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I think its also in the approach on how we confront somone on such an issue. Children are a great gift but require 18-20 years of responsibility. And that is exactly why I'm irritated w/ him. We're both in our 20's and refer to ourselves as adults, so if one of us can't accept responsibility if such a thing were to happen, something that would test our character and moral fiber, how dare we call ourselves adults.... |
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 Sure, Jayme, I can shift over a bit, come and hang out in the boring, (to some) life of Lee...  I know you are venting, and truth be known, it's a great way to see how other people think, through the posts they make....well done!! |
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isnt being pregnant the big issue here? Or is it the men are assholes problem? The second one... I thought my opening post made that clear... |
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I think its also in the approach on how we confront somone on such an issue. Children are a great gift but require 18-20 years of responsibility. And that is exactly why I'm irritated w/ him. We're both in our 20's and refer to ourselves as adults, so if one of us can't accept responsibility if such a thing were to happen, something that would test our character and moral fiber, how dare we call ourselves adults.... Right but, age doesnt define maturity, would you agree that you are both being mature in the realtionship you are in? |
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not exclusive means other options
Definitions of exclusive on the Web: * not divided or shared with others; "they have exclusive use of the machine"; "sole rights of publication" not (nt) adv. In no way; to no degree. Used to express negation, denial, refusal, or prohibition: I will not go not exclusive mines divided or shared it looks like from a definition stand point |
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put hey just so you can word it better next time
not accusing just explaining the previous post |
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I think its also in the approach on how we confront somone on such an issue. Children are a great gift but require 18-20 years of responsibility. And that is exactly why I'm irritated w/ him. We're both in our 20's and refer to ourselves as adults, so if one of us can't accept responsibility if such a thing were to happen, something that would test our character and moral fiber, how dare we call ourselves adults.... Right but, age doesnt define maturity, would you agree that you are both being mature in the realtionship you are in? Both consenting adults who were enjoying one another's company in all manners. We are dating... well were... but not putting a label on it... so yes I do think it was a mature relationship until he started showing his true colors. I've even told him that I do understand that he's just scared, so until I know for sure I'll take all the verbal abuse he can throw at me, but the second that test says yay or nay, it stops and he treats me like I'm human again. |
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::Spews projectile vomit all over the thread::
sorry but think about the relationship, i dont think he was enjoying the quality of the conversation, moreless what happened afterward. Which explains his reaction to the "kid". |
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Edited by
JaymeStephens84a0lc
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Sat 12/08/07 02:04 AM
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::Spews projectile vomit all over the thread:: sorry but think about the relationship, i dont think he was enjoying the quality of the conversation, moreless what happened afterward. Which explains his reaction to the "kid". Honestly, we have had a total blast together all around, which is why I'm so suprised that he's acting this way... He's really not the type of guy thats all about sex, and thats not all we ever did. I do know that he's the most stubborn man on the planet, and thats why he's not hearing me at all. I keep trying to calm him down about it until I know for 100% sure what's up, but he won't let me. I really do care alot about him, and on the very off chance that I were pregnant, I'd prefer he and I be together, but I can't force him. With or without us together, he'd still be 100% welcome at all times... |
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Jayme
I don't waanna sound mean but You have an answer for everything get yer ass to your doctor or clinic and see if You are truly pregnant or not in the mean time lay off the dating You don't know whether your coming or going. You started the thread and know your not happy with the responses your receiving I'm chalking some of it up to your adolescent behavior I have seen displayed in this thread. |
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adolescent behavior ??? How is wanting to be treated like a human being adolescent behavior? Again, you people don't see me in my daily life, you don't know me in the least bit. I'll admit my people skils leave a bit to be desired. I was just asking what other's would do with the way that he's been treating me when I'm not the one that brought up the pregnancy issue in the first place, HE WAS. |
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i would say not knowing what your first paragraph said
comes pretty close and your description of ourself as well put it is all good i just hope it works out for the best |
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may much good come to you and yours
hi ho silver away |
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what about my description of myself sounds like an adolescent? I didn't get an adolescence in the first place, so I honestly don't know what its like. Its possible that its set me back a bit, but I think I'm doing just fine. I'm good to people, I treat everyone like they matter even when they are treating me like crap, I'm strong in who I am even when I don't word what I want to say properly. I'm all around a pretty descent person. Perfect? HELL NO, but I try to get as close as I can. As far as the fact that several people on here, in past threads and now think I'd make a terrible mother, you've never seen me with kids. There is nothing in the world I love more than taking care of children. I'm good at it, and I get even the most unruly children to behave like little ladies and little gentlemen. I do have a gift with children, I know that very much in my heart. Thats why it does bother me so much when people say things like that to me, b/c its the one thing in life I know I'd be amazing at.
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Edited by
JaymeStephens84a0lc
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Sat 12/08/07 02:42 AM
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Jayme I don't wanna sound mean but You have an answer for everything get yer ass to your doctor or clinic and see if You are truly pregnant or not in the mean time lay off the dating You don't know whether your coming or going. I'm going to get a test as soon as I get paid... I've always been the one who had to have the last word...lol, so thats just me... He is the ONLY person I've been dating for about 2 1/2 months...(I think 2 1/2, anyway, I lost track of time) its not like I'm seeing everyone in the Alton/St.Louis area... Its just me and him... and right now he's bein a jerk... I know that once he knows one way or the other he'll return to his normal self, I just wanted to know how on earth to calm him down until I can show him a neg p/g test. When all you've heard for the last week is that you're a stupid b!tch b/c you can't control your freakin period its a little waring on your nerves... |
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Edited by
LLH5
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Sat 12/08/07 03:06 AM
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I don't know you from a hole in the wall. Though, you put your problem out to the public so, I have to state my feelings. I'm angry at what I've read.
You don't have money to buy a pregnancy test, though you have the money to raise possible child? You told him he must be responsible for birth control because you don't care. Holy crap, how irresponsible is that? This guy wanted sex, he didn't want a possible baby. You both need to use freakin protection. This behavior is not mature. Sorry it's the way I feel. As for your question....Who cares how to calm him down. |
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Ahhh, Jayme, stop thinking so much. If this guy is calling you a stupid *****, walk away. As said in other posts, get a pregnancy test. You can usually find a place that will do one at no cost.
I understand wanting to be a Mommy. But a child deserves 2 parents that want the child. If he is not wanting to be involved if you are indeed pregnant, he is not the right one for you. Also, not to be ugly. Please get and use condoms. Yes, you have both been tested and are clean. However, you never ever know what the other person is doing. Hugs, M |
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I don't know you from a hole in the wall. Though, you put your problem out to the public so, I have to state my feelings. I'm angry at what I've read. You don't have money to buy a pregnancy test, though you have the money to raise possible child? You told him he must be responsible for birth control because you don't care. Holy crap, how irresponsible is that? This guy wanted sex, he didn't want a possible baby. You both need to use freakin protection. This behavior is not mature. Sorry it's the way I feel. As for your question....Who cares how to calm him down. Oh thank god!! Exactly what I was thinking. use a condom. and I read in one of your posts.. you think your 80% sure your not preggo... but in all the rest your NOT preggo.. if youve never been preggo before and havn't had a test.. how do you REALLY know?? Go get a damn test and lose the idiot. |
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What I wanna know is if she's gonna raise the children on the internet.
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Edited by
shutterbug
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Sat 12/08/07 08:14 AM
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I told him from the beginning that the birth control was up to him b/c I don't care either way...We both just recently got tested and know we're both clean. so he's going to choose the risky one THEN get mad when he's thinking it was a bad idea... This is just MY opinion, so take it with a grain of salt... Jayme, you don't sound very responsible...not taking precautions because, #1..."I don't care either way", #2...can't afford a few bucks for a pregnacy test, how will you afford to raise a child? I am not surprised at the guys reaction Jamie...he's feeling trapped at the possiblilty of fathering a child he didn't plan for. |
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