If you wish to keep the spark alive from the first day to your last breath, see each other as embodiments of divine. Then judgement cannot arise. See only the good in each other and nurture their good qualities. What we focus on expands. When we think of people's bad qualities or our own, we influence our self and others to stay the same. Keep an open mind and be open to change for the better and you will see all situations in life are full of beauty.

But every time I open my mind, my brains leak out.

Eric, you are wise for your age.

Great advise but if that is all we had to do we would not need Dating sites and there would not be so many singles....

Relationships are complicated, it takes two that are willing to work things out and be honest with each other.. And has the Respect for their partner that when things go bad to know that it is not greener on the other side of the fence..

If it comes to that then be honest with them and part ways if both are not willing to make the Relationship work..

Protect those brain cells at all costs, Soufie! But perhaps thinking and philosophy is different in northern India, where Eric is from.

Great!
What exactly and specifically is "the spark?"
What exactly defines it and how do I absolutely know any part of it is there or not?


Does that mean when they have food poisoning and it's coming out of both ends I take the effluvia and put it in a temple?


So to keep the spark alive...we just have to stop being human?
Ok, no problem!


That tends to make the bad things jealous and vie for attention.

Not to mention, when you "see only the good" in the other person, you aren't seeing them realistically.

People tend to resent that, as it also comes with a healthy dose of expectations that they have to live up to your image of who they are.

And if you try to see everything they do as something "good" then you're simply deluding yourself into a false sense of reality.

So is that what you're saying? If you want to keep the spark alive forebber and ebber just delude yourself, and find someone who does the same thing so you can live in your own heads together?


How exactly do you do that without disregarding everything you've already learned, any knowledge and/or wisdom gained?


How exactly and specifically do you identify "change for the better" vs. a false idea of change, or a change for the worse.
Especially if you're keeping an open mind and any reliance upon your acquired knowledge can just as easily be seen as closing your mind, or not being open to change?


Beautiful roses have thorns too.
Thorns have a purpose.

Listen to Abraham Hicks for a few days, or every evening after work. That will help you understand and answer your questions. Even if they're rhetorical only :)