It's this realistic or just something that's not achievable? I think it is achievable.

What do you call "benefits"?
Sexually Transmitted Diseases?
Jealousy and Drama that's bound to occur?
An eventual false accusation of Sexual Whatever?
I wouldn't touch a woman who would agree to such an arrangement with a ten-foot pole.

That being said, good luck in your search for a loose woman and a soul-crushing arrangement

Well you've answered your own question then haven't ya matey?

Just that you may be fishing in an empty ocean here.

Happens every day. You'll find some people SHOCKED (shocked I tell you) that such things are occurring!

Untreated syphilis will turn the brain into
Swiss cheese.



Best of luck.

Looks like some folks have made some baaaaaad life choices....

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Nailed it,

No one nailed anything here except their own paranoia.
As I've said here before I have FWB, currently 3 with 0 (like as in none) drama or diseases, what's required is complete honesty from the very beginning.
I am sure that it gets easier with age, I just hit 63 and my FWB are 47, 62 and 65. They are just women like me that don't have any desire to give up on sex just because we're getting older; we like each other we treat each other kindly and with respect and have a great time.
It can be done it just takes EFFORT, COMMUNICATION and RESPECT!
If you're not capable of these things with a women you'll need to change so you are or else I don't think you'll be able to have FWB.
Think of this: if you're lets say over 50ish and alone and want to change that DO IT!
If not now, when?
Time is NOT on or side.......

And btw as a footnote I wouldn't describe any of my current FWB as "loose women" and believe me I've known loose women. Read my profile.

If you have what you describe then more power to you. It's not for me though and I definitely wouldn't be caught dead between the legs of any woman over 40, much less naked.

Also, Sexually Transmitted Diseases is NOT paranoia, it's a reality that touches more people than you think, around the world, and even has the CDC seriously concerned as the numbers are reaching pandemic levels.

How we differ and age I suppose, I could not think of anyone young enough to be my daughter so it is 50+ for me And only one

Indeed, how we differ and age...

I'm 49 so I'm only fooling around with women between 30 and 40... My daughters are all under 25, smart, intelligent, kind, aware and awake so no risk of confusing them with my dates

Why wouldn't it be achievable? It has a name, you know what it is, and it's just a type of relationship, not like a 10lb naturally occurring perfectly cut diamond named Jeremy.

It's like asking "a car...realistic? Or just something that's not achievable?"

Is what you're "really" asking "FWB leading to absolute solipsistic fulfillment exactly and only when I want it and how I want it with whom I want it...realistic or just something that's not achievable?"

Then it depends on you and with whom you wish a FWB relationship.

And no one else can really answer that.

For all I know you haven't left your mom's basement in 15 years.
For all I know you're a multi billionaire that invented a type of chocolate cake that provides all nutrition, vibrates, and doesn't make you fat.

So these fwb all know you are seeing other woman? If that's what works for you and them ,than great like they say different strokes for different folks. But sooner or later one of them will start throwing shade about being "exclusive" then what? It's bound to happen , sorry not sorry I just can't wrap my mind about someone being just a hole

You seem to have the mistaken idea that a FWB is just about sex. The friend part of a friend without benefits (no sex) should be the same as a friend with benefits (sex). The question always comes down to: do you want more of a relationship than friendship? If you are looking for marriage or something similar, then being in a long term FWB situation is not for you! It is an opportunity to continue to live your individual life while still having a trusted friend and an active sex life. It may or may not be monogamous as the participants choose.

A FWB or FB is someone who is just to have sex with if you become emotionally attached "friends' then it is more and to have multiple sex partners and to try to put a spin on it by deluding yourself or them by calling it FWB when really it's just people who want to have sex and don't want to commit. You need to finesse that sales pitch Scooter cause I'ma not buying into it...

And it obviously has not worked for you

Well listen son (unknown) if you at 49 and IMO looking older "wouldn't be caught dead between the legs of any woman over 40, much less naked" you indeed have got a sexless future ahead of you. Not to mention how even saying that is so disrespectful to all women over 40. Saying age is just a number and a very cliche thing to say but it is a fact. There are a great number of gorgeous women over 40 in this world and as time marches on for all of us it seems to me you'll have to either get in touch with reality, pay for sex or be alone. Do you think you're getting younger?
No matter what you think I'm a word traveler and have spent a lot of time in Europe so I know the older man/younger woman thing is more common there than here so I imagine that helps you but I don't know why you'd want to resent my success, it works for me and you can use whatever name you'd like for these women; after all the first word in FWB is friends and I am certainly friends with these women.
I'd say you need to learn to respect all women.
As far as STD's go I recently retired after over 30 years in the music
business, I've had sex with dozens of women and believe it or not I've NEVER had an STD which I owe to a lot of latex and admittedly a lot of luck. Now that I'm older, retired and living in a small town (pop 25,000) integrity is a big factor.
This is not complicated; there are many single women in the world that desire sex but not involvement, if they learn you'll treat them with respect, kindness, discretion and satisfy them they are anxious to have a non involvement sexual relationship. It works for me boys.

No worse track record than marriage itself!