ok... i'm 18 years old and still in high school, well i met someone on myspace, she is 26, divorced, and has 2 kids. Well, last night i met her and went to her house, we didnt do anything we just sat there and watched t.v. and talked a little, we werent even cuddling or ne thing. Well, i ended up sleeping in her bed, but nothing happened, i woke up a few times and i eventually just put my arm around her and went back to sleep. I think i was intimidated by her, b/c of the age difference, and the fact that she already has 2 kids. I've never really been with someone that much older than I, and i'm wondering if last night she was expecting something out of me, b/c i dont really know her that well, but yet, she was willing to drive 45 min to meet me, and let me stay at her house, and sleep in her bed. Should i be intimidated by the age? How should i treat her, should i treat her like i would any girl my age, or differently? I really like this girl..well.. woman, but for some reason i feel like i may have left her unsatisfied?

Everyone is different.
She may have expected more or she's lonely and wants company.
I would be careful that she doesn't take advantage of you cause of your age.
I don't know if the kids were there, but most people I know that have kids. Wait awhile before bringing someone home. It confuses the kids.
I've personally never dated someone that young so can't give to much advice besides to be careful and take it slow.

she wants another kid

LOL, awwww. Actually, ewww. I hope not.

Eh, It depends on what you want from this. Are you in for the sex or do you truly like her as a person? For years, I thought older women/younger men relationships could be more than just sex, but recently I realized this is not true. For me. Let me repeat that for those who will jump on this thread and give examples of family and friends who "made it work" and how "age is nothing but a number" and "all you need is love". Whatever. I'm saying it never worked for me. Think about whether you want to be in a relationship with someone like this for the long haul, and when you get your answer, tell her. Don't go along for the ride and when you get scared, run away and leave her confused. Us old women get hurt, too. Good luck.

I would tell my son, she was probably hoping to get some?
Now, why?...Because your just 18 and I would'nt think she would be looking at someone your age to be the father to her children and her life partner. MAYBE,,,but.
I have been where you just were, and I have ALWAYS looked back at the FACT that I DID'NT HAVE SEX with HER..
That was all mine wanted to do,,yours could have had ALOT of other real thoughts, but if she just wanted some. AND YOU NEVER see her again,lol THEN YOU WOULD HAVE WALK IN MY SHOES, to forever wonder if the older lady could have changed my life.....lol
Good Luck....No one really knows except HER, as to WHATS on her MIND....

She droped me back off at my car, and i went home, she had to go work. So i dont know yet. I thought of calling her, but i havent.

Thats the thing, we didnt have sex, so, and i really do like her, i mean, shes beautiful, and she has a wonderful personality. Love knows no age, or how many kids you have, or how many times you have been married. But i'm much more mature than most guys my age, i think thats why i'm attracted to older women, b/c most girls my age dont know what they want.

Run...run fast!

She has some problems.

You have the rest of your life ahead. Why get into a situation where you probably won't want to be in a month or 2?

I wouldnt be posting here, and asking for advice if i really didnt care for her, this wouldnt be a month or 2 thing for me, i would be in it for the long haul, so what she has 2 kids, and divorced, and 8 years older than me, she is still considered young, so there is still alot left to do!

I wouldnt be posting here, and asking for advice if i really didnt care for her, this wouldnt be a month or 2 thing for me, i would be in it for the long haul, so what she has 2 kids, and divorced, and 8 years older than me, she is still considered young, so there is still alot left to do!

If you just met for the first time, you don't want someone who would have sex on the first date, do you?

Just play it cool. Wait another day, if she doesn't call, call her. Just take it slow if you really like her. How long have you known her before the first date? Chat online, phone, etc.?

The worst thing you can do is rush into the sex part. Get to really know her first and find out what she is all about. On your next date, find something to do where you can chat more. Dinner, walk, beach, mountains, etc. Nothing too fancy.

we have been talking on the computer for about a month, and she just gave me her phone # the other night

okay, i am a mother of 2 and 26, in my opinion a night like that would sound great. it's nice sometimes to have a guy be with you just b/c, not just so they can have sex. i think what you did was a great thing and you should give her a call. you'll never know until you talk to her.

Realistically speaking, it sounds like she's looking for some fun, and it sounds like you didn't provide that.
She probably thought you were going to be a young sexy badass rogue who doesn't take **** from society or anyone, and an UNSTOPPABLE BEAST in the sack. I mean, come on...you wear sunglasses
If you feel like you've disappointed her, you probably did
If you get another chance at this, you might want to act more like Tyler Durden from Fight Club, pretending she's Marla Singer. Check out the power dynamics and electric sexual energy there!

Thanks cheifPUA, lets hope i get another chance at it, trust me, i'll take your advice!

MP...maybe she feels awkward also because of the age differance..she may also like you as much as you do her...
Possibly she will like you quite a lot because you did'nt try anything right off the bat and that seems to me you are not one of those horney guys just out for ...well, anyways I think you should just call her and tell her you want to see her again.

I did, and everything seemed fine. I havent looked at it that way, maybe that is a really good thing, but i am actually differnt thats not what i'm all about!

You seem like a good guy, just give it time and keep getting to know her. You are very young to take on a woman with 2 children.

My dad was your age and my mother a year older than her with one child when they got married. I will say though, it didn't last, they were married almost exactly 4 years, got one great thing out if it (me) and then my dad spent his life regretting how he treated us b/c he wasn't truely ready when they got married and then had me. Make sure you're ready first. DON'T be like my dad and just assume you're ready.

Thank you, and i'm sure i wont rush into anything. I'm kind of worried that maybe she was just looking for a goodtime, and i didnt give that to her, but she did ask me the other night if i was willing to take on two kids that arent mine, so that shows that she was looking at me from a relationship stand point.

Well maybe but she may also just be looking for the most naive 'replacement' babies' daddy... You being 18, she might be thinking "he's young and stupid, i can use him"

LOL, NOT saying you're stupid, but some people do think that way and I just want you to have your guard up.