Just a southern belle seeking a gem that confidently knows who he is, not afraid to love, and driven for success.
Seeking love is SO hard now and I don’t think it should be!
Anyone or anything can have sex but how about love for a lifetime?

well let's just discuss further about it

Um, how do you define success?

Financial stability is a great way to start...
One’s annual gross is irrelevant to me as long as he is stable or motivated for success.
Many guys have the desire to date yet they seek financial help very early on. In my opinion, it’s not ok for the male or the female to not be in a position to date each other.

Females can be leeches too.
Have patience, great boundaries and I am sure you will meet a stable man.

Funny, because All I ever get are the ones wanting me to pay all their Bills and even their Grandparents Meds and not even willing to Prove who they are then Complain ( putting it Mildly ) how I am not living up to my Responsibilities to them..... " Ah, we have only been texting for a few days... How Do I have ANY Responsibilities to You??"...

I am Financially Stable but at the same time, is it soo much to ask that my Future Companion have their Own Income Also and even Pay for a Few Dates or Split the Dates.. She pays for the Gas bare minimum????

I agree with you SWM. My money would go to family first, then charities.

Topic: Why Is It So Difficult?


It's only as difficult as you make it
for yourself.

I agree!

hard to see that one now boo..but maybe just maybe you have a higher expectation, try to start liking imperfections people not just a men stuff that not so bad and tolerable,we all had that we just have to accept the fact that we can never get what all want in one person. maybe you'll see and like what love would offer you, it might a has a little bumps here and there but once you get to know the person it might not be as bad as you think.

halo

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU HERE

Funny, because All I ever get are the ones wanting me to pay all their Bills and even their Grandparents Meds and not even willing to Prove who they are then Complain ( putting it Mildly ) how I am not living up to my Responsibilities to them..... " Ah, we have only been texting for a few days... How Do I have ANY Responsibilities to You??"...

I am Financially Stable but at the same time, is it soo much to ask that my Future Companion have their Own Income Also and even Pay for a Few Dates or Split the Dates.. She pays for the Gas bare minimum????

I totally agree with you here, this is the way I enjoy it. I don’t mind buying my guy dinner sometimes or cooking for him.

As long as you keep telling yourself and everyone else who wants to hear it how difficult it is and what a-holes men are and so on you will keep coming across that.
If you stop doing that and work on feeling better about the subject it will begin to shift.

Right on

I know from personal experience that my mind is an excellent "if" generator...by that I mean, I create my own unhappiness by imposing countless "if's" as a requirement for my happiness...

so you take love and a relationship and keep tossing - if this or if that, then I will be happy...financially stable? notice how many folks you consider rich are not satisfied or happy?...the "if's" just keep coming...

turn off the generator!

It's difficult because it Burdens the one who has to constantly Pay...

I was dating a Girl beck in the mid 90's.. wanted me to Drive her everywhere but refused to put gas in my truck.. My truck broke down and had to barrow hers for 2 days..I had to Put Gas in it.. Her Car Broke down and she had to use my Truck, Never Once did she put Gas in it.. SHE was making More Money than I was at the time, yet I had to Pay for Everything.. We go out to eat at Burger King, She would Always Order the Whopper Meal Plain-Nothing On it and only Eat Half when she could have just ordered the Kids Meal_Plain and ate the whole thing for Way Less... Needless to say, we didn't last long, her cheating on me didn't help any either..

I once dated a Girl and she Knew I was Broke and didn't have a Job but still wanted to go out with me.. I told her I had Free Pizza and Movie Coupons left over from my summer job... She agreed.. We went out and the next day she was spreading around how much of a Cheap Bastard I was... this was in High School.

Every Girl but 1 wanted me to help them some how in some way, even if it wasn't for money.. I have Never asked for any help... Now, that I am building a House or trying to, I ask that my future Companion Helps Build but Not Pay... They also don't like the Idea of having to Live in a Camper While I build the house... Seems All I find are the High Maintenance.. Excuse me, the Expressive ( that's what she called herself) Ladies here..

So yeah, Why does it have to be soo hard to find a Lady who can support herself and not expect her man to pay for everything. Yes at the same time, if you are Traditional a Man Should take care of his Wife and Family but in todays society, he can't..

Wow!!...the OP has left the building...perhaps staying on Mingle proved more difficult than finding love...

Hi dear I would love to have a love with you. If you write me a WhatsApp number, we can continue our conversation with you.