Ok, i have a friend that i am not physicaly, spirtualy, or intellectually attracted to. we would just hang out once and a while. then a day or so ago she says, "I love you." WTF?

Im on ignore mode now. Any thoughts? discuss

I tell my guy friends all the time I love them, it is a different tone or whatever than I use with anyone else. Or I say it silly, or when they irritate me. But I tell them all the time, women are more demonstitive then men, usually, love doesn't mean we want to marry you or anything.

Don't be in the ignore mode..
Tell her how you feel about her truthfully..
She deserves that much for coming out of the dark to how she feels about you..

I guess it depends on what context she used those words and what you guys were talking about surrounding her statement.

how did she SAY "I love you" .. I have a lot of guy friends I say that to, and I am not attracted to them.

What context and tone? Did you 'feel the love'

Also have you met? or is this online only.

Yeah I know what that sounds like. It was a most def "I love you"
left it on my answering machine.
i've never met anyone online.

Maybe she wants to take the friendship to the next level. You need to talk to her

It would make me feel very special and wanted for someone to say that to me. Why would you ignore her?

It happened to me a long time back when I announced I was getting married. I thought of these women as just friends...hell, there was no "flirting" no physical contact (except a friendly hug from time to time), but no type of advances past ANYTHING more than we were FREINDS.

Then I announced i was getting married...4 of them cried and never talked to me again. I thought "WTF??"

So honestl;y wish i could give you advise. I was there and just like you, had NO CLUE they liked me in such a way.

I'm going to keep an eye on this thread..because it might answer what the hell happened in my situation many years back! because to this day I STILL have no clue what happened with them!

Just tell her how you really feel, but gently. Now, I will admit some people you gotta hit them over the head with it, so if you have to do that as a last resort, by all means. Personally I'd make sure she was talking to you and not someone else in the room though...lol, since it was on a message.

Ignore is cruel if this is a hang out friend. Be honest and let her know that while she is important to you just need friendships

I have a very good friend that I was in business with and know most of her family, I love her very much but not like a lover. We are friends and will always be friends, we now live in different states but stay in touch. There's no reason why two consenting adults can't be friends and nothing else.

I don't like her. Plus we aren't compatible and now its all weird.
Its not something i need right now is that conflict tears and stuff.

also she did know that i'm trying to get over a girlfriend.
i didnt use her for support or anything like that she only knew of it.

Honestly I have a similar situation. I have a friend that wants to be with me, but I'm not attracted to her in that way. She knows I'm not interested though, and she respects that, because she would rather we be friends than nothing. However she still seems to have a hard time with it occasionally. We still have a very good friendship though and her feelings don't get in the way really. I would say just confront your friend about it. Tell her you like her as a friend but don't feel have those feelings for her. If she can't deal with it, then it's probably for the best to not hang out anymore.

Because he is scared and don;t know what to do. He is her FREIND and he thought thats ALL they were..FRIENDS. Its a weird feeling when the other person shows more than that and it catches you off guard. So I understand his confusion.

for sure.

Thanks sums it up. i was a little pissed i thought she knew that i wasnt interested in her that way.

That makes sense, but he should confront her and make sure she understands what the score is. Ignoring someone is usually not the best solution, IMO:)

take her to the bar, get her drunk and have nasty animal sex with her. Then in the morning tell her I hope you don't get that rash that keeps coming up

That is why hooking up is so d@# hard, people are ignored even when they have something like " I love ..." to another. Talk to her dont ignore her....You will find out what and how she meant it!