All her other personal, sexual, medical, and social skills seem to end up here on "just say me."

I was thinking that exact same thing...reminds me of a song..."ME"!

Congratulations you are now the queen of drama admitted. Here's your trophy (husband) and your tiara (barbwire).

ask him if he has a vagina.........pretty sure the answer is no...then say well i do so i should be pretty sure of what's goin on down there!!!...right??!!!. y would u even ask a question like that
??? if ANY guy shows that kind of ridiculous behavior after something so minor imagine what he would be like with terrible news

Having the unprotected sex is the first place was the 'ridiculous behavior'...on both parties involved!

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Okay, so I've been seeing this guy, not exclusively, but as really good friends with benefits. He and I have gotten pretty close... until about the last week...

Yeah, he's being a real jerk...

I know he's not ready for a serious relationship, and I've not been pushing it at all. I do have to wonder why it is that now days men who are 25+ y/o still aren't ready to face responsibilities.

Anyone on here who knows me KNOWS how much I want to be a mother... a baby would so NOT ruin MY life, and I'd be a good mother

I want one as soon as Goddess sees fit for me to have one, but I know that I'm not pregnant and he's driving me nuts. Okay, so deep in side I'm not 100% sure I'm not... but I'm about 80% sure...


I know he's not ready for a serious relationship, and I've not been pushing it at all. I do have to wonder why it is that now days men who are 25+ y/o still aren't ready to face responsibilities.

I told him from the beginning that the birth control was up to him b/c I don't care either way...
(at least honest even if irresponsible)


SCUSE ME? He is the only person I've been seeing we're just not 'official'... wtf are you trying to say here?

I just tried to reason with him, its not doing any good. We're speaking of THE MOST stubborn man on the PLANET

Something you're all forgetting, I'm NOT PREGNANT!

For the simple fact that he would probably take off on me, I'm on the fence about whether or not I want to be, but whatever happens I can face and deal with no matter what. I know that when it IS time for me to be a mother, I'll be a wonderful one, no matter who seems to think they f*cking know me and says otherwise. I'll prove everyone wrong.
(i hope so)

Some of the others ran with the pregnancy issue when that wasn't what I came here to ask...
(then why bring it up)


And that is exactly why I'm irritated w/ him. We're both in our 20's and refer to ourselves as adults, so if one of us can't accept responsibility if such a thing were to happen, something that would test our character and moral fiber, how dare we call ourselves adults....
(response to follow in summary)

Both consenting adults who were enjoying one another's company in all manners. We are dating... well were... but not putting a label on it.

Honestly, we have had a total blast together all around, which is why I'm so suprised that he's acting this way...

He's really not the type of guy thats all about sex, and thats not all we ever did. I do know that he's the most stubborn man on the planet,
(well ihope you guys get over this issue but i bet he will be history)

How is wanting to be treated like a human being adolescent behavior? (it is not)

what about my description of myself sounds like an adolescent? I didn't get an adolescence in the first place, so I honestly don't know what its like (do you still have to ask remember you asked)

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well you should be able see the answer to your question now i hope

if not another sign

but i don't think he is the only one
that fits the second quoted line

if this was an issue that was before a judicial procedure

i believe that (whether intentional or not) the judgment
would come back entrapment (intentionally becoming pregnant)

and a paternity test would be ordered

and child support would and should be minimal

and if he sues for support he may win

i am sure this is not the first time anyone has had this happen

i would say he is more stupid than a jerk

but hey what do i know

Does anyone have morals, common sense, or act in a responsible manner anymore?

i bet there are a few somewhere

Don't answer that.

Evidently NOT all do these days biker.

Um.. for ONE.. nobody has money in pocket right now.. its Christmas... I just spent my whole paycheck on my nephew for christmas. So yeah, it ran a little thin this time...

Wow, some of you are really judgmental. This will be the last time I ask for advice. Maybe I am a bit of a drama queen here lately, but ya know what, I dont' have a single f*cking person to talk to so this was the only place I had to vent. Thank you very f*cking much for showing me that I have nobody that I can talk to at all.

WTF is wrong with some of you? Its official, the last time I even consider asking for advice...

Why is it every time I come on here for advice, I get attacked? WTF is wrong with this picture?

Jayme...sorry you took my 'opinion' in the wrong manner...
You are still very young...'living in the moment' as most young people do.
We that have responded to you post have a little more 'life experience' under our belt. Did not mean to judge you...maybe just make you 'think' a little better about choices, behaviors...priorities. Your post, to me...again my opinion...just sounded so irresponsable...like you didn't think it through. Having a child is a life altering decision. Be wise my dear... I am sure we all here want what is best for you.

A true man will not freak out. He will already know that stress, and hormones, can cause a woman's cycle to be late, be earlier to stop altogether. He needs to read up on this I think. He also should read medical information about pre-menopausal women, who go through really strange cycles, so that he doesn't assume all women in that age group are pregnant.

I'm only in control of myself, not of others. Hasn't everyone made at least one mistake in their life?

You don't know how much life experience I have... alot more than most people my age. When people meet me in person before finding out my age they think I just look really young for 30-something based on the way I act....I told you ppl that I'm bad at wording things, so you say I'm adolescent for not having great writing skills? I usually write things before I think them through, when I'm really really p!ssed off. So they tend to come off rambling... anyway, it made sense to me so f*ck it...

I told him WHY I didn't care if I used condoms... b/c I do want kids... but that I have PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) which means the likelihood of me getting pregnant is like .01%, as effective as a properly used condom. I do know that b/c I am of a healthy weight that my chances might be more like .1%... or something like that... but anyway, I know my body, and the only reason I'm even questioning it is b/c HE'S making me paranoid for what I know is nothing...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DeWAdzFmI10&feature=related

Jayme. We know all this. Our question is what do YOU think would be the appropriate remedy to your situation? Get all bent out of shape about it twice? Once with him and once with us? I'm seeing a pattern here.

Maybe it's more a way of life than a pattern.

I'm getting a damn test asap... and I've NOT got bent out of shape with him about it... and from what it looks like he's probably being better than some of you.