ROFLMAO..thats Brian!!!

Forgive him, he's still not house broken!

YUCK! LOL
at the rick of sounding shallow. did you read the first post!


seriously though thats twisted man!

hey...at least I posted my serious side first

I've had a fair number of these situations. "Ignore" doesn't work, particularly if they're the persistent "won't-take-no-for-an-answer" type. They will see "ignore" as "undecided" and will only try harder.

The only thing that has ever worked for me is to sit them down and explain, very diplomatically, why they are not "girlfriend material." And that doesn't work all the time, either. I have had some who would stay pissed off for months after that. But they generally do get over it....eventually....

Whatever you do, the most important thing is NOT to do anything that could be construed as "leading them on." That's a disaster waiting to happen. And some will misinterpret anything and everything, regardless. I figure it all comes down to communication, the clearer the better.

@ yuck

ok I figured it out, he's gay

Just be honest. By avoiding all of it, you are just causing hurt. What's the point of that? If you're good friends, it should be easy to just be honest, and she should understand.

This guy would get with anything me thinks

on the contrary, I'm very picky

good thought. i need to figure it out first its only been 1 day.
had someother stuff on my plate.

Just don't wait to long. She probably already feels like a fool since you've been ignoring her. Something like this shouldn't be ignored. It's difficult enough on both of you, it's best just to get it out of the way.

Yes mam. i see your point.
It may sound selfish to not worry about her feelings but she did put her self out there like that. im not trying to be mean but i didnt think that was cool. now what am i supposed to do with that. I dont want to hang out with her she needs her own boyfriend. im 3 years older, shes too immature. etc.

I understand where you're coming from. Just keep in mind, it probably wasn't easy for her to say it in the first place! So when you do talk to her about it, take her feelings into consideration. Don't be mean.

I agree .. if you aren't attracted to someone, last thing you wanna hear is that they have a 'thing' for you. It ruins the friendship when it's only one sided. Makes things uncomfortable.

Just be straight up with her. That's the best way. She deserves that. Not silence for sure.

Open a convo that leads that way and just gently talk about what a good friend she is and that it's nice you can be friends and NOT have any romantic interest.

You can do it!

I tell my friends (male and female) that I love them all the time!! Because I do love them and I think it is an important thing for them to know.......

yeah well i till my best friend i love him too. but hes more like a brother and its not in the same way i would with a girlfriend. there's different kinds of love.

You know this is the risk you take whenever you establish friendships with the opposite sex. It's well worth it for sure, but sometimes one begins to take on romantic interest.

Again, just shoot straight and let the chips fall where they may. You can't give her hope if there isn't any.

BUT remember .. be kind. Bad karma's a b*tch.

oh hells yes on the karma thing.
thanks for the comments though!!! ill say something. hopefully it will just blow over.

Good luck!

hehe
paradox of desire
u were never attracted to her, so u never "made moves" that telegraphed interest. this told her, in a way, "you cant have me." what did this do? it made her want you.
if youre running on ignore mode, you run the risk of increasing desire and attraction on her side, but there is a chance that the attraction will die. economics: in ignore mode you are decreasing supply. what does that do to demand? come on, you learned this is high school. when there is no supply at all, demand can't exist because the people won't even know that the product exists.
however, for the sake of your friendship with her, i'd recommend telling her flat out, "i thought that we were only friends. im sorry but im not attracted to you in that way."
you CAN learn from this experience in terms of attracting women you actually interested in. think about it...

I am still trying to figure out being friends with someone you don't click intellectually or spiritually with ... whatcha got in common that you are hanging out together?

I am baffled that people often have such a narrow definition of what love is.

Saying 'I love you' to someone does not mean 'I want to sleep with you' nor does it mean 'I want to bear your children'.

Maybe ... just maybe ... she loves who you are ... as a friend ...

Of course, friends don't usually ignore one another but maybe that's just me

Are you really friends? Or is it just someone to pass some time with?