for your comment. Long-distance relationships aren't that reliable though.

I agree with the others, and I suspect it's something you already know or you wouldn't be asking.

Trust your gut feeling, it's okay to not wait around for someone who isn't that into you and seek out the one that is. Ladywind is right, and he's clearly not showing you the respect you deserve or desire.

It's up to you to choose whether to move on or not... just remember to follow your heart and be true to yourself. Ask yourself, "Is this really how I want it to be?". If not, then move on.

You know you deserve better

Women empowering women. Thanks, ladies!

I did believe everything he said 'coz I considered he's matured enough to be a man and he's twice older than me and with the culture difference we have. I really thought it maybe "normal" for him to need some time to focus on his work. But yeah, ya'll be right. I have to have enough self-respect to walk away from that kind of man. I think I'm not good enough to be taken seriously and I need to improve myself more.

Nope. If he loved you, was in love with you, he'd make the time.
It's an excuse they use when they're not really interested, and especially if they know you're not going anywhere no matter how crappy they treat you. You're still going to be there after 3 weeks, likely even 6 weeks, and very likely will welcome him back with open arms.
He knows that. Meaning he doesn't care about you, doesn't respect you, and very possibly is test-driving others in the meantime.

I agree with the ladies. He isn't worth your time sugar. You definitely deserve better then that.

Sounds like a scammer working too many rubes at one time. Hold off and see if he wants to visit you (and just needs some money to get there).

Walk away from it.

oh Plain-Vanilla, nobody is that busy to send a text saying "love ya" everyday to the person they are in love with. This person is taking you for granted. Let go.

Have you met in person? If not, you don't really know this person you call your boyfriend. For all you know, he is writing to multiple so called long distance girlfriends... and you are not the priority. Get it?

Merry Christmas

Thanks for the advice, everyone! I truly appreciate it. Maybe he gets bored with me so he stopped chatting.

Merry Christmas too!

You're probably right mzrosie. I shouldn't have trusted him easily. I'm such a fool.

You might want to rethink putting the blame for his actions/inactions on yourself.
You shouldn't need to make excuses for him.
I suggest looking up Healthy Self-Esteem.
You should always be yourself.
After-all, its your life you are living.
If you blame yourself for other people's issues you sink into a depressive state which can be VERY hard to rise from.

when I loved somebody (thousands of years ago) I would make the time, and be a creature of my word.... if fact, if I couldn't for a really severe reason, I'd make it my personal mission to get word to them! climb any mountain and move the rest (yes, I am the hulk), sail across a stormy sea... on a megalodon, fight a foreign aggressive, fully armed army with skittles and gummy bears, and actually win!


but I would get my message to them.... even if it was a bottle with a darn cork in it!


Plain Vanilla....1

loser boyfriend....0

time to move on....

Vanilla, he doesn't have interest in you anymore and doesn't have the guts to tell you. Good luck.