I've said that to some scammers...when i say "Not interested" and they keep replying...I have said "what was hard to understand about NOT INTERESTED..Is your scammer translator broken?"

When I suspect a "woman" isn't honest about her location, I do as TxsGal said. I ask a question involving some local place to test her familiarity with the area. More often than not, she simply doesn't respond or evades the question. Then it's click, block, delete.

As for myself, I no longer list my own town/city. I do it purposely to test people because of something stated in my profile. Now I'm just listed as "Somewhere".

I don't list my city either. However, after. Personal emails and talking on the Phone, with a man I am interested in, then I tell him. Because he had to travel here for first Date.

The men I met had No problem with that. All the Dates. Worked out well.
Dates were planned out by me.


I hear many having meets and getting stood up.

It happens quite frequently, actually.
It instantly lets me know, that the emailer
didn't read my profile.

Such contact, is generally very shortlived.
I see to it.

If I have any doubts about your honesty, I'm going to ask you about the town you listed on your profile. A little chat about your community will soon tell me if you have ever been there. I always get a laugh when someone lists a community that I know the population is significantly under 100, especially the attractive 25-35 year olds.

When I was actually browsing the search, that is one of the first things I look at. I also look at age.

I have a method that seems to work for me.

Anyone that is beyond my radius preference can still be messaged but right up front I tell them they are too far away for us to have any kind of meaningful relationship.

I don't mind conversing with a woman so distance in that regard is not an issue for me. I'll be your pen pal.

The ones that ask me where I live, I ignore.
If they can't read my profile heading, they're too simple to take seriously.

No.
But why interrupt a conversation or exchange to go off to another website to do independent research.
Especially if they're using their phone.

Not to mention this is the app age. Why read tiny print profiles on a 6 inch screen during your lunch break when you are only shown a picture and something that says "10 miles away! Contact now!" to click on.

Why read a profile when you can just start a conversation?
Anymore computer dating seems like seeing someone in public you want to talk to, so you go up to them and ask to see their drivers license and resume.


They looked up you on a dating site.


To my way of thinking...if they aren't friendly towards conversation, want to use their profile like a shield, and believe the mechanics of internet etiquette is more important than direct interaction, getting off the computer to date, then they aren't really looking to date.

At best they're looking for an extension of their own ego.
At worst they're looking to use others for their own validation, looking for people that do the "wrong" thing (to their way of thinking) so they can feel superior and virtue signal to others that use internet dating for the same thing.
You can determine the latter if a lengthy interaction ensues with people going back and forth with tales of how "they" do it.

I have been on this site for a couple of years now. I have found that regardless of how much emphasis you put on your profile about reading your profile they seldom read it at all.

This drives me crazy, and I make it a point not to acknowledge their interest in me. If you can not read my profile then you can not get to know me, period. Believe me when I tell you, I thoroughly read your profile, look up where you "claim" to live and if you "claim" to be an educated person, and yet can not structure a simple sentence, you are not for me.

I can see where that sounds somewhat shallow, but I am at my whits end.

But...how does that help the sincere people who may only want to travel 50-75 miles?
If they don't have a clue whether you are 10 miles from them...or at the other end of the state.....?

Just because someone wants to meet someone 100 miles away or less doesn't make them less sincere..
Of course, some of us are lookjing further afield..

on anothjer site...there are *tons* of profile listing a dinky armpit of a town as their location..
Like you, OldKid46.....I *know* that place (a friend of mine has some property there where they keep their bee hives), and the sheer amount of dudes in my age rangelisting themselves as "single/ divorced/ widowed" on there exceeds the ~actual~ population of the place...

I too ask about something there..and it is funny to watch them dance around thwe question..LOL
Now, when I see someone with that town listed has messaged me, I just immediately block them..

I dont ask where they live because i check the profile see where they are,it makes no sense to talk to someone say in Germany who you will never meet,unless you just want to chat with them but if you actually want to meet them it would not be realistic to try and go further than that as a friend online only,i have been asked several times where i live,i do tell themp but i know we will never meet,because of the distance,that said i`ll talk to them knowing its going nowhere but a possible online friendship

i ment to add when people ask where you live it could just be a ice breaker or a way to start the conversation

That distance thing is another issue! While some people stay put in one place most of the time, some of us don't. My profile is clear about that but you have to actually read the profile to know that. When you simply dismiss someone because the first thing you see is someone from another state, you may be missing the bigger picture. This is even more true with people who are retired or have a seasonal business; home may be in North Dakota but winters are spent in South Texas!

I can tell you why I ask... 90% of the "ladies" i talk to are scammers and if i ask where they live and they say ellicotcille.... but dont know anything about the area i just stop talking to them
Grant it, it's not hard to Google while they talk to me, but it is a foreign concept to them.
It really sucks I know, but trust me. It's so heartbreaking to think you find someone you connect with only to find out you have been talking to a con artist... after awhile you just get a prove you are real attitude that just makes it worse lol.
Actually so much scams I decided not to come here anymore, but thought I would try one last time with the forums this time

Just had someone over at the fishin' site get nasty because he'd claimed to read my profile...I asked him what about what i wrote did he like and feel we shared in common..
He mentioned things that weren't in my profile...

So, i asked him again...and told him since *his* didn't really say much, I was needing his help to let me know what he felt we shared in common...

Then he got rude and hateful...said no man will put up with my sh**..

blink blink

Darlin', the fact *you* messaged me..and could't tell me *one thing* you liked about my profile and that we had in common is in NO way my fault..
That's all on you..ya lazy sod....

I put another one on block tonight. She couldn't tell me what part of Atlanta she was in. All she would say is she wanted a friend to talk to. When I asked about what? She said her "her fiddlings". RED FLAG!! I don't know of any woman here in America that can't spell "feelings".

I went ahead and asked her feelings about what? I got another oddball answer. That ended that. Too much broken English for me. For someone who is supposed to be "White Southerner".When she messaged me her profile was blank.

Normally I will not answer a message from someone with a blank profile. When I asked about info about herself, She stumbled. That was a dead give away.

As far as people on that fishy site go, women are just as bad as men about not reading profiles. I can understand forgetting something written in someone's profile. But you can tell when someone just doesn't read it.

Exactly.
Call it experience, wisdom or a gut feeling.
The worst thing you can do is acknowledge a scammer.
It tells them you are a target.
Scammers are more than the dude pretending to be a chick to try to get your personal info.
Scammers are anyone that uses a ruze to try to get you to do what they want.
Button Pushers.
The thing about button pushers is they are only powerful if you give them buttons to push.
I've read enough profiles at DH to realize that even a well-written profile might not reflect the person you are dealing with in a message.
Kinda like a resume not reflecting the employee's true abilities.
PEOPLE LIE.

The thing is, with this topic, ya gotta use some horse sense
If you write a well-formed, correctly spelled message based on the profile and they respond with "Hai", you just move on.
If they can't bother to communicate with you as an adult with some type of common intelligence, you just ignore.

Our resident AI has a significant comment that bears repeating because its sensible...

Just tell them what I tell them. Ain't none yo bitnez Jack the stalker!

Requires a bit of sense if you're using a free site like this.
Doncha think?