Oh, believe me, "being in a rush" is very much an expression of desire, interest, and even seriousness. Again, not JUST sexually.

I've been searching for friends and a possible mate through this method for a long time now, and I've seen woman after woman and man after man, complain in forums like this, that too many people want to talk for a long time before agreeing to a face to face meet. The complainers tend to be looking at their own lifetimes ticking away, and want someone who is dedicated enough to having a serious relationship to take all the steps needed to build one.

By extension, the same thinking leads to eagerness to test sexual compatibility as soon as possible as well, for many people.

Naturally, as I have noticed from a very early age, for every logical and good idea someone has in the world, there are hundreds of people eager to use it as an excuse or a disguise, to simply greedily grab at whatever personal rewards they enjoy.

So make no mistake, I am an easy does it kind of person myself, but I understand why some others aren't inclined to take the time that I require.

I don't think I've ever had sex with anyone to find out if they are compatible with me. Sorry, but that sounds weird.
Sure you have to get at least partially nekkid to find out if his equipment is erm... impressive enough to give pleasure, but the rest you can tell quite well from the way they react when you kiss and cuddle and so on.

Just so you know, I'm not advocating anything, I'm just reporting the actual facts about what I've witnessed real people doing.

On the other hand, I don't think there's any way other than having sex with someone, to find out if HOW they enjoy sex is something you can live with.

Sex is a huge expression of love with the right person. If you’re entering into a relationship you need to know you’re compatible on this level. Talking about it isn’t the same thing. People are not always honest about their expectations for fear of running the other person off. If you only want sex every now and then but say you want it every day, twice, there’s gonna be an issue fairly quickly. i can’t imagine not wanting to be honest and actually finding out, by having sex, that it’s amazing for both. It matters greatly in a relationship, to think otherwise would be foolish and avoidance of the inevitable. JMO

Yes and that's where the problem lies cos usually you don't get to that point until there's feelings. Well, most women wouldn't anyway. And if it then doesn't match or doesn't work, then what? Break it off? Not so easy when you're emotionally involved.

Which is exactly the reasoning used by some who say they want to move things along quickly in the early stages.

I think that when people are very young, and make such claims, many really are just sniggering and using it as a manipulative ploy to have lots of carefree sex. But I think more of the older folks really do see the sense of it, as a way to avoid investing too much time, too much money, and too much hopeful emotion into someone who may turn out to be all talk and wishful thinking.

Maybe, but I've never heard that as a reason to have sex.
Getting to that is based on mutual desire.
To be honest, the thought of having sex just to find out if the man can deliver the goods... I couldn't even do that. Goes against the grain. It wouldn't arise me, if nothing else, it'd kill any desire.
Plus, I have no desire end up with a whole bunch of 'test sex rides'.
Maybe it's a thing men tend to do, dunno.

I am more concerned if we have commonalities..actually *like* each other...etc..
My first marriage was based on the looks/ nookie thing...I did no checking to see what it anythng we had in commom..
Years later, when we were getting divorced..he told me all those thing he'd acted like he liked and was interested in?
He wasn't...he'd just pretended.
I asked him why he married me then, as we didn't *have to* get married..
He said because I was cute and the sex was good..

Sorry...I need MORE than that...that isn;t enough for me long term.

Luckily, I had two great long terms after that, and am sadly now a widow.

I *would* like to know beforehand if the guy had any weird kink I just could not live with/ handle....like those that are into D/s...or are into the whole diaperbaby thing..or if he is too large for me to enjoy it...
I have had the unfortunate expereince of running across two LARGE (10+ inches and really thick) ones before, and I did NOT enjoy myself..
Don't tell me I need to try it again with lube and foreplay...do you think i am that stupid...?
We *did that...still was not enjoyable for me.
Average is just fine, thank you.

LOL
Expressing love is such a basic instinct.
I find it amusing that so many place such emphasis on something that is utterly natural.
There is no mystery or secret, ya just do it.
Have y'all lost yer minds?

Respect !!!!!!!!

This seems good in theory, but realistically past experiences influence how people are able to give love. And losing your mind is sometimes part of the process. :)

Do you mind to elaborate?

It's peculiar how you have changed and seem to feel you know it all and are almost taking the pi$$ out of people's quests since you have a woman in your life, and a sex-life.
It's good for you that you are happier now, but no reason to basically look down your nose at other people who are still trying to find love.

How unfortunate of your theory. Any person that agrees with you must be gullible. There are different types of love. And long term healthy relationship love takes building and growth which means natural isn't enough.

lol. i love to get to know my girlfriends better through full body massage.

equal work for equal pay!

i need plenty of practice cuddling and spooning. any local women want to help me practice, just for fun?

it is modern times, right?

No love ,it just seems such a waste of our lives,the 15 yrs was just because we were older ,financial commitments and doing our own things ,we had both lost interest in sex and even affection in each other ,we are still friends and much happier now ,I refer to it because a long marriage can just as easy end

i love getting to know girlfriends better through full body massage.