Doh!

Seems I've accidently started getting feelings for my best friend. Now I know there is only a couple of options:

1) Tell her.
One of three things will happen.
1. She will let me know she feels the same, and we'll live happily ever after (not likely).
2. She will not feel the same we will still be friends, and she will be a bit more careful about being with other guys while around me.
3. She will run a mile, but at least I can get over it, and after a period of time, we can rebuild our friendship.



2) Don't tell her.
One thing will happen.
1. It will play on my mind, and I'll have to watch her get into relationships with other people, and it will eventually drive me crazy until I blurt it out.


The only complication is that I think she has an idea (drunken text message), and has a boyfriend.


Sorry, just thought I'd get this off my shoulders.


Ta,

~C

The problem with getting into relationships with friends is you will quickly run out of friends if your relationships don't go well. My suggestion would be: since she already has a boyfriend try to keep it off your mind, when/if their relationship turns out bad, then would be the time to let her know how to feel about her. Just my opinion...

~X

C
Best friends is a great start and YOU already know the answers...So does she... Flow with it and take your time...On your side!
Smiles, T

Best of luck, take your time and don t rush it

Yeah I hate it when that happens. I think it happens when you spend a lot of time talking to someone. I had a friend back in Atlanta that I started to have feelings for some years back. She didn't feel the same, but didn't want me to go, either. But I could not continue to be "only" a friend.

Sooner or later, your feelings are going to come out, and the only way to deal with it is either be her new bf or go your separate ways.

Warmies?

I've just come out of a relationship, so I could just be rebounding, but I don't recon so, I've got loads of female friends, and don't have feelings for any others.

Ta,

~C

Maybe its the UK / USA language barrier but I'm afraid you will have to elaborate. I don't want to risk misinterpreting you.
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You must be psychic!

Its not gonna be easy.

I have loose lips when I'm drunk, which I often am around her.

"Seems I've accidently started getting feelings for my best friend."


wait wait wait,r u saying that u became friends with a gal without having the express intention of eventually getting into her pants?!

I know your joking, but I shall pretend your not.

Yep, happens. I try not to be so arrogant as to assume that every girl I get some attention from wants to sleep with me. I find it quite rude.

A lot of women are surprised by this (go figure).

Ta,

~C

I feel for you guy, BUT the important part missing is, "she has a boyfriend" ... to me that means FULL STOP. She is seeing someone and you will only complicate things way worser then they are now ..
Just my opinion sir ... Good luck with it all

Seems you already KNOW what to do. Now the key is ... "Make it happen #1"

Be aggressive, it is a whole lot better than going insane! #1 ALL THE WAY!

One of my best friends has declared an interest in me over the past couple of days...I'm running a mile...I have told him before I feel for someone else...looks like the friendship has been ruined...

my opinion hon is that you should leave well alone,one you tell her that will be the end of a great freindship,if she wanted to be with you she would of told you in some way shape or form,good luck

If she already has a boyfriend then she probably really values just your friendship. You might want to think about the reasons you have feelings for her. Normally "true" guy/girl friends connect on that friendship level. I don't have a boyfriend, but do have guy friends, and value their friendship so much. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Good luck.

Feelings get in the way of everything, they sure know how to ruin a good thing don't they?

I guess you're a glutton for punishment and didn't lose enough in your divorce decree. Drink till you see straight.

There is more, though... I think I'm getting signals, which could be due to something being underlying.

I don't know, I'm not used to being confused, and it frustrates me a little. I'm very good at working things out, but not when women are involved.

Ta,

~C

It sounds as though you can't feel any sexual tension BETWEEN you and her, even though you have an attraction for her. Bad sign. I could be wrong cuz I need more details, but I doubt she feels the same way for you. If she did, you would feel it.