On various sites I have been on...I (quite often, actually) get messages from guys, or, if I have written them first, they ask shortly into the conversation "Where do you live"?

These are legitimate people, not fakes/ scammers...and claim they've in the general area all their life, or at least several years..(because if they were new here, i could understand it)..

First off..it is on my profile..
(I had one guy *argue* with me earlier this year was I sure that's where I lived..

Second, that's the *first* thing I check after reading the guys' profile, because if he is 200 miles away...I am less inclined to message him..unless he has a really stellar profile and we have a *ton* of things in common.

If I am unfamilar with it...I look it up on Google.
But..if it is within 50-100 miles of me..I generally know where it is..

Is this a hard thing for most people to figure out...if you aren't sure where a person's location is, to Google it?

Due to I keep to only those that are local..Ya can bet your bottom dollar I still ask their location..

I do not ask where they live I actually ask them if they live where they have stated they do and name the town. If they say yes then I ask if they know a certain place or area in that town...

Just cause someone has stated one thing on a profile does not mean that is where they are from..

And even at times we think someone is not scamming us they could be ghosting you as some put it or they are really married and just want to play games. Have had both happen and busted the guy that was married on the forums on the site I was on several years ago due to he was posting in the forums they had...

I'm no where near naive believe me, some are pretty damn good at what they do this includes both women/men... Have seen it first hand~~

Dating Online is a Skill anymore for too many want to play games~~

I would never ask if it is in a user's profile. This would be a wee bit embarrassing. But since I am not familiar with US geography, I might check on Google.

I usually ask what it is like for them living In their area. But I also acknowledge that I read their profile, by not asking something that is already on it.

I've them ask "How far is that from where I live?"

Again..don't these people know how to look things up on the internet/ Google?

Sure, I could just tell them.."you are about 35 miles north of me.."
But, to my way of thinking..if they are *that* lazy thsat they don't know how to look something up, and want info handed to them..what else are they lazy at?

P.S..there's also a handy-dandy little thing called Mapquest...that shows actual distance between and routes to locations.

I suggested that to one guy..he got an attitude and blocked me..(a different site...) LOL

P.S..correct me if I am wrong..but..with most people having those fancy phones (I don't)...isn't there some kind of GPS funtion on there where it would be simple to key in a city/ town, and see where it is and how far away it is?

OMG...a man that actually READS profiles...!!

That is such a rare thing on these sites..I wanted to notate that..

It's due to east European scammers. They pick a part of the UK, then actually they're from Russia or similar, looking for cash for a plane journey. Sadly.

Yes. Learning about people and communicating are inevitably limited the more sifting one has to do at the same time.

A simple solution to prevent that is to take a photo of yourself with a written card saying Mingle Username: _ is real.

Eh j just tell them it's on my profile. And they need a better translation program.

Yes, I get that asked to me. Most men think I am in Chicago because that is the city they know. I am not. There are Many ciities and towns in my state.

I date out of Chicago suburbs and St Louis, Mo. Because they are the closest Larger ciities.

I had one date from South Carolina, now I am learning toward the South.
Southern men are the Best and very sincere.

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I Agree.

I'm a profile reader. But I still ask where they are. The profile may say, Atlanta. Saying you are in"Atlanta" covers about 100 miles around Atlanta. Atlanta is about 50 miles N/W of me. People in South Cobb will say they are in Atlanta. When they are really about 30 miles away. People between Atlanta and Lithonia will say they are in Atlanta. When in reality they are 25 miles farther. On the opposite side of Atlanta from me. They are really about 75 miles or more from me.

Since so many like being vague about where they are in relation to me, it puts me in the situation of having to ask exactly what part of the Atlanta area they are in. Certain places I don't want to go. And I'm only going to travel so far for any of them.

I ask where someone lives, because most often i will get a message from someone, their profile says they are from "X" city in New York, but when you ask them, they say they are in California, or Alabama, or Florida, or Ghana.

I've been to Atlanta many times, I know what you are talking about..

But the little pimple of a town I am in is *pretty* specific....

One guy in his 50's wrote to me and asked where I live. He lived 2 states away from me, according to his profile. I told him I live in Idaho. He said "What's Idaho?" Come on, really? I told him it's a state in the US, don't you live in the United States? I never heard from him again.

That's funny Cat ! :

Never happens to me. 99.9 percent of the time the only people that contact me are those that I want to talk to. If you're worthwhile to talk to then you're not going to be asking me stupid questions.

A guy wrote to me, from a country that I never heard of. He said he was moving to my town. I asked him why, and he said "for work". I answered, "you're moving to my tiny town for work?" I never heard from him again.

this ^^^

I mess with some guys that don't know what's going on. They think they are smarter.