Please dont slam me here but I was just curious. I was talking to a little person but not sure I am now. Thats still up in the air. But anyway, for the average height and little person couples, how does the public react? How do you cope? I wanted this guy to come out but this town is so mean and judgemental :'( Maybe Im making a bigger deal out of it than what it really is. I just didnt want people making fun of him or making stupid comments. Please let me know how to handle this entire thing? Thank you :)

How it works is usually quite simple:
If you are insecure about something, other people will react and come up with stupid comments or looks.
If you don't feel insecure, and simply own something, no one will. Not more than in other cases when there's no perceived weirdness.

It's the same when you are fat, short, tall, have a zit or whatever. If YOU own it, others will accept it and not notice.

That all has to do with behaviour. When you feel confident you behave confident, you exude a different vibe. People pick up on vibes and react to that.

First it really doesn't matter what others think. If he makes you happy and you like him go for it. You two will handle it together. If you spend your life worried about what others think you'll never do anything worth while.

Exactly!

I would also like to add that if you are worrying about how others will treat him, that sometimes is more about being concerned with how others react to you, not him. You may want to take a look at how you really feel and if you're being self conscious because you feel you are different, or he is different. We sometimes project our own insecurities outward and believe we're just thinking about the other person but it's generally not the case.

Best of luck to you either way... Ultimately it boils down to what Queenie said, it doesn't matter what others think.

Wow I never looked at it like that. Im actually very insecure though I try not to be. So Im pretty much making a big deal out of nothing then. Thank you all :)

You should make it about you and him, not him and the world.
I can imagine he would be thrilled to get asked out, what
young feller would not be?

One person showing interest could unlock a townful.

if your happy dont listen to others or people will just confuse u

It should not be like that

If he isn't Inch High Private Eye, then you should have no problem.

You shouldn't care what the public thinks.
At all.

As a person of well above average height,
with a known preference, for dating midgets...
Welcome to my world.

It's about what you feel,
and what your partner feels.

There's an old saying;
You don't have to stand tall.
Just stand up.


Screw public opinion.

I think it would depend on a lot of things.

I know growing up in my area "dwarf tossing" was pretty popular.
I was at a mcdonalds once when some drunken college kids came in and freaked out over 3 dwarf/midget/little people that were standing in line and it ultimately led to them being picked up and tossed.

Other times and places I've been no one gave a crap, they weren't "little people" they were just part of the crowd or patrons.


Depends on what I'm trying to cope with.
Actions of others? My feelings? My fears and insecurities? Their insecurities and fears affecting me? Others?


What did he want?

You aren't all that clear on what the issue or question is, IMO.
I mean there's a difference between:
"I wanted this guy to come out, but he didn't want to because he's wary of the public" vs. "I thought about asking him out, but I was worried about the possibility of the public's reaction so I didn't even ask," vs. even "this guy invited me over to his house at 2 am to netflix and chill but instead I was going to ask him to come out the next day but then I was worried maybe he was asking me over at 2 am in the morning because he's scared of the public so now I'm trying to come up with something else because now I'm worrying for his sake."


You can't really control other people.
Other than that, he's not your child for you to protect.


Experience.
Going out, experiencing it, then learning what works for you.
Or if it doesn't work, then avoid it in the future knowing you can't deal with it.
You can't preemotionallyplan everything.

Doing something nice for/with someone should always trump the negativity in others. Go out and have fun and do whatever you guys want, teach the world that’s all that matter.