Changed last name. I got married when I was 41. I had my name legally changed to my husband's and regret it. I was married 4 years. It was difficult, but I got my birth name back to me. I'm happy. has this happened to anyone.

Happy to hear that you got your name back.
No that didn't happen to me... But I was adopted when starting school
to a foreign name for my country. So I was always treated as a lesser human being bullied.
Today I'm so happy that I was because it made me stronger...

Mine was not difficult to change.

Congrats on your name change, Cat!

I kept my married name because I wanted it to match my daughter's name. After she is grown and married, I don't know what I'll do. When I divorced I was thinking I would eventually get married again. As time goes by marriage becomes less appealing.

Congratulations Cat on achieving that. It seems you may have had a hard time after getting married at 14 for it to only last 4 years. I guess having your husbands name for so long may have been a burden for you and to have that lifted must make you feel very happy to be your young self again.

You'll always going to be beautiful Cat to me
Regardless

Normally when you get a divorce if you request it at that time they will change it and give you your maiden name back at that time...

My attorney asked me if I wanted to keep my married name or take my maiden name back at that time.. I choose to keep my married last name due to I did not want my last name different then my kids.. And well heck it was a lot easier to pronounce.. lol

I have had to change my name a few times and the last time
I did the lady told me she wished everyone did what I did
because it happened so fast with what I sent them.

I sent them copies of my old Social Security cards (which I
had kept against advice from the SS Admin.) so they could see
the name changes from the original maiden name.

So if ever I chose to return to my maiden name I think twould
be very easy, though I have heard stories that it takes forever
to prove everything again.

I've known people that went/go through something similar.

I dated a girl that was adopted when she was older, in her teens, and she kept her name, but felt bad after her "parents" died that she didn't share their name or take their name while they were alive, to feel close or whatever to them, she felt that it kept her apart from the family.

I knew a guy with a stepfather who regretted not taking the guys last name after his mom remarried to his stepdad, growing to consider the step dad his "father."

And I knew a women that absolutely hated her ex, and the last name she took, but she kept it because she didn't want to have a different last name than her children.

Hi cat, happy to hear you got your maiden name back.

I had a wonderful relationship with my late husband so it has never occurred to me to change back my name. It is much easier to spell and pronounce than my birth last name lol.

My dad had 2 middle names. He didn't like his name so he legally had his first name and first middle name switched. Don't know how hard it was to do that. I never had a name change but my ex had no trouble changing mine. I was called by my first name, honey, baby, sweetie but after the trouble started those names she changed them to mister, hey you, idiot and moron.

Just so aussieguy knows, and everyone, I did not get married when I was 14. The one and only time I got married was when I was 41. I'm divorced and happy to to have my maiden back because I like it.

Ain't that the truth

As part of a divorce settlement,
a woman can petition (ask) the court
to be restored to former (maiden) name.



But, congrats!

Hi cat... first marriage i kept the name due to the children. But when they were in college i remarried. on that divorce, i just asked the judge for my maiden name back and got it... divorce, protection order and maiden name all in one page. :)

My apologies Cat, I must have misread your post.

Huh? It's difficult to get your name back? How weird, as you never lose your own name, that's the only one you will always keep. In a way the name from a husband is just 'borrowed'.
Meaning when you divorce you automatically go back to your maiden name.
I remember I kept using my married name for a bit, it was just odd to go back to my own name after 11 years and I liked his name much better, hihi.
But to be honest, I'm not sure if you even can legally keep using an ex' name. It's simply not yours to keep when divorced.

It never legally becomes yours, your own maiden name is always registered on official things, like a diploma. Meaning a diploma is ALWAYS on your maiden name, thank goodness, otherwise it wouldn't be valid anymore after divorce!
Passport will have both names, never just married name.

Guess things are somewhat different over here.

Congratulations Cat!

I didn't have difficulty after the divorce since I did it right away. Doing so later can be more challenging.

I did however change my entire name back in 2001 (first, middle, and last). That was quite an ordeal and because I did so while I was married, I had to have my husbands permission to change my name, lol

Glad it worked out for you and that you're happy

Congats cat. When i got divroced the judge gavd me and my ex a chance to change our names.

I asked if the offer was for first names too? He said yes.

Legally changing your name, you have to use your social security number. I guess it's easy for a woman getting married and taking her husband's name. It wasn't that easy getting my maiden back. I had to find my original birth certificate, which was a little difficult, but I have it. I have to contact a social security office in person or through mail, and the office is 150 miles away. It seemed a long time, but about 1 1/2 months.