i have a giant problem AGAIN!!! ive fallen for the guy i cheated on my boyfriend with!! i never saw m y boyfriend and the guy was there and he treated me fantastic and told me he loved me and wanted too be with me i split with my boyfriend but i do still love him and love this other guy aswell im tied and my ex wants too know why we split should i tell him??
what should i do ? :(

you do have a problem....because you should have never cheated in the first place...im sorry if that is harsh but its the truth....fess up and be honest for once

eeeh girl what you like, well who you happiest with? go with your gut feeling and heart but you owe both an explanation hun be honest

i was never happy with the bf thats y i went off with this other guy i didnt do nee thin with him untill me n the bf split up, dw i dnt mind lol hummmmmmmmm i dont wanan hurt him and say i chose another guy over him!

If you really want things to work with the new guy or the old one, you should to be completely honest with both of them. Imagine down the road you've not been. All the stress of hiding a lie will probably end the relationship. It's harsh, but you did the crime, now you gotta do the time. I'm not judging as I did this back in college, tried to lie and cover up and ended up losing both of them and a lot of self respect.

just tell him you werent happy in the relationship and why and have moved on with someone else hard but needs must

the truth hurts sometimes sweetie but its better than giving someone false hope

Def dont string them both on. You obviously aren't as into your bf as you should be. Give him the chance to move on. I know its easier said than done. But your only other option is to let him keep you and find another chick. Dont waste your time or his lying to him, let him know, get the uglies out of the way and move on the healing. Cause someones going to get hurt and someones going to get jealous. But it is what it is. Id rather have a guy say "hey, I cheated on you and Im more into her than you...or Im sorry I want to be with you not her" But I dont give cheaters a second chance, I think its in their nature and they are repeat offenders. Sorry.

just say it wasn't working out with him and you cannot help who you fall for so sorry about your dilemma.

I agree with that, giving someone false hopes is a cruel way of treating someone...Make it very clear, over and over again if necessary what your intentions are...ignoring the fact wont make it just go away

thnx :) the other guy knew i had a bf at the time thats y he didnt do anythin about how he felt and said i should get rid of him i am happier with this guy i have realised that i shoulda found this guy sooner i will tell my ex the truth about the whole thing adn i do hope we will be friends at the end of it all

well i think you need to take a breath and relax.
if you broke up with your bf and then started dating
someone else - or started dating someone else and
broke up with your boyfriend it is not the end of
the world. this is not marriage.

if you need a break from your ex and want to date
someone else just tell him that you need to take a break
for a while. you can tell him that you like him but that
you do not want to pursue the relationship right now.

and date someone new. find someone exceptional.
someone who is really right for you.

thanks :D

not at all...

it's often awkward during a transition even for the experienced.
be safe, friendly, and kind. as you would wish to be treated and
best of luck to you all.

awesome, I feel bad for the guy you cheated on.

HONESTY is the best policy

Wasnt it you that posted your bf was cheating with your friend?

nooooooo my ex bf lik bf this other ex is with my best mate

lets see, you cheated on your boyfriend and you want to know if you should hurt him more? Let it go, you did enough as it is.

i ddint exactly cheat i fell fro the guy while i was with him i didnt nothin with this other guy either untill i split with him and he wants too know y i split with him