In Psychical annotation,this truly best represents our inner emotions.

What occured to me earlier on while inside the car listening to decades old love song,that i normally played in constant forthwithly moved me in tears.

I am not broken hearted,obviously.As a matter of factly,i was at my best element prior to the episode.

I can merely suspect,the swift of feelings can be safe to say,attributed to the influence of the current season that we have.

Anyone,have had ever experienced this kind of scenario?

It's actually quite common, for people to long to be
with loved ones, during the holiday season.


There's also a dating phenomenon, unique to the
holidays

I had that happen this morning. A few brief tears for my brother who passed years ago. Then my day was back on track.

Explain this to me please. I only started dating this year after many years off!

Weather can have something to do with it too.

It's been cloudy and rainy a lot recently where I am. Combined with other stress factors, it's been altering my mood. I feel an underlying sense of depression even though things are going fairly well for me right now.

I also have a history of seasonal depression, usually minor but enough to impact my life. For instance, I always got my worst school grades in late winter, but when asked about it, I could never provide an answer because I didn't understand what exactly had changed.

As I've gotten older, that seasonal thing has become for difficult. I've injured a number of joints over the years. Weather can make me feel achey. That then saps my energy and willpower, becoming a major distraction. Those things alter my mood because I just want to feel better even though there's little I can do about it.

My point is that weather impacts our mood, but other factors that cause stress or distraction can augment it.

For me right now, I know a big factor is that I wish I was with someone **right now**. I don't want to wait. I've spent most of my life waiting, largely because I was too fussy. So when weather or stress have me feeling pretty low....that's when the loneliness kicks in worst.

Ok I think I get it. Thanks

I know this weather has an effect on me also. I even bought one of those lights to try and improve mood during the moody weather times.

The achy pains are year round so that’s not an issue.

What about holidays? How does that come into play.

Being an emotional human is a fascinating experience.

As a child, I thought I was being taught (by movies and cartoons and such mostly) that the way emotion worked was simple: something happens, and you feel sad or happy or frightened or whatever.

But then lots of odd-seeming things would happen. I would feel sad in reaction to something as small as a certain sound, or happy because it was sunny.

I eventually learned that humans (including me, apparently) often experience emotions because of how we ASSOCIATE things. I'm very happy in the autumn, because that's when I had the most fun as a child.

And another very intriguing thing, is how we can have delayed reactions to things. Something very upsetting can occur, and in the moment, we don't really react emotionally at all. Then later, when things calm down, we can experience the emotions at near full force.

Sometimes, I've had experiences which at the time they happened, were merely confusing. Maybe even unnotable altogether. Then years later, when I grow and learn more about life, I remember those occurrences, and react to them emotionally NOW.

I LOVE this response. I have not heard anyone else make the connection between feelings (which we consider involuntary) and making ASSOCIATIONS(which are often conditioned). I have always believed this to be the truth since I read about Pavlovs dogs in my youth(although that refers more to physiology changed by conditioning, but it can be applied to emotions as well IMHO)

But yeah. I remember what must have looked like an emotional breakdown to my cousin once, even though I was perfectly fine. It was brought on while in a movie, in a scene that played a song from my youth.

That particular song, Waiting for You by Richard Marx, was the song that I happened to be singing when I first learned that my first husband was being unfaithful. At the time, I was pretty young and naive and had never CONSIDERED he would do such a thing. I had been singing that song looking forward to his coming home and being able to see him, and then I was heartbroken.

so that song brought back a flood of emotion of that heartbreak, and I started crying, but my conscious mind realized how ridiculous it was to be crying so, which caused me to laugh at myself, and then cry, and then laugh. .... lol. I can remember the look on my poor cousin's face.

but yeah, emotional time travel has happened to me too

I tear up during movies much more now than I ever used to. It's because of...

- the emotions I've suppressed for so long.
- the things I've lost.
- the lingering regrets I have.
- how I wish some people would treat me.
- the unfulfilled goals and desires I still have.

And yet, sometimes when I tear up like that, I'm not actually sad. I'm happy for the characters. But it's that personal connection of something missing that makes me tear up.

How's that for a conditioned response based on personal associations?

I understand how an emotional reaction can come from past experiences and I’m usually aware of the reason. But then there are those times, when I’m not really sure why.

Today is one of those days lol.

Presuming, you meant the dating aspect...

There are psychology and media sources online,
that cover it much better than i will here...

But, the trend has been for single people to hookup
and, for all intents and purposes, become a couple
for the duration of the holiday season. Many will
bring those holiday relationships to a screeching halt,
shortly after new years. While others, will try to maintain
as long as they can.

Oh, I get it. I wasn’t aware of that and yes I meant the dating aspect.

So does that mean I should avoid dating over Christmas lol?

I think a LOT of it has to do with this damn season of "EVERYBODY BE HAPPY!!! and Hallmark card families get-togethers on commercials TV shows..
It's just pushed in your face constantly how bad your childhood was (and therefore no Hallmark card memories)...or your singleness...and makes you feel inadequate or left out..

F**k a bunch of volunteering.
And, yes..there are people worse off..(guess what..there are people way *better* of too..so, what's your point?)

But that doesn't mitigate the very real feels someone may have..

I have long said since I was a teenager and realized how anti-climatic holidays are...that I wish I could go into hibernation on Nov 1st, and not come out until January 6th or so..

And I had good/ OK Christmases as a kid..
But even my late husband, and the guy before him thought it was all overdone/ over blown...and *they* had good Christmases as a kid too..

I wonbder how much of that is to get a Christmas gift...or have someone to show up at parties and family functions with?
Myself, I wouldn't have the nerve.

And, anyway, presumedly my family and co-workers would know I am alone/ not dating anyone, so..what would be the point?

There are times and places that sometimes take me back to lost loved ones. Sometimes it is something I see or hear. Or dates that put me in a somber mood because of what happened on those dates.

The holidays are festive but at the same time you take some time to reflect in private about the ones you love who are no longer here. The ones you used to celebrate with.

I think this is a part of life.

I agree with this wholeheartedly !!

It's not a holiday season for everyone. As a matter of fact, I think it only is for Americans?
We do have St Maarten celebration tomorrow evening in parts of the country, but that's not considered holiday season.
Then we have St Nicolas (Sinterklaas) on Dec 5th, and although it's a big thing for families with young kids especially as it's when they get their pressies (Christmas pressies is not our tradition), I wouldn't consider that holiday season either.
So it'd be Christmas and Old & New, which is more than a month away still.

Energetically there's a lot going on. Tomorrow we have the 11-11 portal, which this year is a 11-11-11 portal: 3 master numbers. (2018= 2+0+1+8=11)
Incredible high energies coming in and this is building up a few days prior to 11-11.

A few days ago there was a new moon that was quite intense for some people.
Apart from that, Venus is still retrograde, and although much gentler now she's in Libra, she's still retrograde.
October it was worse, then Venus was Retro in Scorpio. Many people were seriously affected by this, I was as well. The entire month of October was pretty chit. Feeling tired, increased physical problems, feeling out of sorts in general. I am glad it's over.

One lives in hope that the full moon later on this month is going to be gentle, hihi. We deserve a break after that crappy October month!

A few years ago I was reading (researching) the winter blues and there are a lot of published papers on the subject.
In essence, there are a few things that are common to the observations I have read:
1: Shorter days - Not only are the daylight hours waning, our biological clocks get skewed from daylight savings.
2: Colder weather - colder weather causes a change in our activities. Not only are we dressed differently, we have changed our activities so they are more indoors than in the summer.
3: Health issues - there are more colds and flu during this time of year. It effects our thriving quotient and people tend to 'feel' under the weather more than usual. Plus, as we age, the cold affects our 'bones' more and those aches and pains seen stronger.
4: Holiday blues - holidays tend to cause us to have a longing for old friends and family. As the holidays approach, this longing gets stronger.
We start reminiscing and pining for the past.
5: Stress - the holiday season cause many stress factors. Whether it be in preparing for holiday activities or preparing for a higher workload or getting the most done for the year end reports, we all have more stress.
On top of all that stress add the stress of being alone during this time of year and it gets overwhelming sometimes.

Personally, I wouldn't worry too much about it.
It happens every year and some years its better than others.
So you get teary-eyed, lots of people do.

Some Sources:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evidence-based-living/201712/what-we-know-about-the-holiday-blues

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/winter-blues-sad/

http://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/your-best-weapons-against-the-winter-blues.aspx

http://psychcentral.com/lib/beating-the-holiday-blues/

http://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?contenttypeid=1&contentid=2094

Personally I miss having big get-togethers on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Without much immediate family, all I can do is invite people over to my place. Unfortunately, I've never been in a position where I can do that. I'm one of those people that likes to play the host. So it's a double-edged sword for me.

But I'm not sure what the holidays have to do with a song Calista listens to all the time.

Plus, where Calista is, they don't celebrate Thanksgiving. I don't recall the local holidays well enough to know if they are even a factor.

Based on that, I assumed that "season" meant change of weather. Given her proximity to the equator, the length of the days shouldn't really change much. But the weather patterns can.

Then again, I don't even start thinking about Christmas until December. I know I'm far from typical in that regard nowadays.